Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 WELCOME TO THURSDAY’S CHAPEL LESSON

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 CHAPEL LESSON BEHAVIOUR GUIDELINES Prayer time: All to remain quiet. Teaching time: Listen quietly, if you have something to discuss, it has to be the topic we’re sharing with you (do it quietly).

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 CHAPEL OF THE HOLY SPIRIT LOCATION: ST PETER’S CHURCH (SERANGOON GARDENS) SATURDAY YOUTH SERVICE 5.45pm to 7.15pm SUNDAY MAIN FAMILY SERVICE 11.15am to 1.00pm

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Sing, shout, clap your hands Give praise unto your Maker Make a joyful noise unto the Lord Sing, shout, clap your hands Give praise unto your Maker For the Lord He is Almighty God

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 This is the day of celebration This is the day to rejoice, rejoice The Lord our God is our deliverer So let’s just praise His name

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5

Dating: Part 1

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Before You Start… Understanding Relationships Relationships usually develop in 3 stages Stage one – ‘Anyone is my friend’ stage – this is a stage where we play with anyone regardless of whether they are boys or girls. at this stage a friend is just a friend and not a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Stage two – ‘gang’ stage – this is a stage where good friends are usually of the same sex we are more aware of the differences in opposite sex but are not quite interested. Girls will find boys childish or rough. Boys will find girls too gigglish or sensitive Common words used on opposite sex: disgusting, boastful, talks too much, dumb, unfriendly, selfish, bossy, childish, boring, lame…

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Stage three – ‘aware of the members of the opposite sex’ stage – this is a stage where we begin to develop interest in opposite sex. What used to be disgusting is now interesting. Common words used on opposite sex: cute, interesting, nice, intelligent, easy to talk to, helpful, fun, cool, attractive… We begin to develop self- consciousness on our appearance, behavior, being cool and in.

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Falling in Love… How do you fall in love? For most people at this age, we judge by what we see, the external appearance. Is ‘love by sight’ true love? 2 kinds of love – ‘real love’ and ‘puppy love’ also called infatuation or ‘having a crush’

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Infatuation, Crushes and Puppy Love Puppy Love Instant love/liking – happens quickly It involves mainly physical attraction – e.g like the way she/he smiles, cute…. It involves a lot of your emotions – your heart always beats faster when that person is around. You feel all sort of funny inside thinking of him/her. You want to see him/her every day. Happens quickly and it will die off quickly the moment your heart goes for another cute girl.

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Real Love… (not just a feeling) This takes time to develop – it usually grows out of a good friendship and it involves more than physical attraction – character beauty. You grow to respect, know and understand each other. Real love is not just feelings. Real love is commitment even though there could be tension and lack of feeling at that moment. Real love will stand the test of time because it’s not self-centered and it works at caring for the other person. Real love is a long-term commitment that leads towards marriage and starting a family.

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Help! I think I’m in Love… How do you handle falling in love? It is common that you will ‘fall in love’ more than once especially if your interaction with members of the opposite sex is often and many. Remember that it’s ‘having a crush’ and not real love. It’s part of growing up, so there’s no need to get all excited, stressed or frightened.

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Then what do I do? It’s common that you’ll think about that person often Maintain a healthy friendship if you already know the person Don’t jump into courtship; calling her everyday, write s, buy gifts often expensive gifts, dwell on thinking about the person, excessive talking with a friend about that person…etc Don’t allow yourself to have mood swings or daydreaming or admiring that person from a distance. ‘Suffer’ for a while and you’ll find the fire will die down Channel your energies into activities with other friends or do sports.

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 I think she’s got a crush on me! What do you do? Being ‘loved’ by someone will make us feel good about ourselves. Be careful that we don’t get proud. Don’t encourage them by going out one on one, you will only add oil to fire. Be convinced in your heart that this is not the right age to fall in love

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 Help each other to grow… Be polite and firm in saying ‘no’ regardless of what your heart might be feeling or how many gifts/nice gestures that person is pouring on you. This is the age to enjoy friendships not love relationships. Go out in groups and do things together as a group of friends. If they pester or stalk you, seek help from someone older.

Year Three Term 2 Lesson 5 NEXT WEEK! When to Date * Setting Your Boundaries in Dating * God Says… * Excuse me, but…