Self Esteem and Your Athletes By Joe Richer, CAA WIAA Coaches School Yakima, Wa. 2011

The camaraderie of teamwork.

Listen

Listening “Being listened to is so close to being loved that some people cannot tell the difference”. David Oxford

“Coaching is a profession of love. You can’t coach people unless you love them.” Eddie Robinson Grambling University 400+ Wins

Coach/Role Model “Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear what you are saying.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.” Aristotle

Nathaniel Branden “How we feel about ourselves crucially affects virtually every aspect of our experience, from the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to the way we operate as parents, to how high in life we are likely to rise.” “I cannot think of a single psychological problem that is not traceable to a poor self- concept.”

Nathaniel Braden Six Pillars of Self Esteem

“The Man in the Glass!!”

Self Esteem What it’s not! – It’s not a sometime thing, it’s all the time. – It’s not bragging (Today’s peacock, curl in the tail) – It’s not an illusion or an hallucination – It is not the euphoria or buoyancy that may be temporarily induced by a drug, a compliment or a love affair – It is not empty praise that bears no relationship to the athletes actual accomplishments.

Self Esteem What it’s not: (cont) - It is not being good looking, wealthy, or having many friends. Many of these people cannot get through a single day without drugs. - It is not 12 hugs a day at school. Kid still has to go home. Gets a false sense. - Nothing bothers you if you have high self esteem.

1900 – 90% of grandchildren lived with or in the neighborhood of grandparents 1940 – 70% Today – Less than 10% The “Gran Torino” granddaughter.

SELF ESTEEM What is it? 80% 1 st Grade 20% 5 th Grade 5% Seniors

Genevieve Karen Richer!?

Peta Lyn Eriksen

Self Concept and Self Esteem SELF CONCEPT Coach Teacher Parent Church member Relationships Athlete Spouse SELF ESTEEM Global definition of all self concepts

DEFINITION “the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with life’s challenges and being worthy of happiness.” Nathaniel Branden

The thrill of victory!

You lose.

Laughing

Poker Chip Theory Relationships Classroom Athletic Venue

Holistic Model of Self Esteem Thought Intuition Imagination Body Emotions The Will Higher Self

Thoughts 50,000 Thoughts a Day Do you talk to yourself? Negative thought patterns must be changed Affirmations Don’t Burying “Can’t”

The Body Self Acceptance Mirror Exercise “Whatever my defects or imperfections, I accept myself unreservedly and completely.” (Accepting does not mean liking-a fact is a fact).

“As a man thinketh, so is he.” Bible “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” Henry Ford

Kineseology Exercise Lee Iacoca story

The Skyscraper Fantasy

False Experiences Appearing Real

E + R = O Lemons/Lemonade Martha Stewart Amputees Jesse Owens

GOAL SETTING Conceivable Believable Achievable Controlable Measureable Desirable Stated with No Alternative Growth Facilitating

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