 Courage More than bravado or bluster, one must have the courage of the heart necessary to undertake tasks that are difficult, tedious or unglamorous, and to graciously accept the sacrifices involved.  Justice One should hold him or herself to the highest standard of behavior, and knows that “fudging” on the little rules weakens the fabric of society for everyone. Rules apply to everyone!

 Mercy Words and attitudes can be painful weapons in the modern world, which is why one should exercise mercy in his or her dealings with others, creating a sense of peace and community, rather than engendering hostility and antagonism.

 Generosity Sharing what’s valuable in life means not just giving away material goods, but also time, attention, wisdom and energy — the things that create a strong, rich and diverse community.  Faith In the code of chivalry, “faith” means trust and integrity, and a knight in shining armor is always faithful to his or her promises, no matter how big or small they may be.

 Nobility Although this word is sometimes confused with “entitlement” or “snobbishness,” the code of chivalry conveys the importance of upholding one’s convictions at all times, especially when no one else is watching.  Hope More than just a safety net in times of tragedy, hope is present every day in one’s positive outlook and cheerful demeanor — the shining armor that shields him or her, and inspires people around them.

 This relationship was modeled on the feudal relationship between a knight and his liege lord.  The knight serves his courtly lady with the same obedience and loyalty which he owes to his liege lord.  She is in complete control; he owes her obedience and submission

The knight's love for the lady inspires him to do great deeds, in order to be worthy of her love or to win her favor.

 “Courtly love" was not between husband and wife because it was an idealized sort of relationship that could not exist within the context of "real life" medieval marriages.  In the middle ages, marriages amongst the nobility were typically based on practical and political concerns rather than on love.

 “Courtly love" provided a model of behavior for a class of unmarried young men who might otherwise have threatened social stability.  Knights were typically younger brothers without land of their own (hence unable to support a wife).  They became members of the household of the feudal lords whom they served.

The lady is typically older, married, and of higher social status than the knight because she was modeled on the wife of the feudal lord, who might naturally become the focus of the young, unmarried knights' desire.

The literary model of courtly love may have been invented to provide young men with a model for appropriate behavior. It taught them to sublimate their desires and to channel their energy into socially useful behavior (love service rather than wandering around the countryside, stealing or getting into trouble.)

The "symptoms" of love were described as as if it were a sickness: “Every lover regularly turns pale in the presence of his beloved.” The "lovesick" knight’s typical symptoms: sighing, turning pale, turning red, fever, inability to sleep, eat or drink.

 Like Chivalry, Courtly Love also had its own set of rules, which include:  A true lover does not desire to embrace in love anyone except his beloved  When made public, love rarely endures  New love puts flight to an old one  A true lover considers nothing good except what he thinks will please his beloved  No one should be deprived of love without the very best of reasons  A true lover does not desire to embrace in love anyone except his beloved.

 With a partner, devise ten rules each for Modern Love and Modern Chivalry