Habit 4 Think Win- Win Courtney Jurek and Brandi Persutti

Personal Victory  FIRST THING TO KNOW…THIS IS NOT SELFISH!!  This is the first step to habit 4 and if you fail to do this, then the habit will not be successful.  The first three habits lead up to this.  Before you and the other person celebrate the victory, you have to celebrate within yourself

The Totem-Pole Win- Lose  Being at the top of a Totem-Pole means that you are on top, or more advanced to others.  Always like a competition, where you try to win, making the other side of the argument lose.  Will always end up bringing people down  Becoming jealous and envious when something good happens to someone else  In the end this always backfires

The Doormat Lose- Win  Being a doormat means you take blame  It doesn’t have to be your fault  Seems right in the moment  Letting others walk over you  Its never right in the end  Like controlling  You're having people step over you like your nothing

Downward Spiral Lose- Lose  You both lose  You’re being a follower, not a leader(Peer pressure)  If one goes down, the other goes down with them(Domino Effect)  Loss in relationships  You may think you win, but you really lose  Everyone in the situation falls

All You Can Eat Buffet Win- Win  THIS IS THE BEST SOLUTION!!  Everyone wins  Lots of success to go around  When you have this occur in your life, both sides are happy  Everyone is treated the same  You may have to cut something in half, but in the end its worth it!

Avoiding The Tumor Twins  Competing with others in an unhealthy way  Competing in a way in which you make yourself have more self-worth than someone else.  Comparing yourself to others  Comparing in physical, mental, and social ways. We’re all different, however no one is better than someone else.

No Deal  In some situations, there wont be a solution.  No one will win anything  Examples: Relationships breaking up Hanging out with your friends Cannot make a date…Move it

Baby Steps  1.Pinpoint the area in which you may be struggling with comparisons the most.  2.If you're an athlete, always show good sportsmanship.  3.If someone may owe you money, or forgot to give you something back, mention it in a friendly approach.  4.Without caring whether or not you win or lose, play a game with others just for fun!  5.Form a study group to share new ideas to prepare for any upcoming tests. You'll do better  6.The next time something good happens to someone you're close with, be happy for them too instead of feeling threatened  7.Think about your general attitude towards life, is it based on Win-Win, Lose-Win, Win-Lose or Lose-Lose thinking? How is this affecting you?  8.Think of a person who you feel is a model of Win-Win. What is it about this person that you admire.  9.If you're in a Lose-Win relationship with someone, then decide what may have to happen to Win, or to go for No Deal and get out of the relationship