November 8, 2012 Lloyd Rath

Failing to distinguish one kind of domestic violence from another can:  Endanger victims of ongoing violence  Result in inappropriate response by law enforcement, prosecutors and the court, advocates and counselors  Embolden perpetrators

 INTENT in offender’s use of violence  MEANING of the violence to the victim  EFFECT of acts on the victim  How this incident fits with previous patterns of behavior

 Battering  Resistive/Reactive violence  Situational violence  Pathological violence  Anti-social violence

 Uses abusive tactics to intimidate or threaten a victim into compliance  Based upon entitlement  Often “triggered” by victim’s attempts to assert independence or disagree with perpetrator  Violence escalates in severity and frequency

 Perpetrator is reacting to violence or intimidation used against him/her  Violence is self-defense (non-criminal)  Violence may be retaliatory or designed to go “toe-to-toe” with the abuser (criminal)

 Use of violence is atypical  Other abusive tactics are not being used  Violence does not cause substantial or great bodily harm  Violence is not in response to ongoing abuse against the perpetrator

 Abuse of alcohol or drugs  Psychological problems and personality disorders  Depression **Will see violence in all aspects of their life

 No regard for social norms  Uses violence in many relationships – private and public  Has poor communication and problem solving tools  Reckless disregard for the safety of others **Will see violence in all aspect of their life

 A program must have ◦ Victim safety ◦ Offender accountability

 Superior in charge/Head of household  Make the person an object or something other/Name calling  Selfish – their gain, someone else’s loss  Little or no consequences

5. Drunk 4. Stress 3. Good intentions 2. Lost control 1. Provoked me

 Identify goals to reach non-violent lifestyle  Identify abusive behaviors and their patterns of abuse  Explore the intents of abusive behavior and the belief system that supports those behaviors

 Danger/Fear  Public disclosure  Economic security  Lack of legal consequences  Shattered self esteem  The Children  No support  Loves their partner  Religious beliefs  Believes the violence is their fault  Hopes for change

 Use of weapons  Escalation in frequency or severity  Stalking  Homicide or suicide threats  Use of alcohol or drugs  Strangulation  Recent separation in relationship  Criminal history

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