1 Right Here Right Now Watch the video "Right Here Right Now". We will discuss your observations: 1.In the Video, how are the people interacting with each other 2.How do you interact with the people around yourself 3.Your understanding about Trust 30 Minute (Full) 10 Minute Version

2 Discussion

3 Is Excitement = Happiness? Is Irritation/Anger = Unhappiness? Avesh = Sukh? Is Desire = Intention? Intention = Desires based on NA Desires not based on NA, i.e. Desires based on PC/S neq Intention

4 Conduct depends on the conduct of the other Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan) Reaction (Pratikriya)

5 Response – Reaction

6 Depending on the behaviour (competence) of the other you conclude about his intention You assume that the other intends to behave the way he is behaving Your conduct depends on the conduct of the other: –You return the same behaviour or –You accumulate the feeling, then pass it on to a third person Your “remote control” is in the hands of the other Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan) Reaction (Pratikriya) Assumptions (Manyata) Feelings (Bhav)? Conduct (Acharan)? Assumptions (Manyata) Feelings (Bhav)? Conduct (Acharan)? +++ +

7 Reaction

8 Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance 1a. I want to make myself happy 2a. I want to make the other happy 3a. The other wants to make herself/himself happy 4a. The other wants to make me happy Verify on the basis of your competence 1b. I am able to make myself always happy 2b. I am able to make the others always happy 3b. The other is able to make herself/himself always happy 4b. The other is able to make me always happy Trust Natural Acceptance, ie Intention What we really want to be Competence What we are √ ? ? ? ?? √ √ Trust on Intention = To be Assured = to have the clarity that the other intends to make me happy & prosperous = nwljk esjs lq[k] le`f) ds vFkZ esa gS],slk Li’V gksuk When there is Trust on Intention, you feel related to the other Absence of Trust on Intention = lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness & prosperity Lack of Trust on Intention leads to Doubt, Fear, Opposition… √ ?

9 Response (Jimmedari) You rightly evaluate the state (intention & competence) of the other - the other is uncomfortable/excited -The other is reacting due to lack of competence Your conduct is based on Right Understanding and Right Feeling in yourself - it is assuring for the other Your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of the other Definite conduct (nischit acharan) Right Understanding (Sahi Samajh) Right Feelings (Sahi Bhav) Definite Conduct (Nischit Acharan) Right Understanding (Sahi Samajh) Right Feelings (Sahi Bhav) Definite Conduct (Nischit Acharan) - +

10 Depending on the behaviour (competence) of the other you conclude about his intention Your conduct depends on the conduct of the other: –You return the same behaviour or –You accumulate the feeling, then pass it on to a third person Your “remote control” is in the hands of the other Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan) Reaction (Pratikriya)Response (Jimmedari) You rightly evaluate the state (intention & competence) of the other - the other is uncomfortable/excited -The other is reacting due to lack of competence Your conduct is based on Right Understanding and Right Feeling in yourself -it is assuring for the other Your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of the other Definite conduct (nischit acharan)

11 If we do not have trust on intention, we have a feeling of dominating, opposing the other In case the other is lacking in competence, we react & show irritation or anger; even break up the relationship (Small acts of mistrust stay in the thoughts, multiply, grow; doubt, fear, oppression…; opposition ultimately leads to fighting, struggle and even war) If we have trust on intention, we feel related to the other In case the other is lacking in competence 1.We interact with perseverence and responsibility with the other, knowing that he/she may react, have uncertain conduct 2.We facilitate understanding in the other once the other is assured in relationship (and not before that) We make a program with the other based on right evaluation of each others competence Reaction (Opposition)Response (Trust)

12 Response (Jimmedari)Reaction (Pratikriya) Right Understanding (Sahi Samajh) Right Feelings (Sahi Bhav) Definite Conduct Right Understanding (Sahi Samajh) Right Feelings (Sahi Bhav) Definite Conduct - + Assumption (Manyata) Feelings (Bhav)? Indefinite Conduct Assumption (Manyata) Feelings (Bhav)? Indefinite Conduct +++ +

13 Complaints about the other What the other should do. No responsibility What is not, what is missing Over evaluation of self – Ego No effort for self development Under/otherwise evaluation of self – Depression No effort for self development Right evaluation of the other What I have to do, my responsibility in relationship and order in family, society... What is Right evaluation of self Right effort for self development Reaction (Pratikriya)Response (Jimmedari) In your interaction with the other, find out the % time you are responding and % time you are reacting

14 Our Assumption about the Other Indulgence (Bhog) Abstinence (Tyag) Right Utilisation (Sadupyog) Use is primarily for getting sensation / taste (aswadan) Minimise usage of physical facility Use based on purpose/property (& then taste) Consumption, accum. of physical facility for sensation/taste Abstain from use of physical facility or sensation / taste Prosperity 1.Recognising need 2.Fulfillment of need Other is -Means of sensation -Means of feeling -Resource for physical facility Renunciation of relationship Other is like me -Feeling is important in the relationship Domination & exploitation of -Human being -Nature Little interaction with -Human being -Nature Enrichment of -Human being -Nature

15 Intention & Competence. Is Desire = Intention? 1. Intention ≡ Natural Acceptance e.g. To be in relationship, Trust in relationship 2. Desire/Thought/Expectation based on Natural Acceptance = Competence based on Intention e.g. To have the desire (feeling) of trust for someone e.g. To have the thought/expectation of developing PF by labour 3. Desire/Thought/Expectation not based on NA, i.e. based on PC/S = Competence not based on Intention e.g. To have the thought/expectation of deriving happiness from sensation from someone e.g. To have the thought/expectation of depriving someone of his suitcase (PF)

16 Desire based on Natural Acceptance (INTENTION) PARTANTRATASWATANTRATA Desires mostly based on Natural Acceptance (INTENTION) Force / Power Activity fØz;k 1.Realization vuqHko 2.Understanding cks/k 3.Desire bPNk Imaging fp=.k 4.Thought fopkj Analysis fo'kys"k.k 5.Expectation vk'kk Selecting/Tasting Start evaluating desire on the basis of your natural acceptance. If desire is naturally acceptable, it will become definite & continue otherwise it will slowly become corrected or drop off

17 Immediate / Short TermFulfilling Behaviour Medium TermJustice in Relationship Order in Society Long TermHuman Tradition Human Education-Sanskar Human Conduct Human Constitution Human Order

18 Trust = fn ( 1- my understanding about relationship & trust, 2- my awareness about my Natural Acceptance) Program = fn (1- right evaluation of my competence & other’s competence) I have a proactive role to play in the program & development of mutual competence Trust is definite and unchanging For more on right evaluation, see Respect Trust = fn ( 1- the competence of the other, 2- my assumption about myself, about the other) Program = fn (1- my expectation from the other) I have no role to play in the program (I am the consumer). I am good, so I do not have to work on my competence. The other is bad – he can never develop (I condemn him) Trust keeps changing Trust (Right Understanding)Misconceptions about Trust

19 I evaluate on the basis of body, physical facilities or belief (pre conditioning). I compare with others I am different from the other We are competitors: I make effort to accentuate the difference, to manipulate, exploit the other 1. Our purpose (Natural Acceptance) is similar 2. Our program is similar 3. Our potential is similar The other is similar to me We are complementary to each other: If the other has more understanding - I am committed to understand from the other If I have more understanding 1. I live with responsibility with the other 2. I am committed to facilitate understanding in the other (once the other is assured in relationship, and not before that) DifferentiationRespect – on the basis of Self (I)

20 Trust & Respect Right Evaluation (with Trust on intention, the acceptance that the other is like me & the understanding that we are complementary to each other) If I have more understanding than the other: 1.I interact with perseverence and responsibly with the other, knowing that he/she may live with reaction, uncertain conduct 2.facilitate understanding in the other once the other is assured in relationship (and not before that) If the other has more understanding than me: 1.I become ready to understand from the other From what has been covered so far, right evaluation can include:  Priority (Right Understanding, Relationship, Physical Facility)  % desires motivated by Preconditioning, Sensation, Natural Acceptance  Clarity, harmony in the Self (vs confusion…)  Trust on Intention (vs doubt, irritation…)  % response (vs reaction…)

21 Doosra pareshan kar raha hai to maan lena ki doosra pareshan karna chahta hai Conduct depends on the conduct of the other ( your “remote control” is in the hands of the other ) Doosre se bhav (vishwas, samman…) paane ka prayas: Partantrata Indefinite conduct (anischit acharan) Reaction (Pratikriya)Response (Jimmedari) Aisa dikh jana ki doosra pareshan hai, is liye pareshan kar raha hai; doosre kaisa bhi vyavhar kare, apna bhav bana rahna, doosre ko aaram dene ka, aur yogyata badhane ka dhariyapurvak prayas Conduct is based on Right Understanding and Right Feelings in the Self (your conduct is not controlled by the conduct of the other) Apne mein samajh ke adhar par bhav (vishwas, samman…) sunischit karna: Swtantrata Definite conduct (nischit acharan)

22 Situation 1 A abuses / misbehaves with B Reaction from B / Response from B

23 Evaluation = fn (Other’s beh.) A wants to disrespect / trouble me Feelings = fn (My Understanding) Unclear or unaware of own feeling (of opposition for A) Selection/Beh= fn (My Und) Abuses / Hits A or accumulates his frustration Later, the accumulated frustration is vented out on A or on a third person A is frustrated A is unable to find an alternative A does not have the capability B is clear that Trust, Respect is Naturally Acceptable in Relationship Tries to make A comfortable (Without blaming A) Takes responsibility to help develop A’s capability (right understanding) - by himself - through third person Reaction (Pratikriya)Response (Jimmedari)

24 Situation 2 A praises B Reaction from B / Response from B

25 A wants something from me Unclear or unaware of own feeling Praises A in return or accumulates his excitement Later, the accumulated excitement is transferred on to a third person A is excited A is unable to find an alternative A does not have the capability B is clear that Trust, Respect is Naturally Acceptable in Relationship Tries to calm A (Without over- evaluating) Takes responsibility to develop A’s capability (right understanding) - by himself - through third person Reaction (Pratikriya)Response (Jimmedari)

26 Sensation Incidents Reaction Uncertain Realisation Harmony under which incident is taking place Response Certain Animal ConsciousnessHuman Consciousness

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30 ReactionResponse Other’s IntentionDoubtNo doubt on intention (Trust) Other’s Competence Right evaluation Other’s stateAssumptions (unhappy) Unhappy Other’s behaviourWants to make me unhappy Is expressing his own unhappiness. Lack of competence My IntentionUnawareClarity that I want to be happy & make others happy My competenceOver evaluationRight evaluation My behaviourCondemn the otherFacilitate the other My stateAssumptions (unhappy), Opposition Right Understanding & right feelings (happy) Impact on the other Even more unhappy, multiplying problem Less unhappy, developing competence