The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Sharpen the Saw Synergize Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood Think Win-Win Put First Things First Begin with the End in Mind Be Proactive

Habit 1: Be Proactive – A review Be Proactive is the key to unlocking all the other habits I am the force I am the force I am the captain of my life I am the captain of my life I can choose my attitude I can choose my attitude I am responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness I am responsible for my own happiness or unhappiness

Proactive or Reactive… the Choice is Yours Imagine this: Share a can of Coca- Cola and then open it Pressure built up, explode Imagine this: Share a can of Coca- Cola and then open it Pressure built up, explode Imagine if it is only water No fizzing, no bubbling calm, in control Imagine if it is only water No fizzing, no bubbling calm, in control

See your setbacks as opportunities to grow

Becoming a Change Agent Any bad habits are you ‘inherited’ from your parents? Foul language? Smoking? Gambling? Any bad habits are you ‘inherited’ from your parents? Foul language? Smoking? Gambling? The good news is that you can stop the cycle The good news is that you can stop the cycle You can become a ‘Change Agent’ and pass on good habits to future generations. You can become a ‘Change Agent’ and pass on good habits to future generations.

The Fate of Man Fook

Growing your Proactive Muscles I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It is not my fault. It takes forever to find my way out. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It is not my fault. It takes forever to find my way out. By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive Muscles I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive Muscles I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall in…It’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there. I still fall in…It’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately. By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive Muscles I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. By Portia Nelson

Growing your Proactive Muscles I walk down another street. I walk down another street. By Portia Nelson

Can-do Attitude CAN-DO PEOPLENO-CAN-DO PEOPLE Take initiative to make it happen Wait for something to happen to them Think about solutions and options Think about problems and barriers ActAre acted upon

Characteristics of Can-do Attitude Courageous Courageous Persistent Persistent Smart Smart Creative Creative Enterprising Enterprising Extremely resourceful Extremely resourceful

Characteristics of Can-do Attitude ‘People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.’ ‘People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them.’ George Bernard Shaw

The story of Denise I know it’s strange for a teenager to want to work in a library, but I really wanted that job – more than I had ever wanted anything, but they weren’t hiring. I know it’s strange for a teenager to want to work in a library, but I really wanted that job – more than I had ever wanted anything, but they weren’t hiring.

The story of Denise I would go to the library every day and read, hang out with my friends, and just get away from home – what better place to work than someplace I already hung out at? I would go to the library every day and read, hang out with my friends, and just get away from home – what better place to work than someplace I already hung out at?

The story of Denise Although I didn’t have a job there, I got to know the office staff, and I volunteered for special events and pretty soon I was one of the regulars. Although I didn’t have a job there, I got to know the office staff, and I volunteered for special events and pretty soon I was one of the regulars.

The story of Denise It paid off. When they finally had an opening, I was their first choice, and I found one of the best jobs I ever had. It paid off. When they finally had an opening, I was their first choice, and I found one of the best jobs I ever had.

Just push pause Whenever we are faced with a situation that has a tendency to upset us, it is important to stop and think (Push Pause) Whenever we are faced with a situation that has a tendency to upset us, it is important to stop and think (Push Pause) If we are reactive – we tend to blow up and make things worse If we are reactive – we tend to blow up and make things worse

Self-Awareness I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions I can think about what I am doing and what I should be doing I can think about what I am doing and what I should be doing

Self-Awareness I have been mean to mom because she bugs me about my grades. -> I have been mean to mom because she bugs me about my grades. -> My grades are bad because I have been staying up late talking to friends. -> My grades are bad because I have been staying up late talking to friends. -> I have been talking to friends because I want to have a connection with people. -> I have been talking to friends because I want to have a connection with people. -> …… ……

Imagination I can envision new possibilities I can envision new possibilities We can actually look into the future and imagine what can happen. We can actually look into the future and imagine what can happen. Imagination helps us create goals Imagination helps us create goals

Imagination What happens when I react poorly? Demerit? Expel? In jail? Unemployed? What happens when I react poorly? Demerit? Expel? In jail? Unemployed? What happens when I react appropriately? Appreciation from teachers? Get a job? Promotion? What happens when I react appropriately? Appreciation from teachers? Get a job? Promotion?

Conscience I can listen to my inner voice and know right from wrong I can listen to my inner voice and know right from wrong

Conscience You know its wrong to hit, kick, steal, take drugs, not doing your school work. You know its wrong to hit, kick, steal, take drugs, not doing your school work. You know its right to help, be respectful, be kind, be honest, do your school work You know its right to help, be respectful, be kind, be honest, do your school work

Willpower We have the power to choose We have the power to choose We don’t have to react We don’t have to react We can choose to do right or wrong We can choose to do right or wrong

Be Proactive – A summary Fight against the Victimitis Virus Fight against the Victimitis Virus Knowing that what you can control is your Attitude ONLY Knowing that what you can control is your Attitude ONLY Be a Change Agent to stop bad habit cycle Be a Change Agent to stop bad habit cycle Build up Can-Do attitude Build up Can-Do attitude Push Pause and use the power tools Push Pause and use the power tools

Reflection Use your power tools to handle the following case. You receive a grade from teacher that you think is unfair. Push pause and use your power tools.