Self Care: Care for the Caregiver Mary T. O’Neill, BCC, D.Min Catholic Health Services of Long Island, NY October 13, 2010.

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Self Care: Care for the Caregiver Mary T. O’Neill, BCC, D.Min Catholic Health Services of Long Island, NY October 13, 2010

Self Care of the Caregiver Good intentions Good intentions Good preaching Good preaching Are we convinced on the need for self care? Are we convinced on the need for self care?

What stress does to us Tensions of life Tensions of life Eu-stress Eu-stress Distress - Distress -

Reactions to stressors Fight or flee - a biological response Fight or flee - a biological response Adrenalin produced for flight or fight Adrenalin produced for flight or fight When not used, where does it go? When not used, where does it go?

REACTION Increased heart rt faster breathing Digestion stops ORIGINAL NEED To pump blood faster Provide more oxygen -divert blood to legs LONG TERM - high BP - Chest pain from tired diaphragm - -ulcers -blood leaves head, hands, feet -increased coag of blood -release extra sugars into bl and insulin to break down bl Divert bl to large muscles -minimize blood loss -More energy Cold hands, feet, migraines/headache -increased risk of clots, stroke -when blood is low we feel tired.

Listen to your body Listen to messages you give your body: Listen to messages you give your body: Take moment to pay attention now Take moment to pay attention now Where are stressors? Tightness? Pain? Where are stressors? Tightness? Pain? Stiffness? Joint ache? Discomfort? Stiffness? Joint ache? Discomfort? What might the message be? What might the message be?

Most of us do not like our bodies Most of us do not like our bodies We want to be like someone else We want to be like someone else Too tall, too short, too……. Too tall, too short, too…….

Use our bodies as metaphors for inner stresses Pain in the neck Pain in the neck Long face Long face Blow my mind Blow my mind Get nose out of joint Get nose out of joint Pay through the nose Pay through the nose Hair-raising experience Hair-raising experience Go to jugular Go to jugular Pain in the rear Pain in the rear

Balance We want our outer and inner selves to be in harmony We want our outer and inner selves to be in harmony Paul Tillich: Dialectic of Life Processes Paul Tillich: Dialectic of Life Processes Life is a continual dialogue of Life is a continual dialogue of DISCOVERY & DISCLOSURE DISCOVERY & DISCLOSURE

We can do no great things, Only small things Only small things With great love, With great love, For we are not here For we are not here To save the world, To save the world, But only to serve it. But only to serve it. Mother Teresa Mother Teresa

LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR ASYOURSELF LOVE YOURSELF AS YOU LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR.

GOOD CAREGIVING OF OTHERS DEMANDS GOOD CAREGIVING OF SELF

Everyone is a house with four rooms, Everyone is a house with four rooms,Mind,body,SpiritEmotion. And unless we go into each room, each day, Even if just to keep it aired, We are not a whole person. Gooden

12 Self Care Steps Making balance Making balance an integral part of your personal and professional life

1. Conscious Centering Centering helps ensure that you are in the receptive and balanced state needed to be fully present Centering helps ensure that you are in the receptive and balanced state needed to be fully present Helps create a peaceful atmosphere Helps create a peaceful atmosphere Dwell in the present moment, releasing all thoughts and concerns about the past as well as releasing projections into the future. Dwell in the present moment, releasing all thoughts and concerns about the past as well as releasing projections into the future.

Conscious contracting of the muscles of the face, neck, body, and releasing with an exhale. Follow your breath Conscious contracting of the muscles of the face, neck, body, and releasing with an exhale. Follow your breath Meditation relaxes body, calms mind and centers – gets beyond the “thinking” mind into a deeper awareness. Meditation relaxes body, calms mind and centers – gets beyond the “thinking” mind into a deeper awareness. find place find place breathe deeply and rhythmically breathe deeply and rhythmically focus on breath, instead of thoughts focus on breath, instead of thoughts with distractions, continue to return to breathing with distractions, continue to return to breathing Choose a mantra/word/phrase to occupy your mind.

2. Establish healthy boundaries Boundaries – appropriate emotional and physical distance that you maintain between yourself and another so that you do not become overly enmeshed, dependent or co-dependent. This is your responsibility, not your client/patient/family member. Boundaries – appropriate emotional and physical distance that you maintain between yourself and another so that you do not become overly enmeshed, dependent or co-dependent. This is your responsibility, not your client/patient/family member. Avoid being overly flexible or overly rigid. Avoid being overly flexible or overly rigid. Healthy boundaries create healthy lifestyle Healthy boundaries create healthy lifestyle Unhealthy boundaries create dysfunction and depletion Unhealthy boundaries create dysfunction and depletion

3. The power of prevention Plan and review your day. Plan and review your day. Make time for rest, food, and sufficient sleep, Make time for rest, food, and sufficient sleep, Keep positive perspective Keep positive perspective Lack of sleep makes you less productive, less mentally sharp, and more prone to the effects of stress. Lack of sleep makes you less productive, less mentally sharp, and more prone to the effects of stress.

4. Restorative exercise Physical exercise – yoga, stretching, etc Physical exercise – yoga, stretching, etc Stay hydrated-muscles 70% water; brain 80% Stay hydrated-muscles 70% water; brain 80% Choose activities you love that provide exercise. Choose activities you love that provide exercise.

5. Body Mechanics “It’s easier to prevent bad habits than to break them.” Ben Franklin “It’s easier to prevent bad habits than to break them.” Ben Franklin Cultivate healthy habit of being mindful of your body mechanics at all times. Cultivate healthy habit of being mindful of your body mechanics at all times. Let your energy come from your core, rather than from muscular effort. Let your energy come from your core, rather than from muscular effort. Notice position of your head as you work on computer or at desk, or watch TV Notice position of your head as you work on computer or at desk, or watch TV

6. Clear communication Communication skills have to be developed, honed, nurtured and added to on an ongoing basis. Communication skills have to be developed, honed, nurtured and added to on an ongoing basis. Language is one of the most powerful reflections of how we think and feel about ourselves and others. Language is one of the most powerful reflections of how we think and feel about ourselves and others. Know your assumptions, your attitudes, your values. Know your assumptions, your attitudes, your values.

7. Mindfulness Mindfulness helps develop a calm concentration through non judgmental awareness. Mindfulness helps develop a calm concentration through non judgmental awareness. -allows you to be in many situations and maintain sense of equanimity. -allows you to be in many situations and maintain sense of equanimity. -it is the concentrated awareness of one’s thoughts, actions or intentions. It brings a quality of attention to our experiences in the present. -it is the concentrated awareness of one’s thoughts, actions or intentions. It brings a quality of attention to our experiences in the present. -it frees us from our internal commentary so that we can observe life in the present. -it frees us from our internal commentary so that we can observe life in the present.

8. Empowering Ethics -Ethics has to do with consistency of actions, -Ethics has to do with consistency of actions, values, values, measures, measures, principles, principles, expectations and expectations and outcomes. outcomes. Be conversant with the Code of Professional Ethics.

9. Keep your perspective Perspective: how you interpret and organize sensations to produce a meaningful experience of the world. Perspective: how you interpret and organize sensations to produce a meaningful experience of the world. “it is not so much what happens to you, as it is how you perceive what happens to you that matters.” “it is not so much what happens to you, as it is how you perceive what happens to you that matters.” “what you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” Pericles “what you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” Pericles

“There is a thought in your mind “There is a thought in your mind right now. The longer you hold on to it, the more you dwell upon it, the more life you give to that thought. Give it enough life, and it will become real. So make sure the thought is indeed a great one.” Give it enough life, and it will become real. So make sure the thought is indeed a great one.” Ralph Marston Ralph Marston

“How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, “How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong – because some day you will have been all of these.” George Washington Carver

10. Self Care Are there things you preach to others that you do not practice yourself? Are there things you preach to others that you do not practice yourself?

11. Breathe Proper breathing brings more oxygen to the blood and to the brain. Proper breathing brings more oxygen to the blood and to the brain. 1. clavicular breathing: shallowest 1. clavicular breathing: shallowest 2. thoracic: rib breathing – not efficient 2. thoracic: rib breathing – not efficient 3. deep abdominal breathing brings air to the lowest and largest part of the lungs. Slow and deep, diaphragm engaged. 3. deep abdominal breathing brings air to the lowest and largest part of the lungs. Slow and deep, diaphragm engaged. Best breath combines all 3. Best breath combines all 3. “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” Thich Nhat Hanh “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” Thich Nhat Hanh

12. Love and Compassion “ Love heals through the restoration of homeostasis. The most powerful thing for the restoration of the body’s balance is love. The limbic brain establishes limbic resonance with another, and then homeostasis, which is healing, occurs.” Deepak Chopra “ Love heals through the restoration of homeostasis. The most powerful thing for the restoration of the body’s balance is love. The limbic brain establishes limbic resonance with another, and then homeostasis, which is healing, occurs.” Deepak Chopra Practice self compassion and be realistic about what you can and cannot achieve within the time frame you have. Be tender with yourself. Practice self compassion and be realistic about what you can and cannot achieve within the time frame you have. Be tender with yourself.

May you gaze upon yourself With the same care, compassion And gentleness, with which God gazes on you this day and every moment of every day. Adapted from John O’Donohue