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THE PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF EMPATHY 共情（体谅）的生理现象

Empathy MIRROR NEURONS 镜子反射试验 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

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知道心思的脑细胞 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Mirror Neurons 镜子反射试验 Mimicking Actions 模仿动作 Reading Intentions 了解意图 Reading Implications 了解含义 Reading Emotions 了解情感 “Our nervous systems. . . are constructed to be captured by the nervous systems of others, so that we can experience others as if we are within their skin.” “我们的神经系统的构成…是能够体会他人的神经系统的知觉，好像我们自己亲身经历一样”。 Dr. Daniel Stern University of Geneva 日内瓦大学 Stern博士 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

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Empathy Exercise MIRROR IMAGE THE PHYSICAL MOVEMENTS AND THE FACIAL EXPRESSIONS OF THE OTHER PERSON FOR THREE MINUTES, AND THEN REVERSE IT FOR THREE MINUTES! © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Empathy 学习同情体谅 Ask for a story 询问一个故事 Picture the story in your mind 心中想象出来 Listen and ask questions until you feel the story 聆听和询问，直到你能感受到对方的情感 Then respond sympathetically 以体恤去回应 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Temporal-Parietal Junction System (TPJ) Found where the lobes of the brain intersect Helps us to understand other’s emotional states Responsible for Cognitive Empathy © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Temporal-Parietal Junction System (TPJ) Utilized more by men Mirror Neuron System used more by women Mirror Neuron Responsible for Emotional Empathy In the analytical mode men may not feel other’s emotions © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Song of Solomon所罗门的雅歌 The Woman Beautiful One (13) Yafathy 2:10 美人 Companion (9) Rathy 1:9伴侣 Bride (6) 新娘 Caalah 4:8 Sister (5) Aghaty 4:12妹子 Beloved (4) Ahavah 3:7亲爱的 Dove (3) Yonathy 5:2 鸽子 Perfect One (2) Tamathy 5:2完全人 Pure One (2) Barah 6:9纯贞 The Man Beloved (33) Dody 1:14良人 My Friend (1) Rathy 5:16伴侣 Brother (1) Aghy 8:1兄弟

BEAUTIFUL ONE YAFATHY 2:10美人 PERFECT ONE TAMATHY 5:2 完全人 COMPANION RATHY 1:9伴侣 BEAUTIFUL ONE YAFATHY 2:10美人 BELOVED AHAVAH 3:6 亲爱的 SISTER AGHATY 4:12 妹子 PERFECT ONE TAMATHY 5:2 完全人 BRIDE 新娘 CAALAH 4:8 PURE ONE BARAH 6:9 纯贞 SOUL DELIGHTS 心欢喜 DOVE YONATHY 5:2 鸽子 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Soul Delights 心欢喜 6:8 “There are sixty queens and eighty concubines, And maidens without number;有60王后、八十嫔妃，并有无数的童女， 9 One she is, my dove, my perfect one: One she is to her mother; Pure One she is to the one who bore her. The maidens saw her and called her blessed, The queens and the concubines also, and they praised her, 她却是我的鸽子，我的完全人：她母亲所独生钟爱的纯贞女。众女子见了就称她有福；王后嫔妃见了也赞美她。 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Greatest Compliment Exercise最大赞许的练习 Write Gender on Paper在纸条上写下自己的性别 Write Greatest Compliment from your Mother写下你母亲对你的最大赞许 Write Greatest Compliment from your Father写下你父亲对你的最大赞许 Write Greatest Compliment from Opposite Gender写下异性对你的最大赞许 Hand in and redistribute to groups of five to sort out best one of each将纸条收集起来，将人分为5至六人的小组，将纸条混合重新发给大家 Hand in best from each group各组选出最好的赞许交上来。 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Empathy THE PHYSIOLOGICAL SYMPTOMS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP THE EMOTIONAL SYMPTOMS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP THE ACHIEVEMENT OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

EPHESIANS 5:28-29 COMPASSION 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, (Eph 5:28-29 NAS) COMPASSION © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

EPHESIANS 5:31-33 COMPASSION “31 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.” COMPASSION

Gender Cycle 性别间的循环 LOVE 爱 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

Gender Cycle 性别间的循环 RESPECT 尊重 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

LOVE 爱 RESPECT 尊重 Gender Cycle 性别间的循环 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

PRACTICAL APPLICATION 实际应用 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE 情绪智商 BY: DANIEL COLEMAN “HIS AND HER MARITAL ADVICE” PAGES 141-142 “他与她的婚姻指导”141-142页 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

PRACTICAL APPLICATION 实际应用 “ . . . be careful not to attack their husbands - to complain about what they did, but not criticize them as a person or express contempt” “应当小心，不要攻击她们的丈夫 - 可投诉他们的行为，但不要作人身攻击或表现轻视。” © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

PRACTICAL APPLICATION 实际应用 EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE 情绪智商 BY: DANIEL COLEMAN “HIS AND HER MARITAL ADVICE” PAGES 141-142 “他与她的婚姻指导”141-142页 © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

PRACTICAL APPLICATION 实际应用 “Most especially, wives want their feelings acknowledged and respected as valid, even if their husbands disagree.” “最重要的是，妻子希望她们的感受是被承认及尊重的，即使他们的丈夫不认同她们的想法。” © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

SKILL Skill: have groups of four write out what are the four marks of a happy and stable marriage (then lecture on them) © BECOMING WHAT GOD INTENDED MINISTRIES

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