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The Skill That Makes The Difference Conflict Resolution The Skill That Makes The Difference Welcome the group to Session #6 of the Edge Academy of Leadership. Have participants sign in using the Edge Workshop Sign-In Form. 2 Minutes

Course Agenda Welcome & Introductions Identifying Conflicts Opportunities With Conflict Process Of Conflict Resolution Resolving Conflict With Others Summary/Debrief Cover the agenda, distribute & explain participant workbooks. Link the topic to the prior workshop and elements of the leadership template. 2 Minutes Page #1

Course Objectives Discover How To Respond To Conflict After Today’s Session, You Will Be Able To… Discover How To Respond To Conflict Learn How To Meet Confrontations Head-On Effectively Respond To Negativity In Others Turn Differences Into Opportunities Communicate Your Way To Resolution Demonstrate The Ability To Resolve Conflict Cover the course objectives Explain to participants that this class will require participation from everyone 2 Minutes Page #2

Definition Of Conflict Simply Put Conflict Is Two Or More Differing Points Of View Ask the group what their definition of conflict is, then show this slide. Cover points such as, conflict is never easy, learning to disagree and working through conflict is an important interpersonal skill. 4 Minutes Page #2

What Causes Conflict? Split Into Two Groups At Your Flip Charts List The Causes Of Conflict Be Prepared To Report Out Your Responses To The Group Split the group into 2 groups, and assign each group a flip chart. Have participants flip chart their responses to the causes of conflict. When complete, debrief by covering each point. Some responses may include, miscommunication, inability to change, too competitive, differing points of view, etc. 10 Minutes

Self Assessment Dealing With Our Emotions A Self-Assessment Take A Moment To Complete The Self-Assessment On Page #4 Direct participants to complete the self-assessment, dealing with our emotions. 10 Minutes Page #4

Common Responses Avoidance Accommodate Compromise Competition Collaboration Explain Statements #1 & #2 are linked to the avoidance response #3 & #4 are linked to the accommodate response #5 & #6 are linked to the compromise response #7 & #8 are linked to the competition response #9 & #10 are linked to the collaboration response Discuss core values / what happens to us when someone moves your core values?

Common Responses Avoidance Is a common response to the negative perception of conflict. Generally, feelings get hurt, views go unexpressed, and the conflict festers until it becomes too big to ignore, then grows and spreads until it kills the relationship. Because concerns go unexpressed, people are often confused, wondering what went wrong in a relationship. Explain Statements #1 & #2 are linked to the avoidance response #3 & #4 are linked to the accommodate response #5 & #6 are linked to the compromise response #7 & #8 are linked to the competition response #9 & #10 are linked to the collaboration response Discuss core values / what happens to us when someone moves your core values?

Common Responses Accommodate Also known as smoothing, is the opposite of competing. Persons using this style yield their needs to those of others, trying to be diplomatic. They tend to allow the needs of the group to overwhelm their own, which may not ever be stated, as preserving the relationship is seen as most important. Explain Statements #1 & #2 are linked to the avoidance response #3 & #4 are linked to the accommodate response #5 & #6 are linked to the compromise response #7 & #8 are linked to the competition response #9 & #10 are linked to the collaboration response Discuss core values / what happens to us when someone moves your core values?

Common Responses Compromise Is an approach which people gain and give in a series of tradeoffs. While suitable, compromise is generally not satisfying. We each remain shaped by our individual perceptions and don't necessarily understand the other side very well. We often retain a lack of trust and avoid risk-taking involved in more collaborative behaviors. Explain Statements #1 & #2 are linked to the avoidance response #3 & #4 are linked to the accommodate response #5 & #6 are linked to the compromise response #7 & #8 are linked to the competition response #9 & #10 are linked to the collaboration response Discuss core values / what happens to us when someone moves your core values?

Common Responses Competition Is a style in which one's own needs are advocated over the needs of others. It’s an aggressive style of communication, with low regard for future relationships, and the exercise of coercive power. This style tend to seek control over a discussion. They fear that loss of such control will result in solutions that fail to meet their needs. Explain Statements #1 & #2 are linked to the avoidance response #3 & #4 are linked to the accommodate response #5 & #6 are linked to the compromise response #7 & #8 are linked to the competition response #9 & #10 are linked to the collaboration response Discuss core values / what happens to us when someone moves your core values?

Common Responses Collaboration Is the combining of individual needs and goals toward a common goal. Often called "win-win," collaboration requires communication and cooperation in order to achieve a better solution than either individual could have achieved alone. It offers the chance for consensus, and the potential to exceed “possibilities". Explain Statements #1 & #2 are linked to the avoidance response #3 & #4 are linked to the accommodate response #5 & #6 are linked to the compromise response #7 & #8 are linked to the competition response #9 & #10 are linked to the collaboration response Discuss core values / what happens to us when someone moves your core values?

Your Conflict Situations Think About Conflict Situations That You Are Currently Facing Break Into Groups Flip Chart Your Responses Have participants flip chart their current conflict situations, and keep them posted on the wall. Explain we will be using these later in the workshop to resolve real life conflict scenarios. 10 Minutes Page #5 Option for facilitator to ask; What ? ( …) really “sets me off at work” What ? ( …) really “sets me off at home”

Your Conflict Situations Using Your Conflict Situations Choose One To Solve How Will You Respond? What Will Be The Outcome? Be Prepared To Report Out To The Group Pair up participants and have them pick one situation from the list they just created. As a pair, have them work to solve the conflict. Have them enter their responses on page #4. 10 Minutes Page #5

Take Note Of The Guidelines For Resolving Conflict Conflict Resolution As You Watch The Video Take Note Of The Guidelines For Resolving Conflict Introduce the video, “Conflict Resolution”. Have participants take notes on page #5. 16 Minutes Page #6

Video Debrief Guidelines For Conflict Resolution Encourage Others to Explain Their Side Listen To Understand, Not Respond State Your Understanding Build On The Other Person's Position Explain Your Own Position Focus On Creative Solutions Debrief the video by recapping the guidelines for conflict resolution. Have participants report out what they learned from the video. 5 Minutes Page #7 Option for facilitator to talk about core values How do conflict situations really make you feel? Can you describe a conflict situation in terms that are not negative, or not critical, “just the facts” Can you describe the vision or outcome you would like to see happen? How would you describe that to a person you are having a conflict with?

Time For A Break Separate The People From The Problem Focus On Interests, Not Positions Invent Options For Mutual Gain Insist On Using Objective Criteria Encourage Others To Explain Their Side Listen To Understand, Not Respond Build On The Other Person’s Position Explain Your Own Position Focus On Creative Solutions Break 15 Minutes

Conflict Scenario Practice Pair Up With A Partner Read The Scenarios And Draft Your Responses Using The Guidelines On Page #7 After reviewing the guidelines for resolving conflict, direct participants to the practice scenarios on page #7, #8 and #9. Have participants pair up with a partner, discuss and role play the scenarios using the guidelines for conflict resolution. After the role plays, have participants report out to the group and debrief each resolution. 15 Minutes Page #8, #9, & #10 Encourage Others To Explain Their Side Listen To Understand, Not Respond Build On The Other Person’s Position Explain Your Own Position Focus On Creative Solutions

Benefits Of Conflict Conflict Can Be A Positive Occurrence Conflicts can lead to better, more effective, communications and relationships Conflict can be a catalyst in creating innovative and creative solutions to existing problems Conflict can bring us new ways of thinking about all that we do and about everyone we work with Conflict can allow important issues to become more visible so they may be resolved Discuss the benefits of conflict. Explain even though we may not like conflict, you can find benefits from conflict. 5 Minutes Page #11 Option for facilitator to discuss Think of a conflict as an opportunity to respectfully coach. Discuss the best coaches you have known – why were they so great? Without the courage to be confronted we do not demonstrate leadership Without being willing to act and confront others in an effective non-accusatory manner we do not demonstrate effective leadership.

Conflict Opportunities When Managed Effectively, Conflict Can Be A Positive Occurrence In Your Table Groups, Discuss Past Conflicts And Describe Opportunities That Created Value In This Conflict Page #12 Have participants break up into groups, each group should discuss past conflict situations and pull out the benefit or value it had in the overall scenario. Debrief as a group and share all findings. 10 Minutes Page #12

Conflict With Others Separate the People from the Problem Focus on the issues or processes, not the individuals Focus on Interests, Not Positions Concentrate on interests or needs, we have more in common than what we had assumed Invent Options for Mutual Gain It’s important that both parties give something Insist on using Objective Criteria You cannot use emotion or subjectivity when determining how best to measure your results Move into the steps for resolving conflict with others, taken from the video. Walk through the steps explaining in more detail as you move down the list. 10 Minutes Page #13 Option for the facilitator to discuss Is this a coaching process opportunity? How would you coach a person through conflict? How do you coach yourself through a conflict? What are the dynamics of the situation? What behaviors could you use to be a more effective coach in this situation?

Practice Scenarios In Your Table Groups Role Play The Scenario Using The Provided Guidelines Separate The People From The Problem Focus On Interests, Not Positions Invent Options For Mutual Gain Insist On Using Objective Criteria Break participants into small groups and direct them to page # 13. Using the guidelines for resolving conflict with other, have participants discuss and resolve the stated conflict. When they are complete, have them share their resolution with the group and debreif. 15 Minutes Page #14

Avoid Defensive Reactions Give Specific Examples. Providing specific and recent examples helps clarify the issue. Describe Behavior—Not The Person. Describing the behavior instead of the person gives a less personal and a more accurate description. Don’t Exaggerate. To say, “You’re never on time” is probably untrue. Instead you say “last week you were late three out of five days.” Start With “I” Statements. Placing the emphasis on how you perceive the situation is more accurate and makes the feedback easier to accept. Explain the guidelines for avoiding defensive reactions. 5 Minutes Page #15 Option for facilitator to discuss Remember how we learned to use more effective listening skills in the communication workshop. How would these skills help in reducing your defensive reactions? Can you describe situations/behaviors using non-accusatory terms? (What terms do you try to stay away from when doing this). “state “When I see you / or / when you are observed …it makes me feel…?

Defensive Reactions Pair Up With A Partner Rewrite The Statements Using The Guidelines For Discouraging Defensive Reactions Have participants pair up with a buddy, direct them to page #15 and read and rewrite the statements to have them sound less defensive than as written. Have participants share their rewrites with the class as a whole and discuss. 15 Minutes Page #16 Did you use non-accusatory language?

Your Conflict Situations Refer To Your Conflict Situations Pair Up With A Partner To Role Play The Situations Be Prepared To Report Out Your Solutions To The Group Using the real life conflict situations from the class in their earlier activity, have them pair up and begin to role play and solve the conflict situations of their choosing. Be sure to use the conflict resolution guidelines from page #6 After they solve a situation have participants share with the group, ask for alternative solutions, and move on to the next one. Continue this as time allows 40 Minutes Page #17 (Additional note pages #18, #19)

Wrap Up / Debrief Process Of Conflict Resolution Encourage Others to Explain Their Side Listen To Understand, Not Respond State Your Understanding Build On The Other Person's Position Explain Your Own Position Focus On Creative Solutions Resolving Conflict With Others Separate The People From The Problem Focus On Interests, Not Positions Invent Options For Mutual Gain Insist On Using Objective Criteria Wrap up the session by reviewing the following guidelines. Direct participants to page #20 for a review of the “Conflict Quick Reference Sheet”

Quick Reference Page #21 Opportunities With Conflict Consequences Of Conflict Guidelines Of Conflict With Others Guidelines For Conflict Resolution Common Responses To Conflict Common Causes Of Conflict Have participants go to pages #21 explain the quick reference sheets on conflict resolution. 5 Minutes Page #21

Thank participants for attending. Hand out the class evaluation

What Questions Do You Have? Solicit and respond to any questions the group may have. If you do not have an answer, list question with name of person and email or call them with the answer when you have the answer. Have participants complete course evaluations, stand in the back of the room while participants complete course evaluations and thank them for their participation as they exit the room. Course Evaluation Pages #22 & #23