GrowthDepthStrength It makes me mad

GrowthDepthStrength Changing our mind The 6 Antitheses:

GrowthDepthStrength Changing our mind The 6 Antitheses: contrasts  Anger and temperament  Reconciliation & Conflict resolution  Marital relationships  Making and keeping promises  Revenge  Relationships with people who are our enemies

GrowthDepthStrength 3-stage approach  You’ve heard it said  But I tell you  Here’s the result

GrowthDepthStrength Fulfil not abolish “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets: I have not come to abolish them but to fulfil them” Matthew 5:17(TNIV)

GrowthDepthStrength Fulfil not abolish  Jesus never contradicted what had been written  Jesus knew His “Bible”  Plenty of resources but read the Bible not what others say  God is interested in relationships not rules and regulations

GrowthDepthStrength Matthew 5: (NLT) You have heard that our ancestors were told, ‘You must not murder. If you commit murder, you are subject to judgment.’ But I say, if you are even angry with someone, you are subject to judgment! If you call someone an idiot, you are in danger of being brought before the court. And if you curse someone, you are in danger of the fires of hell.

GrowthDepthStrength Matthew 5: (NLT) So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God.

GrowthDepthStrength Matthew 5: (NLT) When you are on the way to court with your adversary, settle your differences quickly. Otherwise, your accuser may hand you over to the judge, who will hand you over to an officer, and you will be thrown into prison. And if that happens, you surely won’t be free again until you have paid the last penny.

GrowthDepthStrength The Anger Continuum Irritation Disappointmen t Frustration Annoyanc e Resentment Provocation Hatred Rage Revenge Loathing

GrowthDepthStrength What makes us mad?  Injustice, prejudice and inequality  Insincerity – flattery or deception  My own limitations  Being misunderstood or intentions questioned  Broken promises

GrowthDepthStrength Ephesians 4:26-27 (TNIV) In your anger do not sin.

GrowthDepthStrength Ephesians 4:26-27 (TNIV) In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

GrowthDepthStrength The Challenge 4-step process 1. Ask what makes me angry What are the scenarios? When does it happen? Who rubs me up the wrong way? What can I do to minimise the impact? What alternative action can I take?

GrowthDepthStrength The Challenge 4-step process 2. Review what we’ve done about it Column 1: the situation Column 2: date and time it occurred Column 3: how far it went Column 4: what was done to resolve it? Column 5: date and time it was resolved

GrowthDepthStrength The Challenge 4-step process 3. Make a plan Our part is to be willing to resolve difficulties 4. Be accountable Find someone who is trustworthy

GrowthDepthStrength Am I angry? A scertain the root causes N ote down the instances G et help from someone R esolve it quickly – don’t delay Y ou have the choice