2-1 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved.

Chapter 2 2 Self-Esteem In Human Relations

2-3 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. What is Self-Esteem?  Self-esteem is the regard in which an individual hold himself or herself. McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Self-Esteem Compensating Low Self-Worth Low Self-Esteem High Self-Esteem

2-4 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Self-Esteem and Work Performance McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Highself-esteem Successful work performance Low Lowself-esteem Work performance suffers

2-5 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Types of Self-Esteem McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. 1. Feelings, either positive or negative, about self- worth 2. Confidence in the ability to deal with problems when they happen, often called self-efficacy.

2-6 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Origins of Self-Esteem McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved.  When your parents and other important people show you unconditional positive regard, then you develop a healthy self-esteem.  When parents show children conditional positive regard, their children may not develop a healthy self-esteem.

2-7 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Origins of Self-Esteem McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Parent Child Unconditional Positive regard Conditional Positive regard = = Healthy Self-esteem Low Self-esteem

2-8 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. What is Self-Concept? McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved.  Your self-concept is the foundation of your self- esteem.  Self-concept is the way you picture yourself to be.

2-9 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. What is Self-Concept? McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. 1 Ideal Self 2 Looking-glass Self 4 Real Self 3 Self-Image

2-10 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Focusing on the Real and Ideal Selves McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved.  Your ideal self comes from the messages you received from your parents and people around you about what you should be like.  In order to have a healthy self-esteem, people need to work on making the ideal and real selves much closer.

2-11 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Pleasing Yourself and Pleasing Others McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved.  Many people derive purpose from pleasing others.  Having a healthy self-concept means not allowing yourself to be dominated by other people’s opinions.  Balancing a need to nurture yourself with other people’s need to be accepted and like is very important.

2-12 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Strategies for Success 2.1: Steps Toward Achieving Higher Self-Esteem McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. 1. Learn to accept yourself. 2. Develop an internal locus of control. 3. Develop a winning skill. 4. Study confident people. 5. Read biographies of people you admire. 6. Make a list of your greatest talents.

2-13 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Strategies for Success 2.1: Steps Toward Achieving Higher Self-Esteem McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. 7. Stop procrastinating. 8. Find a mentor. 9. Avoid surface analysis of yourself and others. 10. Use positive self-talk. 11. Be aware of the power of the Pygmalian effect. 12. Don’t forget the needs of others.

2-14 McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. Strategies for Success 2.2: Steps Toward Combatting Low Self-Esteem McGraw-Hill/Irwin Human Relations, 3/e © 2007 The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc. All rights reserved. 1. Find its purpose. 2. Talk back. 3. Make this pathological critic totally useless. 4. Forgive yourself.

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