Self-esteem Anxious attachment Avoidant attachment Model of other Perceived regard Felt Security/ insecurity ?? Partner devaluation Emotional distance Less love Figure 1. Dependence Regulation System

Chronic Perceived Regard Perceived rejection Social pain: Hurt feelings Threatening Event Devalue partner Emotional distance/ anger a b Figure 2. A situational Analysis of Felt Security Regulation

Figure 3. Low Perceived Regard People’s Reactions Conflict Negative Mood Inconsiderate Person’s Self Report: Anger Act Distant Conflict Negative Mood Inconsiderate Hurt Perceived Rejection Partner’s Report: Person Behaved Badly Partner’s Self-Reports Person’s Own Reaction Person’s Subsequent Day Behavior