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Knowledge of when/where you may come face-to-face with Parents and need to provide them with answers regarding their child’s education Understanding the importance of getting it right in the classroom and the best channels of communication home Skills to deal with the prevention of confrontation and coping strategies in times of conflict

Formally, Direct, Face – to - Face Tutor Review Day Parents’ Night School productions/shows Awards Assemblies Year 6 Open Evening (Options Night, Target Setting, CEOP, Discos, Leavers Ball Sporting Events) Informally, Indirect Letter Reports Report Reply Planner Communication Talking to the pupil Telephone Communication

BE PREPARED!!! Use the pupils’ feedback sheets to help Mentoring sessions with the pupils previously will give you a good insight into the pupils and their attitudes to learning

Wording Recording of what - for what purpose? Speaking to the pupil Mentoring

Challenging a pupil’s behaviour Be CONSISTENT in approach Recording and referring Wording in the planner

Although confrontation is sometimes unavoidable, following basic rules of human relations may help to avert confrontations before they begin: -Be honest and fair - Consider the perception of the child -Treat parents with patience and respect -Keep a sense of humour -Be quick to praise the efforts of parents -Look for areas of agreement -Be slow to anger

OPENLY AGGRESSIVE PEOPLE: They will expect you to either run away from them or react with rage. Your goal is to assertively express your own views, not try to win a battle of right or wrong. First, wait for the person to run out of steam. Then call the person by name and assert your own opinions with confidence. SNIPERS: Snipers are experts at taking potshots in subtle ways, such as humorous putdowns, sarcasm, disapproving looks and innuendoes. You may feel uncomfortable replying to them because you don’t like confrontation. Respond to a sniper with a question. “That sounds like you’re making fun of me. Are you?” A sniper usually replies with denial. “I’m only joking.” This will reduce the chance for similar attacks in the future. SILENT PEOPLE: People who ignore you, give you sullen looks and respond to every question with silence are difficult. Ask them questions that cannot be answered with just a yes/no, such as “Tell me your concerns.” Then wait a while before you say anything. The long silence may make them uncomfortable enough to say something. If they do start talking, listen carefully. COMPLAINERS: These are fearful people who have little faith in themselves and others because they believe in a hostile world. Their constant discouragement and complaining can bring everyone to despair. Don’t try to argue these difficult people out of their negativity. Instead, respond with your own optimistic expectations.

Take time to consider the complaint and do not engage in a knee-jerk reaction (the Parents have more than likely got the information from their child – hence the child’s PERCEPTION of events) Don’t take the behaviour of difficult people personally. Their troublesome behaviour is habitual and affects most people with whom they come in contact Don’t try to change them. You can only change your responses to their behaviour

Be sympathetic but forward looking. Look for compromises that will ease the transition. Be specific about the benefits. Preserve as much of the familiar as possible. ‘I am listening to what you are saying’. ‘I will ensure this is looked into’. You might make the point that all may not be what it seems. Explain your decisions. When you ask people to make a sacrifice, it helps if they see something good coming from it. Acknowledge that their feelings are valid, even if you don’t share them. It’s always a mistake to dismiss the fears of others. In doing so, you create implacable foes. Acknowledge that the concerns are real, that you understand them, and that you’ll search for a way to ease them. The Rule - Listen and acknowledge before you commit and/or persuade!!

Knowledge of when/where we may come face-to-face with Parents and need to provide them with answers for their child’s education, either directly or indirectly Understanding the importance of getting it right in the classroom and the best channels of communication home Skills to deal with the prevention of and coping strategies at times of conflict