Chapter Seventeen A Life Plan for Effective Human Relations

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 2 Chapter Preview: A Life Plan for Effective Human Relations Success standards that are compatible with needs and values Coping with forces that influence work/life balance Meaning of right livelihood Life enriching, nonfinancial resources Developing a healthy lifestyle Making needed changes in your life

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 3 Achieving Balance in a Chaotic World Construct a life plan Define success Choose a lifestyle Define relationships Mental and physical fitness

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 4 Redefining Our Work Lives Labor markets have become a place of churning dislocation Changing work patterns have created new opportunities and new challenges Visualize a future filled with sharp detours and several redefinitions of our work lives

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 5 Toward a New Definition of Success Success is often defined in narrow terms It is often judged by what is accomplished at work Traditionally, progress is equated with pay increases and promotions What gives purpose and meaning to life?

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 6 Total Person Insight I call people successful not because they have money or their business is doing well but because, as human beings, they have a fully developed sense of being alive and engaged in a lifetime task of collaboration with other human beings—their mothers and fathers, their family, their friends, their loved ones, the friends who are dying, the friends who are being born. Ralph Fiennes, Actor

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 7 Experienced workers are finding that ambition and commitment are not enough to save their jobs Promised reward for hard work and loyalty was broken for many people Others who gave up leisure time and time with family and friends retained their jobs, but have discovered that they feel unfulfilled The Need for New Models of Success

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 8 One-Dimensional Model Success measured in terms of work life Emphasized –Working long hours –Reaching work-related goals –Meeting standards set by others Everything with meaning was connected to the job

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 9 Total Person Insight We don’t like to think of ourselves as slaves to money, prestige or power, but in fact many only feel worthy by attaining these things. When we allow ‘things’ to have power over us to the extent that we lose ourselves, our values, our ability to choose, we become slaves. Cheryl Shavers Senior Manager, Intel Corporation

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 10 Loss of Leisure Time A demanding work ethic is part of American history U.S. employees work more and take less vacation than other industrialized countries U.S. workers are too accessible during vacations Well-managed companies are beginning to realize the negative consequences of long hours on the job and loss of leisure time

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 11 Developing Your Own Life Plan Personal life can seldom be separated from work life Develop your own definition of success You have to take 100% responsibility for everything that you experience in your life

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 12 Toward Right Livelihood Right livelihood can be defined as work –Consciously chosen –Done with full awareness and care –Leading to enlightenment or better understanding Characteristics of right livelihood –Choice –Emphasis on more then money –Personal growth

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 13 Conscious Choice Figure out what you like to do and what you are good at –May take effort to determine what motivates you –Do internships or try temporary reassignments It takes courage to act on what you value Need to accept consequences of choice

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 14 Placing Money in Secondary Position Money and security are not primary rewards in life Some jobs may not pay a lot of money, but allow for greater personal satisfaction May need to trade income for self- expression or personal satisfaction

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 15 Work Is a Vehicle for Personal Growth Work should fulfill the need for self expression and personal growth Many organizations do not yet understand this concept Involves work/life balance and the need for human relations skills

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 16 Total Person Insight Plain talk about our experiences with money remains the last taboo to break in our society…part of becoming an effective, happy person is making old money messages current and bringing hidden money messages out into the open. Pamela York Klainer Founder, Power and Money LLC

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 17 Defining Your Relationship with Money Money is a compelling force in many people’s lives Competence in managing your finances is no less important than managing your career Personal savings rate in America is at an all time low

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 18 True Prosperity More money does not bring greater freedom, fewer problems or security Prosperity is having plenty of what we truly need and want in life An internal experience, not an external state We should strive to determine true wants

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 19 Mature Money Management People deep in debt often experience depression Money issues are the number one cause of divorce Suggestions for personal finances: –Develop a personal financial plan –Spend less than you earn –Maintain a cash cushion

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 20 Total Person Insight Keep in mind that there is no harder work than thinking—really thinking— about who you are and what you want out of life. Figuring out where your goals and your skills match up is a painful, time-consuming process. Julie Connelly Contributing Editor, Fortune

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 21 Nonfinancial Resources Make the biggest contribution to a happy, fulfilling life –Good health –Intellectual growth –Leisure time –Healthy spirituality The starting point is to realize that most of your resources are nonfinancial Enhancement of your nonfinancial assets is the way to enrich your life

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 22 Figure 17.1 Put Balance in Your Life

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 23 Physical and Mental Health There is an interrelationship between health and outlook on life It is something you can choose at any time Exercise and healthy diet produce –Greater mental clarity-Self-esteem –Higher energy levels-Self-confidence –Youthful appearance-Positive outlook

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 24 Education and Training Rewards come to workers who take personal responsibility for learning Think of yourself as a unique brand Be selective in what you learn Take advantage of various learning pathways

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 25 Leisure Time Schedule creep is when work expands beyond the normal schedule and replaces available leisure time You may feel pressure to work at the same pace as someone who has given up most of his or her leisure time If this happens, try to identify the consequences of being overworked If too much pressure to overwork, it might be time to look for another job

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 26 Benefits of Leisure Time Social connections can be good for your health Work satisfaction increases when you get away for awhile Skipping vacations is hazardous Quiet time each day can bring balance

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 27 Healthy Spirituality It frees us to become positive, caring human beings Spirituality encompasses faith Often associated with religion, or personal beliefs It involves acts of generosity, sharing and kindness Can be a stabilizing life force It leads to more ethical organizations

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 28 Ways to Achieve Healthy Spirituality Meditation Prayer Spiritual Reading Time with nature

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 29 Total Person Insight Don’t get crispy fried in business. The insidious suction of achievement could leave you with no soul. Author, Unknown

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 30 Developing a Healthy Lifestyle The first step in developing a healthy lifestyle is to become well informed There are several guidelines that form the framework for a good diet and exercise program

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 31 Figure U.S. Department of Agriculture

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 32 Guidelines for a Healthy Diet Maintain a diet that is balanced and varied Reduce calorie intake Cut down on fatty foods Eat foods with adequate starch and fiber Avoid too much sodium If you drink alcohol, do so in moderation

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 33 Table 17.2

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 34 Improving Your Physical Fitness Physical fitness is the ability to perform daily tasks vigorously and have energy left over to enjoy leisure activities You do not need to become a fanatic to get the benefits of an exercise program Start slowly with aerobic activity Develop a program that has a variety of fitness activities

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 35 Planning for Changes In Your Life Identify some behaviors you want to adopt or modify that will make an important change in your life Once you have identified the behaviors, you can set goals and do what is necessary to reach them

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 36 The Power of Habits They are consistent, often unconscious patterns that express our character The process of breaking a habit involves five steps: –Motivation –Knowledge –Practice –Feedback –Reinforcement

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 37 The Goal-Setting Process The goal-setting process requires that you be clear about what you want to accomplish Progress will be difficult to observe if goals are not well defined

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 38 The Choice Is Yours Remember you are someone special You are a unique combination of talents, attitudes, values, goals, needs, and motivation, all in a state of development You can decide to tap your potential to become a successful, productive human being, however you understand those terms

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 39 Chapter Review Success standards that are compatible with needs and values –Traditional definitions of success are too confining Almost entirely in terms of measurable job achievements They leave out the intangible successes –True success is a combination of achievements

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 40 Chapter Review Coping with forces that influence work/life balance –Labor market uncertain due to churning dislocation –Increasing pressure to work harder, longer hours, and give up more leisure time –Learning to cope has never been more challenging

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 41 Chapter Review Meaning of right livelihood –It is an important dimension of success –Right livelihood is work consciously chosen, done with full awareness and care, and leading to enlightenment Based on conscious choice Work is a vehicle for self-expression Places money in a secondary position

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 42 Chapter Review Life enriching, nonfinancial resources –Nonfinancial resources make biggest contributions to a happy and fulfilling life Physical and mental health Intellectual growth Leisure time Healthy spirituality

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 43 Chapter Review Developing a healthy lifestyle –Many Americans are working to achieve healthy lifestyles –Healthy lifestyles give us Energy Greater sense of self-confidence A more positive outlook –Good health leads to More endurance Less time feeling tired or ill Less missed work

Copyright © Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved. 17 | 44 Chapter Review Making needed changes in your life –Planning your life requires changing habits –The process of changing habits involves Motivation Knowledge Practice Feedback Reinforcement –Goal setting is important for successful