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You’re About to Discover… What emotional intelligence isWhat emotional intelligence is How EI relates to leadershipHow EI relates to leadership Whether your EI can be improvedWhether your EI can be improved How communication is at the center of romantic relationshipsHow communication is at the center of romantic relationships How to improve communication with people you care aboutHow to improve communication with people you care about What constitutes a “danger signal” in a relationshipWhat constitutes a “danger signal” in a relationship

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning What is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence impacts college successEmotional Intelligence impacts college success EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59).EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59). EI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demandsEI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demands of everyday life. of everyday life. Emotional Intelligence impacts college successEmotional Intelligence impacts college success EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59).EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59). EI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demandsEI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demands of everyday life. of everyday life. Chapter Activity Chapter Activity p. 218 p. 218 © 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning

Five Scales of EI Intrapersonal Skills (Self-Awareness) Interpersonal Skills (Relating to Others) General MoodStress Management Skills Adaptability Skills

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Can We Improve Our EI? Seek honest input from others. Find an EI mentor. Complete an assessment tool. Work with a counselor to learn more. Be patient with yourself. “Our emotions are the driving powers of our lives.” “Our emotions are the driving powers of our lives.” Earl Riney, American clergyman Earl Riney, American clergyman

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning What Is This Thing Called Love? Love can be thoughts, feelings, and physical reactions. 1. Extreme energy. 2. Imagined betterment. 3. Interfering thoughts. 4. Mood swings. 5. Hypersensitivity. Love can be thoughts, feelings, and physical reactions. 1. Extreme energy. 2. Imagined betterment. 3. Interfering thoughts. 4. Mood swings. 5. Hypersensitivity.

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning “Eighty percent of life’s satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships.” comes from meaningful relationships.” Brian Tracy, success author Brian Tracy, success author Chapter Activity Chapter Activity p. 225 p. 225 Communicating in Relationships

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning CrazymakersCrazymakers The BLAMERThe TRAPPER The “BENEDICT ARNOLD” The HIT AND RUN FIGHTER The GUNNYSACKER The MINDREADER © 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do “The difference between friendship and love is how much you can hurt each other.” is how much you can hurt each other.” Ashleigh Brilliant, author and cartoonist Ashleigh Brilliant, author and cartoonist Danger signal 1: “All we ever do is fight!” If you spend most of your time in conflict or avoiding conflict, you won’t be able to communicate about much else. Danger signal 2: “Let’s dig in deeper!” Move relationships to deeper levels of commitment only when you are both satisfied with the ways things are now. Danger signal 3: “This relationship just isn’t worth it!” If you simply aren’t satisfied with the relationship, despite attempts to improve it, it may be time to think about making a clean break.

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Control Your Learning p. 227

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Does Diversity Make a Difference? Chapter Activity Chapter Activity p. 230 p. 230 © 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning

Appreciate the American Mosaic Most of us are a blend of different ethnicities. Did you know the ethnicities of these famous people? Tiger Woods: Caucasian, Black, Indian, and Asian. Keanu Reeves: Hawaiian, Chinese, and Caucasian. Mariah Carey: Black, Venezuelan, and Caucasian Johnny Depp: Cherokee and Caucasian

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Quote: Adela A. Allen “We should acknowledge differences, we should greet differences, until difference makes no difference anymore.” Adela A. Allen Educator “We should acknowledge differences, we should greet differences, until difference makes no difference anymore.” Adela A. Allen Educator

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning VARK Activity Exercise 10.1, p. 233

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Chapter 10: Exercises and Activities Audio Summary of Chapter 10 Focus TV: Relationships © 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning C R: How Would You Respond?  C R: Intimate Relationships Self- Assessment  C R: Your Views on Diversity  Chapter Activity Chapter Activity p. 225 p. 225 Chapter Activity Chapter Activity p. 218 p. 218 Focus TV: Focus TV: Relationships Audio Chapter Summary Chapter Summary Back to Menu Back to Menu Chapter Activity Chapter Activity p. 230 p. 230 Insight  Action

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FOCUS TV Discussion Questions 1.Our FOCUS correspondent, Greg, seems unaware of his own level of emotional intelligence. Since your intrapersonal skills are part of your emotional intelligence, that makes sense. What are intrapersonal skills? Look back at chapter 11 of FOCUS, if you need to. 2.In her interview, Dr. Catherine Andersen says that EQ is essential to college success. Isn't college more about your IQ than your EQ? Why or why not? What does she mean? 3.Even though Greg’s role in the video is comedy, you may know people with low EQ like him. How would you recommend that Greg begin the process of increasing his EQ? 4.Kia Washington is described in the chapter and the video as someone with high IQ and low EQ. How is this likely to affect her success in college? Do you think she'll be academically successful? 5.If you were asked to assess your own level of emotional intelligence, what would you say? Of the five major components of EI described in the chapter, which is most challenging for you?

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning An Interactive Teaching Tool FOCUS on COLLEGE SUCCESS CONCISE Edition Chapter 10 Constance Staley and Aren Moore F CUSPoints FOCUS on College Success