Are you who you want to be? Jan van Deventer EISLAB October 16, 2006

Goal of the lectures Discuss deep issues within the division Boost feeling of self-worth Boost interdependence Build a strong team Division gains international fame

Stimulus and response StimulusResponse

Proactivity: 30 days test Work only in your circle of influence Make and keep small commitments Be a light, not a judge Be a model, not a critic Be part of the solution,not of the problem Do not argue for people’s weaknesses When you make a mistake, admit it & learn Do not get into blaming & accusing Work on what you have control over

Begin with the end in mind Think of your funeral What legacy do you want to leave?

Rescripting or paradigm shift Imagination Conscience Self-awareness

Things are created twice House with blueprints Article and drafts D program

Principle centerness Security Guidance Wisdom Power

Alternative centers Spouse centeredness Family centeredness Money centeredness Work centeredness Procession centeredness Pleasure centeredness Friend/enemy centeredness

Personal mission statement I am Arselan and I shall maintain. I constructively influence all I encounter.

Values (1 of 2) ｷ Christianity: I keep Jesus Christ as my role model. ｷ Integrity: I am true to my beliefs and myself. ｷ Respect: I value all being as they are without prejudice. ｷ Patience: I am strong enough to fight circumstances and others who could impair my (sound) judgment. ｷ Communication: I honestly and assertively share my opinion with others while listening to their opinions.

Values (2 of 2) ｷ Family: I am a good role model and lead my life in a way that makes me proud of myself. ｷ Creativity and imagination: I life and things from different perspectives. ｷ Service: I provide a helpful hand. ｷ Cheerfulness: I do it all with a smile and empathy. ｷ Growth and improvement: Both physically and mentally, I reach beyond where I am today. I free myself of bad habits and learn good ones. I take time for (self) refection.

Roles (1 of 2) ｷ Arselan (Myself): I am responsible for myself. I take the time to reflect on my views, my accomplishments, my behaviors, and my interactions with others, my eating and exercising habits, in order to be a balanced person who reflects the light of God. ｷ Father (Rebecka, Frank, Eric, Oskar): I am pleasant, patient and supportive towards my children. I also understand the great influence I have on them and therefore strive to be a good example. ｷ Leader and manager (EISLAB): I lead my team with the aim that its members feel well both individually and as a group while being productive towards a clear common goal. I am responsible for balanced work and financial load.

Roles (2 of 2) ｷ Director (CASTT): I coordinate relationships between the automotive industry and the university and moreover within the university. I am a catalyst to reach the highest potential of yield. ｷ Teacher (Students): I understand the subject I teach and its importance in the curriculum of an engineer. I am able to present this importance as well at the material in a way that enables the students to fully grasp the concepts. ｷ Advisor (Yassin, Kimmo, Elena): I understand and can clarify the problems or issues at hand to the advisee. I can guide him /her to find the answers. I am supportive in his/her communication of the results. Researcher (Myself, research society): I am able to understand and explain what the problems or issues are. I am able to put forward theories, experiments and results. I can clearly communicate with others throughout the whole process.

Who do you want to be? When you react to a stimulus or situation, is your response inline with whom you want to be? Are you response able? Are you your own master?

Discover yourself What is your mission in life? What do you value?