Healthy Relationships 4/19/2017 2:42 AM Healthy Relationships Junior Health © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

Do Now Define what you think the word “relationship” means. 4/19/2017 2:42 AM Do Now Define what you think the word “relationship” means. What makes a relationship healthy or unhealthy? © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy? A relationship: A healthy relationship: 4/19/2017 2:42 AM Healthy vs. Unhealthy? A relationship: The way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. A healthy relationship: Promotes self-respect, encourages productivity and health, and is free of violence and/or drug abuse An unhealthy relationship: Harms self-respect, interferes with productivity and health, and includes violence and/or drug abuse © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

Types of Relationships Friendships Family Parent/Child Sibling Extended Relatives Intimate/Romantic Co-workers/Client Student/Teacher

Characteristics of a healthy relationship 4/19/2017 2:42 AM Characteristics of a healthy relationship © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

Characteristics of an unhealthy relationship 4/19/2017 2:42 AM Characteristics of an unhealthy relationship © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

A Balancing Act Healthy relationships maintain a balance between the individuals involved in the relationship.

A Balancing Act me you us

A Balancing Act If the relationship is all about ME, then I am focusing on getting my needs met and expect you to make my needs your priority as well— and your needs suffer. me you

A Balancing Act If the relationship is all about YOU, then I am focusing on getting your needs met at the expense of my own. you me

A Balancing Act If the relationship is about US, then we are both focused on the relationship that we lose our individuality. us

A Balancing Act In a healthy relationship, YOU, ME and US are in balance most of the time. However, sometimes YOU or ME may need more attention…and that’s ok. me you us

Activity!

4/19/2017 2:42 AM Scenario One “I cheated on my boyfriend because the relationship had become so predictable and I needed some excitement. He never found out and I’m not sure if I should tell him.” Choice 1—Come clean and tell your boyfriend the truth. Choice 2—Tell him you’re bored and try to improve your relationship. Choice 3—Do nothing, what he doesn’t know can’t hurt him. Choice 4—Break up. Face it, it’s over. © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

4/19/2017 2:42 AM Scenario Two “Your friend, Paul, is a single father trying to get his high school diploma. His 2-year old daughter is in day care. Recently the day care has been criticized in the press as being physically abusive towards its children, but no formal charges have been filed. Paul can’t afford any other day care center and refuses to remove his daughter.” Choice 1— Try to explain to Paul why he should remove his daughter from the daycare. Choice 2—Stay out of it, it’s not your business. Choice 3— Talk to Paul’s parents about the situation. Choice 4— Report Paul to Child Protective Services. © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

Scenario Three “You are walking in the hallway and you see one of your friends in a classroom talking to his teacher. It appears the teacher is being flirty towards your friend. The teacher then places her hand on his back and caresses his shoulder.” Choice 1 – Ignore what you saw. Choice 2 – Ask your friend about what happened. Choice 3 – Go to the principal and tell him everything. Choice 4 – Explain the situation to your parents and ask what you should do.

4/19/2017 2:42 AM Scenario Four “My best friend has started to date this much older guy, she’s 15 and he’s 22. She says she likes him because he’s more mature than the boys our age, he buys her stuff and he has a car. I know he’s been asking her to have sex with him. I have a really bad feeling about this guy. I don’t know if I should tell her what I think.” Choice 1—Stay out of it, it’s none of your business. Choice 2—You should tell her that it worries you. Choice 3—You should tell her parents. Choice 4—Go straight to the guy and ask him what he wants with your friend. © 2007 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved. Microsoft, Windows, Windows Vista and other product names are or may be registered trademarks and/or trademarks in the U.S. and/or other countries. The information herein is for informational purposes only and represents the current view of Microsoft Corporation as of the date of this presentation. Because Microsoft must respond to changing market conditions, it should not be interpreted to be a commitment on the part of Microsoft, and Microsoft cannot guarantee the accuracy of any information provided after the date of this presentation. MICROSOFT MAKES NO WARRANTIES, EXPRESS, IMPLIED OR STATUTORY, AS TO THE INFORMATION IN THIS PRESENTATION.

Consent & Consensual Sex The issue of consensual sex is often only brought up when there is some sort of doubt about whether both people engaging in sex want it to happen. However, consent is a topic that should be discussed whenever you're thinking about a possible sexual encounter.

Consenting to one behavior does not obligate you to consent to any other behaviors. Consenting on one occasion also does not obligate you to consent on any other occasion.

Statutory Rape “The employment, use, persuasion, inducement, enticement, or coercion of any child to engage in, or assist any other person to engage in, any sexually explicit conduct or any simulation of such conduct for the purpose of producing any visual depiction of such conduct” (Mitchell, 2003). Laws vary from state to state State laws can be found at http://www.ageofconsent.com

Where to turn? Guidance counselor Teacher Family/friends The National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline 1(866) 331-8453 The National Child Abuse Hotline 1(800) 252-2973 The National Youth Crisis Hotline 1(800) 448-4663 www.loveisrespect.org www.centeragainstdv.org