Healthy Relationships Ms. Smith Ms. Furman Ms. Ruiz http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=it7ewj7cpQ4

What Makes a Healthy Relationship? Mutual Respect Trust Honesty Support Fairness/Equality Separate Identities Good Communication Start with Video

What makes a Relationship Unhealthy? Meanness Disrespect Controlling Abusive Behavior Pressuring you to do things you don’t want to do

Pressure What do you do if somebody pressures you to do something that you don’t want to do? Just like in other aspects of being an adolescent, there is pressure when it comes to relationships. There may be pressure from your peers to be in a relationship, or pressure to not be in a relationship. There also may be pressure to do certain things if you are in a relationship. For example, a boy may feel like he has to kiss a girl because he is in a relationship with her, and that’s what his friends are telling him or that’s what he saw on TV. On the other hand, a girl may feel pressure to let a boy kiss her, even if that’s not necessarily what she wants to do because that’s what her friends or the media are pressuring her to do. Additionally, a young person might feel pressure to spend time with the person that they are in a relationship with instead of hanging out with their friends.

Cyber dating

Pros Meet new people/start relationships Easier to find people with the same interests and personality traits Get to know each other before meeting face to face Convenient and Economical (stay at home) Choose who to date Emotionally Safe (rejection/physical issues)

Cons Lack of emotional commitment Dangerous Who is on the other end of the computer? Digital abuse and harassment Used as a tool to spread rumors /gossip

“Social networking sites, texts, cell phones and emails—have given abusers another way to control, degrade and frighten their partners” -Urban Institute www.youtube.com/watch?v=U2gIEqW-lL8

How Teens Get Abused and Harassed through Technology • Used my social networking account without permission: reported by 8.7% of teens in relationships • Sent me texts/e-mails/etc. to engage in sexual acts I did not want: 7.4% • Pressured me to send a sexual or naked photo of myself: 6.8% • Sent threatening messages to me: 6.1% • Sent me so many messages it made me feel unsafe: 5.5% • Posted embarrassing photos of me online: 5.5% • Wrote nasty things about me on his or her profile page: 5.1% • Spread rumors about me using a cell phone/e-mail/a networking site, etc.: 5.0% • Made me afraid when I did not respond to my cell phone/texts/etc.: 4.2% • Sent sexual or naked photos I did not want: 3.8%

• Used information from my social networking site to harass me: 3.7% • Sent me instant messages or chats that made me feel scared: 3.4% • Used a cell phone/text/etc. to threaten to harm me physically: 2.7% • Took video of me and sent it to his or her friends without my permission: 2.6% • Threatened me if I did not send a sexual or naked photo of myself: 2.6% • Created a profile page about me knowing it would upset me: 1.3% -Urban Institute 2013

Manti Te’o “Girlfriend Hoax” It can happen to anyone! Manti Te’o “Girlfriend Hoax”

It can happen to anyone! www.youtube.com/watch?v=dT1GvPQG904