VIOLENCE In the presentation, you will learn about: Basic terminology of violence Examples of different forms of violence

What is VIOLENCE? The threat of or actual use of physical force against oneself or another Often results in injury or death Examples: Homicide (2 nd leading cause of death year olds) Suicide (3 rd leading cause of death year olds) Relationship Abuse

BULLYING Unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves a real perceived power imbalance The behavior is repeated or has potential to be repeated over time Effects of Bullying Anxiety and stress about coming to or being at school Fear Depression Decreased self-esteem Suicidal thoughts Lower grades

CYBER BULLYING Using technology to threat, insult or harass someone repeatedly Facebook Twitter Text Messages s Ways to STOP Bullying SPEAK UP Reach out to bullying victims Don’t laugh at others expense Don’t make jokes or single out another person

What IMPACT does friendship have on a bullying victim? Friendships can.. Provide a support system Help the victim know they are not alone Create a safe environment Stop some of the bullying from happening

HARASSMENT (non-sexual): Unwanted remarks or actions that cause a person emotional or physical harm Examples: Using racist slang, phrases or nicknames Remarks about skin color or religious beliefs Making offensive gestures

SEXUAL HARASSMENT: Any uninvited or unwelcome sexual remark or sexual advance Examples: Making comments about one’s body type Unwanted touching Telling inappropriate jokes about body parts or one’s sexual behavior

Sexual Harassment: What can YOU do Avoid being alone with someone you don’t trust Report behavior to an adult Speak up Use refusal skills to reject unwanted sexual advances

HAZING “An act that may cause harm, humiliation, extreme mental or physical stress, as well as intimidation, in order for a student to be initiated into or accepted into a student team or activity” Examples Socially Isolating new members Expecting new members to perform personal services (i.e. carrying books, cooking or cleaning) Be expected to harass others Forced to drink unknown substances or mixtures

HATE VIOLENCE: Speech or behavior intended to hurt or intimidate someone or group of people based on certain characteristics Someone may be targeted because of their… Race Gender Religion Sexual orientation Disability Examples: Behaviors can be spoken, written or physical attacks Vandalism Verbal threats Using weapons to threat or kill

How do fights start? Anger is the root cause of most fights and/or arguments Anger Hurt Pride/Feelings Embarrassment Revenge Peer Pressure Control

Preventing Fights Once you recognize a conflict, there are two general approaches people take: Ignoring the Conflict OR Confronting a Person Wisely

Ignore the Conflict Situations not worth the argument Ignore a conflict if… You will never see the person again The individual is not important The situation is based on rumors that can be overlooked A person tries to provoke you into a fight

Confronting a Person Wisely Choose the time and place carefully [seek a wise person] Stay calm Negotiate a Solution (Be willing to apologize) Use I-Messages (States the problem, without blaming someone for it)