"I just want the bullying to stop. That is all I ever wanted. I used to love going to school. Now I hate it." (9-year-old Verity Ward quoted in the Sunday Telegraph, 12 March 2000)

Agenda 9:00 a.m. : Refreshments are served in staff lounge or library 9:30 a.m. : Introduction to PD day – PowerPoint Presentation (and discussion) on the following: - terms and definitions - interesting quotes - bullying vs. harassment 9:50 a.m. : Introduction and showing of “The Bully Solution” video 10:00 a.m. : “The Bully Solution” activity (a.k.a. – “Have you ever…”) 10:20 a.m. : Discussion about results from activity 10:40 a.m. : BREAK (refreshments will be served) 11:00 a.m. PowerPoint Presentation (and discussion) on the following : Bullying in the classroom - forms of bullying - case studies/stories/stats - setting up a bully-free classroom - strategies for students and teachers 12:00 p.m. : LUNCH BREAK (lunch will be served) 1:00 p.m. : Scenario activity and discussion 1:45 p.m. : BREAK (15 minutes) : Refreshments will be provided 2:00 p.m. : PowerPoint Presentation (and discussion) on the following: Bullying in the workplace - forms of bullying - case studies/stories/facts - setting up a bully-fee workplace - strategies for teachers and administrators 3:00 p.m. : PwerPoint Presentation and discussion on things we can do as a staff in the future Conclusion and empowering statements 3:30 p.m. : Dismissal

Terms and Definitions Q: What is a bully? A: “A noisy, blustering fellow, more insolent than courageous; one who is threatening and quarrelsome; an insolent, tyrannical fellow.” (BrainyQuote) What is a bully? A bully is someone who uses his/her own power to hurt another person. What are the forms of bullying? Verbal – name-calling, teasing, etc. Physical – hitting, kicking, etc. Psychological – instilling feelings such as loneliness, anxiety, and fear Cyber – through , instant messaging, Internet chat rooms, etc. Racist – racial slurs or jokes making fur of culture or tradition Sexual – involves unwanted physical contact or sexually abusive or inappropriate comments What is the root cause of bullying? The emotion anger, based on a form of hurt, is the root cause of bullying.

Terms and Definitions What are some signs that someone is being bullied? –inventing mysterious illnesses to avoid school –missing belongings or money –clothes torn or damaged –unexplained cuts, bruises, and scratches –sleeping problems –bedwetting –irritability –poor concentration –unexpected changes in routine –problems with school work What is a bystander? Involved bystander: This individual encourages and includes himself/herself within the bully situation, therefore taking the side of the bully. Ignoring bystander: This individual is aware of the situation but chooses to not get involved. This may be due to fear of personal retaliation or just too busy to worry about it. Some also may believe that the individual deserves what is coming in one way or another. Standup bystander: This individual has the moral instinct to defend and not let any individual be taunted or physically harmed by anyone. This individual is willing to expose the bully. Source:

Terms and Definitions Define the following and think of a time when you or one of your students or colleagues experienced any of the terms: Ableism Ageism Classism Discrimination Faithism Heterosexism Homophobia Lookism Objectification Oppression Prejudice Racism Scapegoating Sexism Stereotype Suppression Sweeping Generalization Others?

“I had my bully, and it was excruciating. Not only the bully, but the intimidation I felt.” - Robert Cormier

Bullying vs. Harassment The main differences between bullying in the workplace and harassment are: Harassment Usually has a physical edge to it such as touching, intrusion into your personal space and damage done to your possessions. Bullying Is mostly psychological for example criticism about work or stealing work from you to use as their ideas. Harassment You are the focus of attention because of who you are for example, a woman, the colour of your skin or disabled. Bullying Anyone will do regardless of the colour of skin, sex or competence. Harassment Could just be a few incidents or many over time. Bullying Bullying is very rarely just a single occurrence and happens frequently. Harassment The victim realizes they are being harassed right away. Bullying The victim doesn’t realize what is happening to them at first. Harassment If there is an assault it is usually of a sexual or indecent nature.

Bullying vs. Harassment Bullying Bullying almost never consists of assaults of a sexual nature but mainly physical such as pushing or punching and is often mental abuse. Harassment There is often an element of being possessive for example stalking a person. Bullying Bullying is usually about controlling the person there and then, for example frightening someone or making them feel small in front of others. Harassment Offensive language relating to the colour of your skin or sex is often used Bullying Vulgar language can be used but in a different context and usually to state that you are useless or worthless. Harassment The problem occurs with the person both in and outside of work. Bullying The problem with the person only occurs in the workplace. Harassment The person sees the victim as easy prey. Bullying The victim is seen as a threat which must be controlled. Source: world.com

Moving on… It’s time for “The Bully Solution”