Stress Management Clarity

A philosophy professor stood before his class with some items on the table in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with rocks, about 2" in diameter. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles, of course, rolled into the open areas between the rocks. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He then asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "Yes."

"Now," said the professor, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things - your family, your partner, your health, your children - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter - like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else. The small stuff." "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued "there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal. Take care of the rocks first - the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

Busy Schedule Hectic scheduleOrganized schedule

Blueprints Sewing patterns Business plans Why not make plans for your time?

Clarify your life Prioritize your to- do list Prioritize your to- do list Learn how to say NO Learn how to say NO Time management Time management Plan out each day Establish boundaries Clarify expectations

Time Management=Stress management

Examples

Ways to politely say no “I’m sorry I won’t be able to.” “I’m sorry I won’t be able to.” “I have a previous engagement.” “I have a previous engagement.” “Thank you for asking but…” “Thank you for asking but…” “Thanks, but I’ll pass this time.” “Thanks, but I’ll pass this time.” Have a warm tone of voice Smile Be Brief No elaborate excuses

Wheel of Life

Tips to organized living Everything in its place Everything in its place Start with small tasks Start with small tasks Clean as you go Clean as you go Important documents in safe place Important documents in safe place Tangible inbox-for home and work Tangible inbox-for home and work Google calendar; or daily planner Tailor your system to your needs “Landing Strip”-the area or tray where phones, cards, money, purses, and keys are dropped off when you come in the house

Establish Boundaries Decide now what YOU will and will not do Decide now what YOU will and will not do Some things are not necessary Some things are not necessary You do not have to be a superhero You do not have to be a superhero

Clarify Expectations Try to gain understanding of what is expected of you from others Try to gain understanding of what is expected of you from others Bosses Bosses Committee Leaders Committee Leaders Group Organizations Group Organizations Friend/Family Friend/Family

Find your method Making lists and crossing them off Making lists and crossing them off Using sticky notes-throwing them away when finished Using sticky notes-throwing them away when finished Hand-written planner Hand-written planner Phone application Phone application Computer calendar Computer calendar

“Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.” Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action. -Napoleon Hill

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