Do Now Explain what is happening in these pictures

Achieving Mental & Emotional Health Chapter 3 Lessons 1,2,3 “A prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain.” Achieving Mental & Emotional Health Self Esteem Emotions Anger Management

Self Actualization – being the best you can Self Fulfillment- inner talent, creativity Self Worth - important, capable, confident. , recognized, self esteem & self respect Love & Friendship Safety Physical

Personality – complex set of characteristics that makes you unique Influences: 1) Heredity 2) Environment Modeling- observing & learning from the people around you Role Model – Someone whose success or behavior serves as an example for you

The Man In The Glass Peter Dale Wimbrow When you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes you king for a day Just go to the mirror and look at yourself And see what that man has to say. For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife Whose judgment upon you must pass The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life Is the one staring back from the glass. He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest For he’s with you, clear to the end And you’ve passed your most difficult, dangerous test If the man in the glass is your friend. You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years And get pats on the back as you pass But your final reward will be heartache and tears If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

Brain and Self-Esteem (failures) Brains Works Riding Bike Self-Esteem Training an Elephant

Brain The brain is made up of cells called neurons. These cells have nerve endings. Nerve endings release chemical and electrical stimuli to communicate with each other. forms neuro-pathways in the brain and is the basis for how the brain works. When you initially learn something the pathway or connection is weak. The more frequently you think a particular thought the stronger the pathway becomes, forming an automatic habit of thinking.

Riding a Bike At first you must pay attention to staying balanced, keeping your eyes on the road, holding onto the handlebars and steering in your desired direction. Then the more you practice, the stronger your bicycle riding pathways become. Eventually becomes AUTOMATIC

Self Esteem Your brain works the same way in forming how you think about yourself. As a child your thoughts about yourself are formed from the messages you’ve heard and believed from important and influential people in your life.

Elephant Baby Elephant tied with a rope so it cannot move. Eventually it gives up even trying

Self Esteem – how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself Personal identity – your sense of yourself as a unique

High or Low Self-Esteem Are the following traits an example of high or low self esteem? How many describe you?

Fears change or trying new things. Take responsibility for one’s actions & mistakes Able to take charge and show leadership Aware and accepting of one’s own strengths & weakness Unable to show leadership, follows others When victimized remains victim does not overcome situation Accepts change and is eager to accept new things. Has self respect and self confidence Always criticizes self or blames others Gets approval from self and does not depend on others. Tends to find the negative in things, people, and situations

Do Now: In your own words, what is self esteem and what does it have to do with Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.

Self Esteem – how much you value, respect, and feel confident about yourself Personal identity – your sense of yourself as a unique

John Foppe Video “I am unique……I am of great worth.” John F Video – Self-Esteem (Personal Identity)

Form Positive Self-Esteem/Personal Identity Strengths & weaknesses Positive values Goals Meaningful relationships Constructive criticism – non- hostile comments that encourage improvement Self-talk – say good things about yourself

The purposes of doing this "Letter to Self" are: To provide a record of your life and who you are now To anchor in time your current views, attitudes, philosophy, and outlook To explore your feelings and opinions about a variety of issues To create a document that, years from now, will have significant value to you

ME, NOW:  my hopes, fears, dreams, intentions, goals, problems, concerns, likes, dislikes, joys, frustrations; what I like about myself; what I don't like about myself; what I'm proud of; what I think about; what bothers me; who I am, etc. MY WORLD:  a description of my home, bedroom, school, neighborhood, town; my favorite places to go; chores, allowance, pet(s), possessions, clothes, religion, current events; FAVORITES: books, music groups, movies, TV, etc.  Include a map of your room, street, etc. WHAT I DO: my hobbies, pastimes, sports, school activities; what I do when I'm alone; what I do with friends; favorite snacks and foods; chores; how I spend my weekends and vacations; special activities I do, organizations I belong to, etc. PEOPLE IN MY LIFE: my family, siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents, friends, best friend(s), teachers, the opposite sex, "him" or "her," who I like, people I'd like to know better, people I admire and respect, important people in my life, people who annoy me, etc. MY FUTURE:  predictions, what I want to do, my long range intentions, what I'm looking forward to; what I'm dreading; my goals, my hopes and fears for the world; summer vacation, high school, college, marriage, employment, etc.