DIVORCE: How to talk to your adolescent Ariel Cook Chelsea George Kelsea Flynn Kimberley Sweet William Lannon

What is divorce?

DIVORCE: “A judicial declaration dissolving a marriage in whole or in part, especially one that releases the marriage partners from all matrimonial obligations” -Dictonary.com

Why is divorce a problem?

EFFECTS Part 1 1.More likely drink alcohol and smoke when they are older. 2.If they are younger than 15 when their parent get divorced – increased risk of becoming depressed. 3.Lifespan is almost five years less than those from intact families. Teenage development*: *Effects may vary

EFFECTS Part 3 Girls: 1.Will seek love and attention, but will fear abandonment. 2.More likely to engage in sexual activity earlier than those whose family is intact. 3.May feel anxiety about forming relationships.

EFFECTS Part 2 Boys: 1.More likely to have lower self esteem than girls. 2.Usually aggressive and disobedient. 3.More likely to die from accident and violence.

Starting the conversation...

BEFORE 1.Tell the children the truth about what is going on the between the two parental figures 2.Keep the conversation age appropriate 3.Reassure the child or adolescent that they were not responsible for the divorce and that the divorce does not change the way that you and the other parent feel about them Ways to start the conversation:

AFTER What to do after the divorce: 1.Support your child in any way you can. 2.Listen to your child and answer any questions they have about ongoing changes in their lives. 3.Every child has a different reaction to divorce. Some normal reactions* Anger Anxiety Mild depression

What can you do to help?

Do Let kids know their feelings are valid. Reduce disruptions in daily routines. Stay involved in child’s life Stay consistent! Tell kids both parents love and support them Don’t Tell kids how they’re feeling. Fight in front of kids Use kids as go- between/spy Pressure kids to take sides Use kids as scapegoats

SUPPORT 1.Maintain routine. 2.Take care of yourself. 3.Work with your ex. 4.Know when to seek help. For parents:

To wrap things up...

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