Building Healthy Relationships Chapter 6 Building Healthy Relationships Lesson 1 Building Communication Skills Click for: >> Main Menu >> Chapter 6 Assessment Teacher’s notes are available in the notes section of this presentation. Next >>

In this lesson, you will understand that Essential Questions: Why is it important to have healthy relationships? How do friends impact my decisions? Enduring Understandings: In this lesson, you will understand that communication is very important for healthy relationships. there are different ways of communicating. peer pressure is the powerful feeling of pressure from someone your own age that can push you toward making certain choices, good or bad. when you face pressure you can stand your ground.

The exchange of information through the use of words or actions communication When both sides in a conflict agree to give up something in order to reach a solution that satisfies everyone compromise peer pressure The influence that your peer group has on you Click to reveal the definitions. assertive response A response that declares your position strongly and confidently

Communicating Effectively Healthy relationships depend on good communication skills. Careful listening is important for effective communication. Careful listening shows that you are interested in what the other person wants to share. Careful listening shows that you are interested in what the other person wants to share.

Every communication needs three parts. What Is Communication? Every communication needs three parts. communication The exchange of information through the use of words or actions The message must go from the sender to the receiver. If the receiver does not pay close attention, the receiver might be misunderstood and the communication breaks down. When you express yourself clearly and understand other people, you can communicate effectively. The better you communicate, the stronger your relationships are likely to be. Message Sender Receiver

Different Types of Communication verbal communication Expressing feelings, thoughts, or experiences with words, either by speaking or writing nonverbal communication Getting messages across without using words body language Postures, gestures, and facial expressions Verbal communication lets you read a book, a magazine, an Internet site, or a street sign. It lets you keep in touch with people by phone, in person, and by writing letters and e-mail. It also lets you enjoy television, radio, and films.

Speaking Skills Think about what you want to say. Use “I” messages to express your thoughts, feelings, needs, and wants. Use tact. Make clear, simple statements. Be specific. When you use “I” messages, you keep the focus on the message you are trying to get across. tact The sense of what to do or say to avoid offending others

Listening Skills Use body language to show you are listening. Take advantage of pauses to offer encouragement. Do not interrupt. Repeat or rephrase the speaker’s thoughts and feelings. You can use body language to show you are listening by leaning toward the speaker, looking at him or her directly in the eyes, and nodding from time to time. You can take advantage of pauses in the conversation to offer encouragement by using phrases such as “Really?” or “Tell me more about that.” Don’t interrupt unless you need the speaker to clarify a statement. Politely ask questions until you are sure you understand its meaning. Mirror what you hear to show you are empathetic and understand how the speaker feels.

Do Now… Why is it important to learn how to communicate with others? Name a positive relationship you recently created and why it’s important to meet new friends?

Think-Pair-Share Activity Write down 5 healthy & 5 unhealthy ways to resolve conflict that you would see or experience on: - TV - At home - At school - Playing sports - Etc.

Building Healthy Relationships Chapter 6 Building Healthy Relationships Lesson 3 Your Friendships and Peer Pressure Click for: >> Main Menu >> Chapter 6 Assessment Teacher’s notes are available in the notes section of this presentation. Next >>

A strong friendship takes time to develop. Friends Are Important A strong friendship takes time to develop. friendship A relationship with someone you know, trust, and regard with affection Your friends are usually people who live near you or who like the same things you do. Friends also usually have similar values. Strong friendships are a building block for social health.

Traits of a Good Friend Trust Caring Respect Loyalty Trust: Good friendships are based on honesty. Caring: True friends care about each other’s well-being. Respect: Good friends respect each other’s differences and treat each other as equals. Loyalty: True friends stay together in good times and bad.

Building Friendships Making new friends can be difficult. Try joining groups who have interests similar to yours.

Tips for Building Friendships Spend more time with your friends. Identify problems and try to resolve them. Communicate openly and honestly. Be there when your friends need you. Encourage your friends to go for their goals.

Knowing When to Compromise When disagreements happen, friends are willing to compromise. compromise When both sides in a conflict agree to give up something in order to reach a solution that satisfies everyone Being friends with someone does not guarantee that you will never have disagreements. Reaching a compromise is about finding a way to meet in the middle. If a friend asks you to do something you know is wrong, you should always be firm and say no. You should not compromise when you have to act against your values or if you might end up harming yourself or others.

Some Benefits of Healthy Relationships make people happier and ease stress are realistic and flexible mean sharing and talking include self-care use fair fighting techniques Your friends are usually people who live near you or who like the same things you do. Friends also usually have similar values.

Most of your friends are probably your peers. Peer Pressure Most of your friends are probably your peers. peers People close to you in age who are a lot like you Peer pressure can be positive or negative. Sometimes teens worry about what their friends think about them. Your friends’ opinions can affect how you act. peer pressure The influence that your peer group has on you

Negative Peer Pressure Friends should not pressure you to do something that is unhealthy or unsafe, or that goes against your family’s values. True friends respect your choices.

Negative Peer Pressure Resisting Negative Peer Pressure Use an assertive response. assertive A response that response declares your position strongly and confidently When you use an assertive response, you are calm, firm, and clear.

Negative Peer Pressure Different ways that you can respond to negative peer pressure. Say no over and over Say no and leave Change the subject Ignore the person and walk away Suggest an alternative. Suggest they do it alone. Say you’re not allowed. Give a reason why you can’t. Give a reason why it’s not a good idea. Go hang out with someone else.

Positive Peer Pressure Peer pressure isn’t all bad. You and your friends can pressure each other into some things that will improve your health and social life and make you feel good about your decisions. Good friends help you say no to risk behaviors, such as using tobacco. Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

Positive Peer Pressure Here are some good examples friends can pressure each other to do: Be honest Avoid Alcohol Avoid drugs Not smoke Be nice Respect others Work hard Exercise (together!) Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself. You and your friends can also use good peer pressure to help each other resist bad peer pressure.

Peer Pressure Scenarios - You are at school taking a test. The person sitting next to you is cheating and offers the test answers to you. - Your friends decide they are mad at the teachers and are not going to study for the social studies test. They are also not going to do homework for the rest of the week. - You are on your way home from school. Your best friend shows you a pack of cigarettes and says, “Let’s go over here behind the building and smoke one. - You are walking to school. Your friend, who skips school a lot, tries to get you to cut with him. - You are going to the store for your mom and you see two of your older friends hanging around the store. They try to get you to steal a bag of chips for them and promise you a ride on their motorcycle in return. - It’s after dark and you’re playing outside. Some of your friends decide it would be fun to throw rocks at some cars. Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

Discuss the Questions 1. Which kind of pressure is hardest for you to resist? 2. How can you prepare yourself for these situations? 3. Is it harder to resist friends or people you don’t know? 4. Have you ever tried to pressure a friend? Why? 5. Would you risk losing a friend over something you felt strongly about? 6. What are some factors that influence your decisions? 7. What consequences are you thinking of when someone tries to pressure you? Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

Building Healthy Relationships Chapter 6 Building Healthy Relationships Lesson 3 Your Friendships and Peer Pressure Click for: >> Main Menu >> Chapter 6 Assessment Teacher’s notes are available in the notes section of this presentation. Next >>

Positive Peer Pressure Peer pressure isn’t all bad. You and your friends can pressure each other into some things that will improve your health and social life and make you feel good about your decisions. Good friends help you say no to risk behaviors, such as using tobacco. Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

Peer pressure takes many forms Spoken pressure: Rejection, Put Down, Reasoning Unspoken pressure: The Look Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

Peer pressure evokes a broad range of feelings Positive: pride, importance, belonging, etc. Negative: confusion, insecurity, isolation, etc. Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

People give in to peer pressure for a number of reasons to improve social or academic standing to broaden their group of friends or acquaintances to attract or deflect attention to avoid negative repercussions to attract positive feedback to learn something Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

The Follower The Put Down Rejection The Look The Example Values Role Play Scenarios Group of Five. Decide the Roles. Two Minutes to practice it. It is SHOW TIME (come in front of the class and present as a real PLAY). When the play is over classmates will get the chance to guess which scenario you portrait. Portrait Choices The Follower The Put Down Rejection The Look The Example Values Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

Taking Charge of Your Health Chapter 2 Taking Charge of Your Health Lesson 1 Making Responsible Decisions Click for: >> Main Menu >> Chapter 2 Assessment Teacher’s notes are available in the notes section of this presentation. Next >>

Essential Question: What determines a good decision? Enduring Understand: In this lesson, students will understand that decision making is a key part of growing up. they can make wiser choices if they first understand the consequences of a health-related decision. there are six (6) specific steps which can help them to make healthful decisions.

True or False The choices and decisions you make can affect each part of your health triangle. For example, when you get enough sleep “9 hours daily”, you improve your physical health by having the energy for your activities. Your values come from different sources. When you are young, you get most of them from your parents or guardians and other family members. Click to reveal the definitions.

The process of making a choice or solving a problem decision making values The beliefs that guide the way a person lives Click to reveal the definitions.

Decisions and Your Health One of the keys to being responsible is good decision making. decision making The process of making a choice or solving a problem Choosing to have juice or milk with lunch is a small decision, but it’s part of healthful eating. Deciding never to use tobacco would have a lasting, positive effect on your health. Choosing to have juice or milk with lunch is a small decision, but it’s part of healthful eating. Other decisions may help you avoid harmful behaviors, such as deciding never to use tobacco. Deciding never to use tobacco would have a lasting, positive effect on your health. Good decision making comes from learning to analyze the validity of health information and understanding the role that family, community, and cultural attitudes play when people make health-related decisions.

Your choices should be based on values. Decisions and Values Your choices should be based on values. values The beliefs that guide the way a person lives Your values include your beliefs about what is right and wrong and what is most important to you.

Your religious beliefs Decisions and Values Sources of Values Your family Your Culture Your religious beliefs Your life experiences

Influences on Decisions Sometimes you make decisions based on factual information. Other times, you make decisions because something else influenced you. Sources of Influences Parents Friends Peers The Media Sometimes you make decisions based on factual information. Other times, you make decisions because something else influenced you.

Thinking About Consequences You can make wiser choices if you first understand the consequences of a health-related decision. Thinking About Consequences How will this decision affect my health? Will it affect the health of others? If so, how? Is the behavior I might choose harmful or illegal? How will my family feel about my decision? Does this decision fit with my values? How will this decision affect my goals? You can make wiser choices if you first understand the consequences of a health-related decision.

Thinking Critically Scenario: This is your first year in High School and you have started meeting new people. One of your good friends from middle school introduced you to what he/ she calls “ a great group of friends.” Unfortunately, you have heard from some people who are already in the group that if you want to be part of their group you have to start acting and doing things which they usually do. For example: smoking cigarettes and engaging in health risk behaviors. Activity: After reading and understanding the scenario above. Please copy the question to the right and write down the answers. You have five (5) minutes to answer the questions and then share answers with your classmates. How will this decision affect my health? 2. Will it affect the health of others? If so, how? 3. Is the behavior I might choose harmful or illegal? 4. How will my family feel about my decision? 5. Does this decision fit with my values? 6. How will this decision affect my goals? For example, if you believe that it’s important to keep parks clean, you might decide to spend time each week picking up trash in your local park.

The Six (6) Steps of Decision Making 1 State the Situation What decision do you have to make? 2 List the Options What are your choices? 3 4 Weigh the Outcomes What are some of the possible consequences of each options? Consider Values How does each option fit in with your values? 5 1. State the Situation What decision do you have to make? How much time do you have to decide? 2. List the Options What are your choices? Can a reliable source, such as parents or guardians help you think of some other options? 3. Weight the Outcomes What are some of the possible consequences of each options? 4. Consider Values How does each option fit in with your values? 5. Make a Decision and Act What do you need to do to follow through on your decision? 6. Evaluate the Decision What were the actual consequences of your decision? Did the results turn out as you had planned? What did you learn? 6 Make a Decision and Act What do you need to do to follow through on your decision? Evaluate the Decision What were the actual consequences of your decision? Did the results turn out as you had planned? What did you learn?

Six Steps of Decision Making State the Situation List the Options Thinking Critically Scenario: You have an important science test tomorrow and you are planning to study for it. Unfortunately, your grade for science is not that good and to make things worse you know that a lot of your close friends are going to hang out at the mall this afternoon. You know that you are not going to be able to study for the test in the evening because some of your relatives are going to come to your house later. Activity: Use the six (6) steps of decision making learned in class to come up with the best solution for the situation. Write your answers in your folder You have 5 minutes to finish and share your answer with classmates. Six Steps of Decision Making State the Situation List the Options Weight the Outcomes Consider Values Make a Decision and Act Evaluate the Decision 1. State the Situation What decision do you have to make? How much time do you have to decide? 2. List the Options What are your choices? Can a reliable source, such as parents or guardians help you think of some other options? 3. Weight the Outcomes What are some of the possible consequences of each options? 4. Consider Values How does each option fit in with your values? 5. Make a Decision and Act What do you need to do to follow through on your decision? 6. Evaluate the Decision What were the actual consequences of your decision? Did the results turn out as you had planned? What did you learn?

What I Learned Give Examples Name three sources of values. Lesson 1 Review What I Learned Give Examples Name three sources of values. Answers should include three of these sources: parents, guardians, family, religion, cultural background, and personal experiences.

What I Learned List Name three possible influences on decisions. Lesson 1 Review What I Learned List Name three possible influences on decisions. Answers, which will vary, may include factual information, parents, friends, peers, television, movies, or commercials.

What I Learned Identify What are the six steps of decision making? Lesson 1 Review What I Learned Identify What are the six steps of decision making? state the situation, list options, weigh outcomes, consider values, make a decision and act, evaluate the decision

Lesson 1 Review Thinking Critically Apply Think back to a decision you made recently. What values influenced that decision? Answers, which will vary, should show an ability to apply the lesson content.

DO NOW Why is it important to have healthy relationships? One of your best friends from Middle School has been pressuring you to skip the last class with him/her. You understand that skipping class it is goes against your values and you might get in trouble for it as well. How would you respond to this negative peer pressure? Please provide at least 3 different ways that you might use to solve this problem.   What are some of the reasons why people given in to peer pressure? Positive peer pressure can be good for you. It can improve your health and safety and help you feel better about yourself.

Mental and Emotional Health Chapter 5 Mental and Emotional Health Lesson 4 Managing Stress Click for: >> Main Menu >> Chapter 5 Assessment Teacher’s notes are available in the notes section of this presentation. Next >>

In this lesson, students will understand that Essential Questions: How can stress be beneficial? How much stress is normal? In this lesson, students will understand that there are two different types of stress. the body reacts against stress. there are effective strategies to avoid and manage stress.

The body’s response to real or imagined dangers or other life events Stress Adrenaline A hormone that increases the level of sugar in the blood Suicide The act of killing oneself Click to reveal the definitions. Depression Depression is a state of low mood and aversion to activity.

What Is Stress? You cannot get rid of stress completely, but you can learn to deal with it effectively. stress The body’s response to real or imagined dangers or other life events Stress is an everyday experience felt by all people at all ages.

The two types of stress are: Positive Stress What Is Stress? The two types of stress are: Positive Stress Distress or Negative Stress An example of positive stress is when you try out for the school play. This stress makes you feel excited and ready to face a new challenge. An example of distress is when you get into an argument with a friend. positive stress Stress that can help you reach your goals distress/ negative stress Stress that prevents you from doing what you need to do, or stress that causes discomfort

Different people find different situations stressful. What Are Stressors? Common events like being late for class or playing a solo during a concert are examples of stressors. stressors Sources of stress More significant events that cause stress might include death, divorce, a move, a serious illness, or the loss of a friendship. Different people find different situations stressful.

The Body’s Response to Stress The body reacts to stress with the fight-or-flight response. fight-or-flight response The body’s way of responding to threats The fight-or-flight response is designed to protect us from anything that tries to harm our bodies. Your body responds to all stressors by getting ready to act by either fighting the stressor or fleeing from it.

A message is sent to the Hypothalamus Hypothalamus fires the nerve cells in the brain Nerve cells release chemicals Chemicals prepare our bodies for running or fighting More significant events that cause stress might include death, divorce, a move, a serious illness, or the loss of a friendship.

The Body’s Response to Stress As your body prepares for action against a stressor, it releases adrenaline. adrenaline A hormone that increases the level of sugar in the blood, giving your body extra energy Adrenaline increases your heart rate and blood pressure. More blood flows to your brain and muscles, which tense for action. Your breathing gets faster, and your air passages expand so you can take in more air. Your senses sharpen, making you extra aware of your surroundings. Adrenaline increases your heart rate and blood pressure. More blood flows to your brain and muscles, which tense for action. Your breathing gets faster, and your air passages expand so you can take in more air. Your senses sharpen, making you extra aware of your surroundings.

Avoiding Stress You can avoid some stressful situations by planning ahead and managing your time. You can deal with unavoidable stress by being prepared for situations like taking a test. Don’t overschedule yourself with too many activities and commitments.

Strategies for Managing Stress Eat nutritious foods. Stay physically active. Get enough sleep. Relax. Use your time wisely. Think positively. Talk with others. Eating right will help you feel better and give you more energy. Physical activity helps you relax and reduce tension. Most teens need at least eight hours of sleep each night to feel their best. Read a good book, listen to music, or choose another quiet activity to help you relax. Make a list of what you need to accomplish. Give yourself enough time to complete your tasks. Keep things in perspective. Focus on the positive things in your life. Other people can sometimes see solutions that you can’t. Even just talking about your problems with others can reduce stress.

Enduring Understanding: Students will understand that Essential Question: Why do teenagers need to learn about suicide? Enduring Understanding: Students will understand that depression is a mood disorder which can lead to people to ending their own lives. there are specific warning signs which can lead to suicide. ways to help someone who is contemplating suicide .

What Are Mental and Emotional Disorder? There are many types of mental and emotional disorders. mental and emotional disorders Illnesses that affect a person’s thoughts, feelings, and behavior A person with a mental and emotional disorder may: Be sad for a long period of time Have trouble sleeping Have little interest in activities that she or he used to enjoy

People with this disorder feel a strong sense What Is Depression? Depression is a state of low mood and aversion to activity. If depressed people begin to feel hopeless, they may consider ending their lives People with this disorder feel a strong sense Hopelessness Helplessness Worthlessness Guilt Extreme sadness.

What Is Suicide? If you believe that someone you know is considering suicide, talk to a trusted adult right away. suicide The act of killing oneself

Warning Signs of Suicide What Is Suicide? Warning Signs of Suicide Talking about suicide Wanting to be left alone Interest in death or violence Engaging in risky behavior, such as drug use Giving away possessions Saying final goodbyes to friends and loved ones

Performance Task: Health and Wellness Brochure You have asked by the school counselor from Southwest Middle to create a brochure relating to health and wellness. Your role is to develop a brochure to help students be more aware of different topics such as positive and negative peer pressure, steps to solving problems, the importance of healthy relationships, signs of suicide, and strategies to manage stress. The teacher, textbook, and peers are a great source to help you to accomplish this task. When you have accomplished this task, you will present your research to the “school counselor”.

Category Needs Improvement (1pts) Good (2pts) Outstanding (3pts) Negative/Positive Peer Pressure Student provides one example of negative/positive peer pressure for each- total (2) Student provides two examples of negative/positive peer pressure-total (4) Student provides three or more negative/positive peer pressure examples for each- total (6) Steps to Solving Problems (Decision Making Process) Student provides less than two examples of the decision making process Student provides three-five examples of the decision making process Student provides all six examples of the decision making process Importance of Healthy Relationships Student will provide one example of the benefits of healthy relationships Student will provide two examples of the benefits of healthy relationships Student will provide three examples of the benefits of healthy relationships Warning Signs of Suicide Student provides one example of ways they could identify warning signs of suicide Student provides two examples of ways they could identify warning signs of suicide Student provides three examples of ways they could identify warning signs of suicide Strategies for Managing Stress Student provides two examples of ways they can manage stress in a healthy way Student provides three examples of ways they can manage stress in a healthy way

Lesson 4 Review What I Learned Explain What are three healthy strategies for managing stress? Answer will vary but should include examples from Figure 5.2.

Lesson 4 Review Thinking Critically Analyze Do you think life today is more stressful that it was for your parents? Why or why not? Answers will vary but should include a discussion of stressors faced by teens today as compared with stressors faced by their parents when they were teens.

Lesson 4 Review Thinking Critically Hypothesize Why might adrenaline have been more important to human survival in the past than it is today? Life used to be more physically dangerous in the past so people literally had to fight or flee in order to survive.