Susan Keehn Crime Victim Advocate ATCC April 7, 2014

Our Mission To Create a Safer World for Everyone, We Work to Eliminate Violence and Oppression through Advocacy, Education and Services Our Vision Someplace Safe for Everyone

Safety Someplace Safe provides emergency services and support for victims of violence, and their families. We collaborate with systems professionals to create safe, healthy communities. Options Someplace Safe offers information and resources to individuals utilizing our services. We create opportunities for volunteers, donors and supporters to get involved. Hope Someplace Safe empowers survivors to live a violence free life. We inspire social change through advocacy, education and awareness. Your support makes this all possible!

Agency History  Originally opened as Region IV Council on Domestic Violence, an emergency Shelter for victims of domestic violence in 1979 (located in Fergus Falls)  Beginning in 1990, began to open Advocacy offices to provide crime victim services locally.  Advocacy Offices are now open in Big Stone, Douglas, Grant, Otter Tail (2 locations), Pope, Stevens, Traverse, Wadena and Wilkin Counties  Beginning in 1993, we began to open Parenting Time Centers to assist children and families.  PTCs are located in Fergus Falls, Glenwood, Morris, Ortonville, and Perham  In 2003, we changed our name to Someplace Safe to better reflect our expanding programming and services.  June 2010, opened the Someplace Safe Thrift Store in Alexandria. In August 2013 added another location in Morris.  September 2012 ceased operation of the Someplace Safe Shelter and implemented the S.T.E.P.S. program.

Someplace Safe Locations 9 Counties 10 Advocacy Offices 5 Parenting Time Centers 2 Thrift Stores Administration 9 Counties 10 Advocacy Offices 5 Parenting Time Centers 2 Thrift Stores Administration

Who Someplace Safe Serves  Victims of crime  Including victims and survivors of domestic violence, sexual violence, and other crimes  Families  General Public/Communities  Systems Professionals

Someplace Safe Programs  Advocacy Programs  Domestic Violence  Sexual Assault  General Crimes  Short Term Emergency Placement Services (S.T.E.P.S.)  Parenting Time Centers  Thrift Stores

24-Hour Crisis Line For help at any time, call a 24-Hour hotline:  Someplace Safe Crisis Line:  Minnesota Domestic Violence Crisis Line:  National Domestic Violence Hotline: SAFE (7233) TTY: If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

Annual Agency Numbers  4,500 Individuals receive services.  Approximately 1,000 Nights of Safety are provided to crime victims annually.  Over 12,000 people benefit from Community Education annually.

Annual Agency Numbers  Parenting Time Centers provide services to over 500 children annually through more than 1,100 exchanges and 900 supervised visits!

Annual Agency Numbers  Our Thrift Stores provide in excess of 200 v ouchers annually to help Someplace Safe clients and other community organizations!  Over 600 volunteers donate at least 10,000 hours of service agency-wide each year  Nearly $245,000 worth of time!

2013 Otter Tail Total – 1, Domestic Violence 291 Sexual Assault 916 General Crimes

2013 Douglas Total – 1, Domestic Violence 87 Sexual Assault 349 General Crimes

2013 Grant Total Domestic Violence 10 Sexual Assault 5 General Crimes

2013 Pope Total Domestic Violence 17 Sexual Assault 21 General Crimes

2013 Stevens Total Domestic Violence 15 Sexual Assault 14 General Crimes

2013 Traverse Total Domestic Violence 4 Sexual Assault 14 General Crimes

2013 Wadena Total Domestic Violence 11 Sexual Assault 67 General Crimes

2013 Wilkin Total Domestic Violence 13 Sexual Assault 39 General Crimes

2013 Big Stone Total 89 Domestic Violence

Myths and Facts  Domestic violence only affects only a small percentage of the population.  Abusers use violence because they get so angry that they are out of control.  Domestic violence occurs only in low-income, uneducated, and minority populations.

Myths and Facts continued  Drugs and alcohol causes domestic violence.  Domestic violence incidents are isolated occurrences.  The victim can always leave.

The FACT is:  Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence!  1 in 4 Women are victims of domestic violence.  1 in 14Men are victims of domestic violence.  1 in 3 Adolescents are victims of physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse from a dating partner.  1 in 10 Persons over age 60 are victims of elder abuse.  1 in 8 Children will experience some form of maltreatment serious enough to be confirmed by authorities. Actual child abuse victimization is higher.

Power & Control Wheel

Coercion & Threats Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her* Threatening to leave her, commit suicide or report her to Social Services Making her drop charges Making her do illegal things

Intimidation  Making her afraid by using looks, actions and gestures  Smashing things  Destroying her property  Abusing pets  Displaying weapons

Isolation Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, and where she goes Limiting her outside involvement Using jealousy to justify actions

Emotional Abuse Putting her down Making her feel bad about herself Calling her names Making her think she is crazy Playing mind games Humiliating her Making her feel guilty

Minimizing, Denying & Blaming Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously Saying the abuse didn’t happen Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior Saying she caused it

Economic Abuse Preventing her from getting or keeping a job Making her ask for money Giving her an allowance Taking her money Not letting her know about or have access to family income

Male Privilege  Treating her like a servant  Making all the big decisions  Acting like the “master of the castle”  Being the one to define men’s and women’s roles

The Abuser: In Adult Relationships Uses a pattern of multiple coercive and controlling behaviors To gain POWER and CONTROL which is the center of the wheel over the adult victim. THREATS, INTIMIDATION, and COERCION; the spokes, are used systematically to instill fear. PHYSICAL and SEXUAL violence are used to hold it all together.

Power and Control Wheel

Using Children Making her feel guilty about the children Using the children to relay messages Using visitation to harass her Threatening to take the children away

The Abuser: In Parent/Child Relationships Uses a pattern of multiple coercive and controlling behaviors to gain POWER and CONTROL over all relationships in the home, even the children

Cycle of Abuse

Domestic Violence

What YOU Can Do:  Do believe the person and what she is sharing. Listen without judging.  Do reassure the person that what has happened is not her fault.  If you suspect violence is occurring, call 911 in an Emergency or share Someplace Safe’s 24-Hour Crisis Line at

TAKE ACTION!  Respect and promote respect for all people, regardless of race, gender, religious affiliation, or sexual orientation.  Do not tolerate discrimination, violence, or degrading behaviors against anyone you perceive to be different from yourself.  When you are angry with your partner or children, respond without hurting or humiliating them.

TAKE ACTION  Model a nonviolence, respectful response to resolving conflicts in your family.  Develop and support a workplace environment safe from all forms of violence; have policies in place that support victims.  Try to live a violence free life by questioning your own attitudes and make a positive change where necessary.

Advocacy Offices  Located in local communities providing services to victims of crime  Services Include:  Medical Advocacy  Criminal Justice Advocacy  Civil Legal Advocacy  Information and Referral  Safety Planning

Advocacy Office Locations Ortonville Alexandria Elbow Lake Fergus Falls Perham Glenwood Morris Wheaton Wadena Breckenridge

Parenting Time Centers  Supervised Parenting Time  Safe Exchanges  Contact Exchanges  Skype Visits  Scheduling  Supervised Phone Calls

Parenting Time Centers Fergus Falls Glenwood Morris Ortonville Perham

Thrift Stores Mission We exist as Viable Cornerstones to Raise Funds and Awareness for Someplace Safe services, Engage Communities, Recycle usable goods, and Provide Employment and Volunteer Opportunities Vouchers Donations Partnerships Alexandria Morris

Someplace Safe Volunteers  Large Group Volunteering  Special Event Volunteers  Ongoing & Long-Term Volunteers  Crisis Line Volunteers  Volunteer Advocates or Parenting Time Center Staff  Monthly Volunteer Orientations:  Alexandria  Fergus Falls  Morris  For more information or to register for a volunteer orientation go to:

Victim & Donation Needs  Personal Care Items  Shampoo/Conditioner  Diapers  Paper Products  Household Items  Items in good condition to set up a new household  Furniture  Douglas, Pope, or Otter Tail Counties  Gift Cards  Gas, Phone, Etc.

Thank You! PO Box 815 Fergus Falls MN