SY5; SS18-19; VE6 UNIT 5 COMMUNICATION ROLES AND RULES DEVELOPMENT

I. Defining communication roles II. Communication and children’s roles in families A. Birth order B. Age-related roles III. Gender roles IV. Children’s roles in response to family dysfunction V. Family governance A. Family power B. Family rules C. Rethinking “discipline” VI. Positive communication and role/rule development Chapter SY5 Overview: Roles & Rules

Role– set of expected behaviors, or a framework of instructions that guide individuals playing a particular part Role play—practicing a set of expected behaviors Gender role—set of expected behaviors organized by masculinity and femininity Parentification—process of children overplaying role of parent Rule—Followable prescription of what behavior are obligated, preferred, or prohibited in social situations (Schimanoff, 1980) Family governance—structures of interaction where leaders and followers set goals, make policies, develop procedures, and direct behaviors SY5: Key terms

Power—ability to act to affect something or someone Power bases– resources used in power interactions Power processes—how power is used interaction Power outcomes—result of power processes– decisions, solutions, rules, procedures, as well as affective and relational dimensions “New discipline” as orchestration and direction of behaviors SY5: Key terms

Birth-order and age— What are your experiences with birth order and age? Did they affect your communication growing up? How? Inclusion/exclusion struggles? Gender roles— How did your families manage male- female dialectic as they interacted with you during childhood? What are your views on gender role socialization? How will you teach your children about their own gender as well as their opposite? SY5: Considered

Children playing “adult” roles— When is this appropriate? In what kinds of situations? Legal issues? Family governance— How much say should children have in family governance? About what? When? What kinds of family rules did you experience growing up that did not make sense to you? Why? How might we begin to teach children about “authority” SY5: Considered

Reframing “discipline” as orchestrating and directing potential (Socha, 2006) What are my goals for my child in this situation? What does “success” look like in this situation? What factors will reduce chances of success? Increase chances of success? What particular behaviors do I want my child to replicate in this situation? How will I reinforce desired behaviors? How will I manage obstacles reducing chances of success? Increasing family “complexity” SY5: Considered

I. Stepfamily prevalence II. Step-family conceptualization A. As incomplete institutions 1. Role ambiguity (legal, social) B. As culturally stigmatized III. Step-families & schools IV. Step-families & health-care V. Step-families & legal System VI. Research directions Chapter SS18 Overview: Roles, Rules, & Step-Families

Step-family as “incomplete” or as “culturally stigmatized”— How do we learn about step-family life? What other models might be more useful? Blended family? Other? Step-families & schools What might be done to facilitate communication in step-parent/school relationships? Step-families & health-care How should step-parents’ roles be defined in terms of communicating about children’s medical issues? Step-families & legal System Step-parent as “legal stranger” or “provider of resources”? Research directions What ideas do you have to “fix” role definition issues of “Step—”? Chapter SS18 Considered

I. Same sex parenting/foster parenting II. Need for Foster Families III. Bias and Challenges IV. Five Case Studies V. Conclusions/Directions A. Range of relationships: agency workers, foster children, birth parents, previous foster parents, teachers, daycare workers, judges, B. Struggles with birth families Chapter SS19 Overview: Same-Sex Foster Families

Same sex parenting/foster parenting 3million gay fathers; 5 million lesbian mothers 500,000+ children in foster care Many exhibit emotional and behavioral problems (from mild to severe) Need for Foster Families Same sex parents willing to consider caring for children with severe emotional/behavioral problems Bias and Challenges Face same challenges as all parents, and: LLicensing biases TTaking about sexuality (with childcare workers, children, birth family, others) Five Case Studies Conclusions/Directions Communication issues in a range of relationships: agency workers, foster children, birth parents, previous foster parents, teachers, daycare workers, judges, etc. Ongoing struggles with birth families Chapter SS19 : Considered

I. Media as “Participant” in family life II. Role portrayals III. Stereotypes (Gender, Occupational, Racial/Ethnic) IV. Effects on development V. Developmental and gender differences affecting role development VI. Counter-stereotypic portrayals and media literacy VanEvra6 Overview: Role of Media in Children’s Role Development

Media as “Participant” in family life How much influence? Role portrayals Who is heroic? Villainous? Stereotypes (Gender, Occupational, Racial/Ethnic) Where are these NOT happening in TV? Effects on development Depends on availability of other models Developmental and gender differences affecting role development What shows for whom? Counter-stereotypic portrayals and media literacy “Clarissa explains all” Others? VanEvra6 Considered