SELF ESTEEM What is it? How do you get it? Why do you need it?

Middle School Mr. Hickey

Goal Students will be able to list ways to improve self esteem Students will understand the importance of self esteem and decision making Students will understand the importance of their positive actions affecting others self esteem.

Compliments Compliments/Impressions

Where do we get our self esteem from???

Define what is self esteem (Self Esteem 1 Handout) Get into groups of 3 or 4 students Use a large sheet provided by me to define what your group thinks SE (What pops into your head when you hear self esteem) Why do you need self esteem? What are the benefits of high self esteem? What are the consequences of low self esteem?

Toot Your Horn-Identify your Faults Complete the personal inventory Share with a neighbor

Self Esteem Quiz

Self Esteem Collage Words/Images/Symbols that represent your life Should represent who you are Should define what self esteem means to you How you feel about yourself (only strengths) Use personal inventory for ideas

Self-Esteem Beach Ball A beach ball is an example of a healthy self-esteem that is resilient and able to bounce back. What do you think might happen if obstacles or situations are allowed to lower self-esteem? When the ball was full of air and was pushed on, what happened? When it was full of air and dropped on the floor, what happened? After air was let out of the ball, what happened when it was pushed on? What about when it was dropped on the floor with less air in it? What are some things that can lower self-esteem? Can people lower your self-esteem? How? Is low self-esteem permanent? Why or why not? Is our self-esteem the same all the time? Why? How can you raise your self-esteem? Can other people help raise your self-esteem?

What is self-esteem? SELF ESTEEM IS HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF!

Why do we need self esteem? People with high self-esteem are realistic about their strengths and weaknesses and are able to set goals and work toward them with optimism and humor. They also feel competent in areas they consider important and do not take other people’s negative impressions of them too seriously. Less likely to get involved in high risk behaviors.

Benefits of Self Esteem A. Proud of yourself, abilities, skills, and accomplishments B. Confidence to confront and overcome challenges C. Confidence to try new things

Low Self Esteem People with low self-esteem have a hard time honestly evaluating their strengths and weaknesses and often have an unrealistic, overall negative impression of themselves. They take other people’s opinions of their strengths and weaknesses more seriously than they should. Also, they do not feel competent in areas they consider important. More likely to get involved in high risk behaviors.

Negative Consequences of low self esteem A. Depression B. Anxiety C. Stress D. Lack of confidence or interest in things, not involved

How can I build/improve my self esteem? Good mental and emotional health helps you develop healthy self-esteem. A. Sense of belonging (example) B. Sense of purpose C. Positive outlook D. Self-sufficiency E. Resiliency- the ability to adapt effectively and recover from disappointment, difficulty, or crisis

Resiliency

How can you improve your self esteem Focus on positive aspects about yourself Choose friends who value and respect you Try new activities to discover you talents Exercise! Volunteer your time! Just be yourself, express your individuality. Don’t try to be someone else!

Improve Self-Esteem Choose friends who value, respect and feel confident about you Focus on the positive aspects about yourself Avoid negative self-talk Work towards accomplishments rather than perfection Consider mistakes learning opportunities Try new activities to discover new talents

Improved Self Esteem Continued Write down your goals Exercise regularly Volunteer Accept things you cannot change, focus energy on changing things you can

How you can improve others self esteem. A. Provide a generous compliment New haircut, clothes, etc. B. Perform a random act of kindness Hold the door for someone… Write a letter… jyK4 jyK4 C. Make someone feel accepted New students