12 Techniques Every Parent Should Know: Communication and Behavior Management Bradley T. Erford, Ph.D.

Schedule Behavior Management Anger Management and Conflict Resolution Adlerian Approach –Problem-free Talk –I-Messages Positive Reinforcement –Premack Principle –Behavior Charts –Behavior Contracts –Token Economies Social Learning –Modeling –Role-playing –Behavioral rehearsal Punishment –Extinction –Overcorrection –Response Cost –Time-out

Behavior Management Is: Predictable and reasonable consequences (positive and negative) for students’ behaviors Consistent use of routines and limits External controls linked with “behavior teaching” to encourage independence and success The use of specific interventions designed to teach students the link between their behavior and the consequences they receive

Behavior Management Is Not: Strategies and practices which seek to control children in order to teach them who is boss Punitive and negatively focused A “sometimes” practice

Effective Management Requires: Recognizing the reasons for misbehavior Acting with confidence Focusing on the central issue CONSISTENCY Done in private Without Emotion Act on previously established limits Be sure the punishment fits the crime Consequences immediately follow the infraction Follow up with positive interactions

Anger Management and Conflict Resolution With Children and Adolescents The Goals of Anger –Defensiveness –Bullying –Tantrum/Explosion –Distraction

Two Conditions Underlying Explosions Personal Threat Pressured and Frustrated

Ways To Resolve Conflict Compromising Sharing Humor Distracting Taking Turns Relying On Chance Outside Intervention Putting It Off Agreeing to Disagree

Strategies, Techniques, and Interventions Adlerian Approach –Problem-free Talk –I-Messages Positive Reinforcement –Premack Principle –Behavior Charts –Behavior Contracts –Token Economies Social Learning –Modeling –Role-playing –Behavioral rehearsal Punishment –Extinction –Overcorrection –Response Cost –Time-out