Gender Relations PART 3
Servants
Crushes on Stars
General thumb rules Cousins are NOT brothers/buddies Class mates/colleagues are NOT Buddies/best friend/close friend Servants are NOT invisible or gender-less Fiance’s are NOT Mehrams Celebrities are NOT free for all
Basic Rules of Engagement or Contact Rules
Keep a Check on your “eyes”
Interpretation of Hadith There are three types of eyes whom hell fire will not touch - the eye which keeps itself shut from the things forbidden by Allah, the eye which guards the frontiers of Islam and remains open to keep vigil over it and the eye which constantly sheds tears out of Allah's fear. {Tirmidhi}
The Prophet(pbuh) warned Ali! Do not look once after another, for the first look is for you (since it happens accidentally) while the second is against you. {Ahmad, Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi}
Control your Body Language
Check your VOICE
Allah (swt) says in the Qur’an; Then do not be too pleasant of speech, lest one in whose heart there is a disease should feel desire (for you)..... (Surah Al Ahzab 33: Verse 32)
Do not be alone with a non-mehram The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan (Shaytan) is the third among them" {Tirmidhi}
NO Physical Contact
The Prophet (PBUH) had no problem declaring in public that the women he selected as wives were the dearest and fondest beings to him. But he never even touched a non-mehram woman.
The Prophet (PBUH) said, "It is better for one of you to be pricked in the head with an iron pick than to touch a woman whom it is unlawful to touch."
Common “Touchy” situations
Must not be in front Or alongside a man for praying