Chapter 3 Building High Self-Esteem

Learning Objectives After studying Chapter 3, you will be able to: © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–2  Define self-esteem and discuss its impact on your life.  Understand how self-esteem is developed.  Identify the characteristics of people with low and high self-esteem.  Identify ways to raise your self-esteem.  Understand the conditions organizations can create that will help workers raise their self- esteem.

What is Self-Esteem? SELF-EFFICACY + SELF-RESPECT SELF-ESTEEM © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–3

What is Self-Esteem? Believing that you can achieve what you set out to do Feeling valuable, important, worthy of happiness + Self-Esteem © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–4

How Self-Esteem Develops Self-esteem develops over time as you form yourSELF-CONCEPT The bundle of facts, opinions, beliefs, and perceptions about yourself that are present every moment of every day Are you conscious of your self-concept? © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–5

How Self-Esteem Develops In Childhood –Positive and negative experiences early in life have a significant impact on one’s life, potential, and self-esteem in later years –Attention from parents is critical What defining experiences in childhood might occur that would form the foundation of one’s self-esteem? © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–6

How Self-Esteem Develops In Adolescence –Develop and resolve questions about unique personal identity –Describe selves in terms of social relationships and personality traits –Role models are important When does adolescence begin and end? In whom do teens find role models? © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–7

How Self-Esteem Develops In Adulthood –Reinforced self-concept is molded by past –Adults tend to define themselves in terms of: Things they possess What they do for a living Their internal value system and emotional makeup © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–8

Self-Esteem Influences Behavior People with LOW self-esteem tend to: –Maintain an external locus of control –Engage in self-destructive behaviors –Have poor human relations skills –Not see themselves with great clarity © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–9 Why are low self-esteem and an external locus of control paired in persons with low self-esteem?

Self-Esteem Influences Behavior People with HIGH self-esteem tend to: –Maintain an internal locus of control –Feel emotions without letting them affect behavior in a negative way –Be less likely to take things personally –Accept people as unique, talented individuals –Have a productive personality © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–10

Throughout life, self-esteem can g r o w –or– de te ri or at e through a slow evolution The person you will be tomorrow has yet to be created Building Self-Esteem Do you believe it is possible to entirely overcome a disadvantaged youth? © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–11

How to Build Self-Esteem 1.Identify the source of low self-esteem: –Careful examination of defining moments in life –Make list of labels others use to describe you –Determine which ones you’ve internalized 2.Identify and accept your limitations: –Accept yourself for who you are now –Don’t demand perfection –Don’t dwell on the past © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–12

How to Build Self-Esteem 3.Take responsibility for your decisions: –Making decisions helps you develop confidence in your own judgment Accept the consequences of your decisions Both successes and mistakes are yours. How might self-esteem influence your perception of healthy challenge and realistic limitation? © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–13

How to Build Self-Esteem 4.Engage in strength building: –Maximize your strengths Strength building requires knowledge and skill –Identify your dominant talents Talent: Any naturally recurring pattern of thought, feeling, or behavior that can be productively applied © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–14

How to Build Self-Esteem 5.Seek the support and guidance of mentors –Broadening the definition of “mentor: –Tips to building a mentoring relationship: Find a mentor who is a good coach Market yourself to a prospective mentor Use multiple mentors 3–15 Who are mentors, and what do they do? © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.

How to Build Self-Esteem 6.Set goals: –People who set goals maintain high self-esteem –Make your goals realistic –Picture yourself reaching the goal GOALS 1) 2) 3) © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–16

© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–17 TABLE 3.1Goal-setting Principles 1.Spend time reflecting on the things you want to change in your life. 2.Develop a goal-setting plan that includes the steps necessary to achieve the goal. 3.Modify your environment by changing the stimuli around you. 4.Monitor your behavior, and reward your progress.

How to Build Self-Esteem 7.Practice guided imagery: –A creative and empowering method to harness the power of the mind: To visualize means to form a mental image of something—if you want to succeed, picture yourself succeeding over and over What is an example of guided imagery? Of visualization? © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–18

How to Build Self-Esteem 8.Create self-talk statements for your goals: 1.Be specific about the behavior you want to change 2.Begin each statement with “I” 3.Describe the results you want to achieve Create three positive self-talk statements © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–19

© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–20 FIGURE 3.1 The Self-Talk Endless Loop

© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–21 TABLE 3.2Creating Semantically Correct Self-talk

© 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–22 FIGURE 3.2 Factors That Enhance the Self-Esteem of Employees

KEY TERMS © 2012 Cengage Learning. All rights reserved.3–23 self-esteem self-efficacy self-respect self-concept developmental psychology external locus of control internal locus of control talent mentor guided imagery visualize self-talk inner critic