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You’re About to Discover… What emotional intelligence isWhat emotional intelligence is How EI relates to leadershipHow EI relates to leadership Whether your EI can be improvedWhether your EI can be improved How communication is at the center of romantic relationshipsHow communication is at the center of romantic relationships How to improve communication with people you care aboutHow to improve communication with people you care about What constitutes a “danger signal” in a relationshipWhat constitutes a “danger signal” in a relationship

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What is Emotional Intelligence? Emotional Intelligence impacts college successEmotional Intelligence impacts college success EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59).EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59). EI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demands of everyday life.EI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demands of everyday life. Emotional Intelligence impacts college successEmotional Intelligence impacts college success EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59).EI includes interpersonal and intrapersonal intelligences (p. 59). EI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demands of everyday life.EI is a set of skills that determine how well you cope with the demands of everyday life. Chapter Exercise Chapter Exercise p. 248 p. 248 © 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning

Five Scales Intrapersonal Skills (Self-Awareness)Interpersonal Skills (Relating to Others) General MoodStress Management SkillsAdaptability Skills

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Can We Improve Our EI? Seek honest input from others. Find an EI mentor. Complete an assessment tool. Work with a counselor to learn more. Be patient with yourself. “Our emotions are the driving powers of our lives.” “Our emotions are the driving powers of our lives.” Earl Riney, American clergyman Earl Riney, American clergyman

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning What Is This Thing Called Love? Love can be thoughts, feelings, and physical reactions. 1. Extreme energy. 2. Imagined betterment. 3. Interfering thoughts. 4. Mood swings. 5. Hypersensitivity. Love can be thoughts, feelings, and physical reactions. 1. Extreme energy. 2. Imagined betterment. 3. Interfering thoughts. 4. Mood swings. 5. Hypersensitivity.

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning “Eighty percent of life’s satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships.” comes from meaningful relationships.” Brian Tracy, success author Brian Tracy, success author Chapter Exercise Chapter Exercise p. 255 p. 255 Communicating in Relationships

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Breaking Up Is Hard to Do “The difference between friendship and love is how much you can hurt each other.” is how much you can hurt each other.” Ashleigh Brilliant, author and cartoonist Ashleigh Brilliant, author and cartoonist Danger signal 1: “All we ever do is fight!” If you spend most of your time in conflict or avoiding conflict, you won’t be able to communicate about much else. Danger signal 2: “Let’s dig in deeper!” Move relationships to deeper levels of commitment only when you are both satisfied with the ways things are now. Danger signal 3: “This relationship just isn’t worth it!” If you simply aren’t satisfied with the relationship, despite attempts to improve it, it may be time to think about making a clean break.

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© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Does Diversity Make a Difference? Chapter Exercise Chapter Exercise p. 261 p. 261 © 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning

Appreciate the American Mosaic Most of us are a blend of different ethnicities. Did you know the ethnicities of these famous people? Tiger Woods: Caucasian, Black, Indian, and Asian. Keanu Reeves: Hawaiian, Chinese, and Caucasian. Mariah Carey: Black, Venezuelan, and Caucasian Johnny Depp: Cherokee and Caucasian

© 2010 Wadsworth, Cengage Learning Quote: Adela A. Allen “We should acknowledge differences, we should greet differences, until difference makes no difference anymore.” Adela A. Allen Educator “We should acknowledge differences, we should greet differences, until difference makes no difference anymore.” Adela A. Allen Educator

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