DO NOW: / Write your first name clearly on a nametag. Place it on your shirt / Take 5 minutes to write about a time when you were bullied, you saw someone else bullied, or you were a bully. Write 3-5 sentences. / Write your first name clearly on a nametag. Place it on your shirt / Take 5 minutes to write about a time when you were bullied, you saw someone else bullied, or you were a bully. Write 3-5 sentences.

Can You Tell the Difference? > Normal conflict Teasing Bullying > Normal conflict Teasing Bullying

BULLYING Bullying happens whenever someone uses his or her power unfairly and repeatedly to hurt someone.

Who is the Bully? / Gets excited by victim’s reaction / Enjoys feeling powerful / Low levels of empathy / Enjoys causing pain / Has little anxiety/insecurity / Has a great sense of self-worth / Has unrealistic beliefs like, “I should always have my own way” / Has a small and close group of friends / Gets excited by victim’s reaction / Enjoys feeling powerful / Low levels of empathy / Enjoys causing pain / Has little anxiety/insecurity / Has a great sense of self-worth / Has unrealistic beliefs like, “I should always have my own way” / Has a small and close group of friends

Who is the victim? / More emotionally expressive / Need a lot of emotional support from adults / Get chosen last by fellow students for activities / May have a physical, mental, or learning disability / Are loners, may not have a lot of friends / More emotionally expressive / Need a lot of emotional support from adults / Get chosen last by fellow students for activities / May have a physical, mental, or learning disability / Are loners, may not have a lot of friends

Types of Bullying Behavior / Physical / Social / Verbal / Intimidation / Written / Sexual harassment / Racial and ethnic harassment / Physical / Social / Verbal / Intimidation / Written / Sexual harassment / Racial and ethnic harassment

Results of Bullying / School avoidance / Poor grades / Lower self-esteem / Loss of appetite / Headaches / Stomachaches / Nervous, anxiety / Depression / Loss of sleep / Victim may want to hurt themselves or others / School avoidance / Poor grades / Lower self-esteem / Loss of appetite / Headaches / Stomachaches / Nervous, anxiety / Depression / Loss of sleep / Victim may want to hurt themselves or others

WHAT TO DO ABOUT BULLYING HAHASO strategies

H H / Help : get help from an adult or a friend. BYSTANDERS / Help : get help from an adult or a friend. BYSTANDERS

A A / Assert Yourself: Look the bully straight in the eye and use “I” statements or assertive statements. Warning!! Not recommended to use with a group of bullies or if you feel unsafe. / Assert Yourself: Look the bully straight in the eye and use “I” statements or assertive statements. Warning!! Not recommended to use with a group of bullies or if you feel unsafe.

H H / Humor: make a joke about what the bully said.

A A / Avoid: Walk away. Avoid places where the bully hangs out.

S S / Self-Talk: Rehearse positive statements in your head to help keep feeling good about yourself.

O O / Own It: Agree with the bully and leave the situation. (ex. “If you say so!”) / Own It: Agree with the bully and leave the situation. (ex. “If you say so!”)

SKITS Who is the VICTIM? Who is the BULLY? What TYPE of Bullying is it? What STRATEGY is used?

What Would You Do? / There is a kid in your class who sits right behind you. He always kicks your chair and makes fun of you. Because you do all of your work and get good grades he calls you a kiss up. He also makes you give him the answers to tests. The bully intimidates you into sharing your homework with him every morning so that he can copy it. Which HAHASO strategy would you use? / There is a kid in your class who sits right behind you. He always kicks your chair and makes fun of you. Because you do all of your work and get good grades he calls you a kiss up. He also makes you give him the answers to tests. The bully intimidates you into sharing your homework with him every morning so that he can copy it. Which HAHASO strategy would you use?