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The Divine Surgeon demonstrated compatibility by creating Adam’s wife from one of his ribs. The Divine Surgeon demonstrated compatibility by creating Adam’s wife from one of his ribs. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

“ It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. ” Genesis 2:18, NIV “ It “ It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. ” Genesis 2:18, NIV The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

At different stages of the life cycle, our needs are different. At different stages of the life cycle, our needs are different. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Big differences in age can result in the inability of one to satisfy the needs of the other. This would result in serious marital conflict. Big differences in age can result in the inability of one to satisfy the needs of the other. This would result in serious marital conflict. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Big Differences in levels of education can cause a couple to do fewer things together. Big Differences in levels of education can cause a couple to do fewer things together. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Separate activities can generate different circles of friends. This can cause partners to drift apart from each other. Separate activities can generate different circles of friends. This can cause partners to drift apart from each other. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

“ Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. ” 3 John 2 “ Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers. ” 3 John 2 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

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In our multi- cultural world, culture is relevant to marital compatibility. Some cultural differences are simple and can be easily solved. In our multi- cultural world, culture is relevant to marital compatibility. Some cultural differences are simple and can be easily solved. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Others are complex and need to be examined and resolved to facilitate marital success. Others are complex and need to be examined and resolved to facilitate marital success. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Negative Influence “ ‘ Like mother, like daughter! ’ You are your mother's daughter, loathing husband and children; and you are the sister of your sisters, who loathed their husbands and children. ” Ezekiel 16:44,45 Negative Influence “ ‘ Like ‘ Like mother, like daughter! ’ You are your mother's daughter, loathing husband and children; and you are the sister of your sisters, who loathed their husbands and children. ” Ezekiel 16:44,45 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Positive Influence “... I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also. ” 2 Timothy 1:5 Positive Influence “... “... I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also. ” 2 Timothy 1:5 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

To a great extent, we are products of the values of our parents, for it is in the home that, as children, we see models, develop concepts and unconsciously assimilate standards of behavior. To a great extent, we are products of the values of our parents, for it is in the home that, as children, we see models, develop concepts and unconsciously assimilate standards of behavior. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Someone can break the Cycle! Someone can break the Cycle! Manasseh was one of the most wicked Israelite kings. Amon, his son, followed his example. Manasseh was one of the most wicked Israelite kings. Amon, his son, followed his example. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Josiah, Amon’s son, became king at age eight. Josiah broke the cycle! The young king served God and carried out a spiritual reform 2 Chronicles 33 and 34 Josiah, Amon’s son, became king at age eight. Josiah broke the cycle! The young king served God and carried out a spiritual reform 2 Chronicles 33 and 34 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Two are extrovertsTwo are extroverts Two are introvertsTwo are introverts Two are people-orientedTwo are people-oriented Two are task-orientedTwo are task-oriented TwoTwo are extroverts are introverts are people-oriented are task-oriented There are Four Basic Types of Temperaments: There are are Four Four Basic Types of Temperaments:

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility Try to identify your own temperament, as well as your partner’s own.

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The Sanguine The Sanguine Strengths: Out-goingOut-going TalkativeTalkative CharismaticCharismatic Center of attractionCenter of attraction The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Sanguine The Sanguine Weaknesses: Self-Centered and egoisticalSelf-Centered and egoistical ImpulsiveImpulsive Restless andRestless and UnstableUnstable The Master Key to Marital Compatibility Examples: Peter and Deborah Examples: Peter and Deborah

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The Choleric The Choleric Strengths: PracticalPractical DecisiveDecisive Very EfficientVery Efficient Born leader who gets things done!Born leader who gets things done! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

The Choleric The Choleric Weaknesses: Impatient with othersImpatient with others Strong-willedStrong-willed InsensitiveInsensitive DemandingDemanding The Master Key to Marital Compatibility Examples: Paul and Martha Examples: Paul and Martha

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Strengths: Easy-goingEasy-going AgreeableAgreeable Very SupportiveVery Supportive PacifistPacifist Prefers compromisePrefers compromise The Master Key to Marital Compatibility The Phlegmatic The Phlegmatic

Weaknesses: Tends to preserve status quoTends to preserve status quo TentativeTentative IndecisiveIndecisive ProcrastinatingProcrastinating The Master Key to Marital Compatibility Examples: Abraham and Ruth Examples: Abraham and Ruth The Phlegmatic The Phlegmatic

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The Melancholy The Melancholy Strengths: AnalyticalAnalytical OrderlyOrderly Diligent and very detailedDiligent and very detailed Has deep emotionsHas deep emotions Very CreativeVery Creative

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility The Melancholy The Melancholy Weaknesses: OversensitiveOversensitive Shy and moodyShy and moody Has guilt feelingsHas guilt feelings Examples: Moses and Mary Examples: Moses and Mary

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility A person may have more than one temperament. It is usual, however, that one is dominant. A person may have more than one temperament. It is usual, however, that one is dominant.

The Master Key to Marital Compatibility So, it is very likely, that I have a primary temperament, and at least one secondary one. So, it is very likely, that I have aprimary temperament, and at least one one secondary one.

So, What Do You Think? I think that my primary temperament Is ______________. I think that my partner’s primary one Is ______________. You can compare and discuss. So, What Do You Think? I think that my primary temperament Is ______________. I think that my partner’s primary one Is ______________. You can compare and discuss. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Sanguine: Influencer Choleric: Doer Phlegmatic: Relator Melancholy: Thinker

If I am not yet married The Master Key to Marital Compatibility I must take in account that: I must take in account that:

Couples completely similar could experience boredom. Couples completely different could be in constant conflict. Couples completely similar could experience boredom. Couples completely different could be in constant conflict. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Couples more similar and less different could facilitate compatibility. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

If I am already married I must accept and respect my spouse’s differences. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Place my partner’s desires above my own. Allow my spouse’s strengths to complement my weaknesses. Place my partner’s desires above my own. Allow my spouse’s strengths to complement my weaknesses. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

While there are various keys like: AgeAge EducationEducation HealthHealth CultureCulture Family ValuesFamily Values TemperamentsTemperaments Spiritual life is the Master key! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

If we both belong to the Family of God, we hold the master key to marital compatibility! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

“ Nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods; so the anger of the LORD will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly. ” Deuteronomy 7:3,4 “ Nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods; so the anger of the LORD will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly. ” Deuteronomy 7:3,4 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

“ Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. ” 2 Corinthians 6:14 “ Do “ Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. ” 2 Corinthians 6:14 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Family Of Satan Family Of Satan Family Of God Family Of God The Master Key to Marital Compatibility Spiritually speaking, There are only two families Spiritually speaking, There are only two families

Two Questions Am I part of the family of God? Is my partner part of God’s family? Two Questions Am I part of the family of God? Is my partner part of God’s family? The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

We are all born into Satan’s family, and must be converted into God’s family. We are all born into Satan’s family, and must be converted into God’s family. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

How do I become part of the Family of God? The story of Jacob has the answer. How do I become part of the Family of God? The story of Jacob has the answer. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jacob was a thief - stole from his brother liar - lied to his blind father runaway - separated forever from his loving mother Lonely, disappointed and discouraged, he lay on the ground and went to sleep. Jacob was a thief - stole from his brother liar - lied to his blind father runaway - separated forever from his loving mother Lonely, disappointed and discouraged, he lay on the ground and went to sleep. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

But the good news is: Our Loving God did not forsake him! Genesis 28: But the good news is: Our Loving God did not forsake him! Genesis 28: The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

God was telling Jacob! “I still love you!” The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Next morning, Jacob journeyed to Haran. He spent 5 years, 10 years, 15 years, 20 years! He married, got a family, got wealthy! But he experienced no change spiritually! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Then one day, Jacob got bad news! Esau was coming – with 400 armed soldiers- ready for revenge! Jacob was terrified! He made life’s most important decision. Then one day, Jacob got bad news! Esau was coming – with 400 armed soldiers- ready for revenge! Jacob was terrified! He made life’s most important decision. The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jacob’s Decision Before I face Esau tomorrow, I must get right with God TONIGHT! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

“ Then Jacob was left alone; and a Man wrestled with him until the breaking of day. ” Genesis 32:24 “ Then Jacob was left alone; and a Man wrestled with him until the breaking of day. ” Genesis 32:24 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

ALONE! He left his wives! He left his children! He left his cattle! He wanted to meet His God! He knelt in earnest prayer! ALONE! He left his wives! He left his children! He left his cattle! He wanted to meet His God! He knelt in earnest prayer! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

IT WAS MIDNIGHT!  Suddenly a hand grabbed him!  Was it Esau?  Hour after hour they wrestled!  Then the Man touched his thigh.  He became paralyzed! It wasn’t a man! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Let’s listen to their conversation in Genesis 32:26-28 Let’s listen to their conversation in Genesis 32:26-28 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jesus: “Let Me go, for the day breaks.” Jacob: “I will not let You go unless You bless me!” Genesis 32:26 Jesus: “Let Me go, for the day breaks.” Jacob: “I will not let You go unless You bless me!” Genesis 32:26 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jesus: “What is your name?” Jacob: “Jacob” (deceiver). Genesis 32:27 Jesus: “What is your name?” Jacob: “Jacob” (deceiver). Genesis 32:27 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Jesus: “Your name shall be no longer be called Jacob (deceiver), but Israel” (victor)! Genesis 32:28 Jesus: “Your name shall be no longer be called Jacob (deceiver), but Israel” (victor)! Genesis 32:28 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

A MIRACLE! Jacob was changed! From thievery to honesty! From lying to truthfulness! From deceiver to victor! A MIRACLE! Jacob was changed! From thievery to honesty! From lying to truthfulness! From deceiver to victor! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

“ Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. ” Psalm 51:10 “ Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. ” Psalm 51:10 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility “ I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you. ” Ezekiel 36:26 “ I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you. ” Ezekiel 36:26 My prayer. God’s Answer.

IT’S A MIRACLE! The drunkard becomes sober! The drug- user becomes an abstainer! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

IT’S A MIRACLE! The smoker becomes drug free! The abuser becomes a care-giver! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

“ If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. ” 2 Corinthians 5:17 “ If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. ” 2 Corinthians 5:17 The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Adultery changes to purity! Revelry changes to sobriety! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility

Gambler becomes a money- saver! Hurter is changed to healer! The Master Key to Marital Compatibility