Dealing with Emotions © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

What are emotions? Emotions=Feelings that are experienced Emotions are experienced and expressed differently by individuals Discussion: How would you define emotions? Feelings? Can you think of a time that you experienced a similar event differently than another (a movie with a friend, witnessing a tragic or funny event)? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Characteristics of Emotions Common characteristics : Physiological or Internal changes Physiological or Internal changes Behavioral expressions Behavioral expressions Cognitive interpretations Cognitive interpretations Motivational tendencies Motivational tendencies Mood : Effect how we respond emotionally Effect how we respond emotionallyDiscussion: What common characteristic do you notice first for yourself (happy feeling, sweaty palms, thought, etc.)? Can you think of a time you responded differently to a person or event than you might normally due to a “mood” you were in? Provide an example. © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Types of Emotions Primary Emotions Joy Joy Acceptance Acceptance Fear Fear surprise surprise Sadness Sadness Disgust Disgust Anger Anger Anticipation Anticipation Mixed Emotions Combination of primary emotions Combination of primary emotionsDiscussion: Note Table 4.1. What emotions have you felt during class? Today? This week? How did these emotions impact your interactions with others? Your work? Studying? What was the cause of some of your stronger emotions that you’ve experienced? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Living with Problem Emotions FearAnxietyAngerGuilt Grief & Bereavement BereavementLoveDiscussion: Read section “How to Face Your Fears and Anxieties” in your text. Which of these strategies have you used? Be willing to try? What are your reactions to the four psychological reactions to anger? Aside from those provided in the text, what recommendations do you have for living with problem emotions? What works for you? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Emotions Development of emotions Heredity Heredity Learned behavior Learned behavior Emotional intelligence Emotional abilities Emotional abilities Four essential abilities Four essential abilities Emotional and rational balance Emotional and rational balanceDiscussion: What are your reactions to the text discussion regarding men and women and emotions? How would you rate your EI? What are your strengths related to EI? Needs? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Emotional Cost Cost of denying emotions Repression Repression Suppression Suppression Getting out of emotional debt Condition of imbalance Condition of imbalance Feelings are trapped instead of expressed Feelings are trapped instead of expressedDiscussion: Can you think of a time that you repressed or suppressed your emotions? How did this impact your mental or physical health? How do you set your “limit” to your emotional debt? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Guidelines for Dealing with Your Emotions Decide when & how to express your emotions Listen to your body Listen to your body Identify your feelings Identify your feelings Personalize your feelings Personalize your feelings Own your feelings Own your feelings Decide what you will do with your feelings Decide what you will do with your feelingsDiscussion: Think of something that is currently “weighing” on you. Think through the guidelines recommended in the text for dealing with emotions. Which section do you think will be the most challenging for you? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Culture and Emotion Universal emotions Happiness Happiness Sadness Sadness Surprise Surprise Anger Anger Disgust Disgust Fear Fear Different cultures have different display rules Discussion: What is the “culture” of your family related to how emotions are shared (ex. Is your family “touchy” with each other, likes to hug, hold each other, kiss on the cheek, etc.)? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Expressing Your Feelings Benefits: You will develop positive feelings about yourself You will develop positive feelings about yourself Your relationship will grow stronger Your relationship will grow stronger Pressure is relieved Pressure is relievedDiscussion: Think of a time that you shared feelings with someone that you had been “bottling up”. How did it feel to share these feelings? What are the pros/cons of expressing feelings? How do you decide which feelings to share? Should all feelings be shared? Why or why not? © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online

Forgiveness Most of us have experienced some hurts or a painful experience Sometimes it’s difficult to forgive Forgiveness has nothing to do with them Forgiveness has nothing to do with them Benefits of forgiveness Benefits of forgiveness © All photo clip art copyright of Microsoft Office Online Discussion: Is there someone in your life that you have not forgiven? In what ways does this impact you physically and emotionally?