1 Internet Addictions, The Need Key Data The Depth of the Problem Understanding the Problem of Pornography Alan H. Siggelkow, MSW Adapted from Paul Mavrogeorge M.A. LMFT

2 Pornography Industry Statistics zData From: Covenanteyes.com, 3xchurch, Leadership Magazine, through Paul Mavrogeorge. zSize of the Industry $57.0 billion world-wide - $12.0 billion US zPornographic Websites 4.2 million (12% of total websites) zPornographic Pages 372 million Daily Pornographic Search Engine zRequests 68 million (25% of total search engine requests) Daily zPornographic s 2.5 billion (8% of total s) Avg. Daily zPornographic s/User 4.5 per internet user Monthly zPornographic downloads (Peer-to-peer) 1.5 billion (35% of all downloads) zWebsite's offering illegal child pornography 100 thousand

3 Children's Exposure to Pornography zAverage age of first Internet exposure to pornography 11 years old zLargest Consumer of Internet Pornography age group z15-17 year olds having multiple hardcore exposures 80% z8-16 year olds having viewed porn online 90% (most while doing homework) z7-17 year olds who would freely give out home address 29% z7-17 year olds who would freely give out addresses 14% zChildren's characters linked to thousands of porn links 26 (including Pokeman and Action Man

4 Adult Internet Porn Statistics zMen admitting to accessing porn at work 20% zUS adults who regularly visit internet porn sites 40 million zPromise Keepers men who viewed porn in the last week 53% zChristians who say porn is a major problem in the home 47% zAdults admitting to internet sexual addiction 10% zBreakdown of male/female visitors to porn sites 72% male - 28% female

5 Women & Pornography z13% of Women admit to accessing porn at work. z70% of women keep their cyber activities secret. z17% of all women struggle with pornography addiction. zWomen, far more than men, are likely to act out their behaviors in real life, such as having multiple partners, casual sex, or affairs. zWomen favor chat rooms 2X's more than men. z1 out of 3 visitors to adult website's are women. z9.4 million women access adult website's each month.

6 Common Outcomes zShame zImpact on Sexual Development zEnhance Other Addictions zMarital Dysfunction

7 Impact on the Church Christian Population z51% of pastors say porn is a possible temptation z37% say it is a current struggle z4 in 10 pastors have visited a porn site

8 Pastors are at risk zLarge amount of time in isolation zA lot of unsupervised time zHigh amounts of pressure and stress zMinistry is a great place to hide addictive tendencies

9 IMPACT ON YOUTH zIn most cases, the sex sites were accessed unintentionally when a child, often in the process of doing homework zThis is the next big wave of difficulties with addictive and sexual issues

10 UNDERSTANDING THE “PROBLEM” Underlying issues

11 Not all use is “addiction” zSituational use is the doorway. These individuals are simply surrendering to temptation zObsessive Compulsive Disorder zADHD

12 Sexual Addiction zInterferes with normal living zIncreases in the amount of time zIncrease in the graphic nature of material zThoughts of use become intrusive and individual begins to lose the ability to choose (Hardening of the Heart)

13 Common Characteristics zShame zOther addictive history zPoor stress management zDysfunctional childhood zEarly molestation/sexual violation zTrauma survivor

14 The Path to Freedom

15 Repentance Model zGiving the Courage to Confess -- Objective Justification zSpecific Law zContrition zSpecific Gospel is spoken and heard. zFaith in Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of sins is confessed zAbsolution zFruits of Repentance zThe Joy of Christian Living

16 Need for Consistent Strategy zThe problem has its deepest roots in youth zThe problem is present in different forms at different stages zA multi-staged approach to the problem will make dealing with the issue a more natural process zThe consistent multi staged approach will help combat the sexualized culture in which we live

17 Stages of Prevention zWisconsin Lutheran Seminary yThree Stage Restoration Process zWELS Colleges yMLC yWLC zWELS Prep Schools and Area Lutheran High Schools zWELS Lutheran Elementary Schools zParental

18 Referral Information zWisconsin Lutheran Child and Family Services yChristian Family Counseling yMAP Member Assistance Program zwww.wels.netwww.wels.net yMinistry yBPS yCommission on Special Ministries xCommittee on Mental Health Needs zWhen to Refer zAsk a Therapist zChristian or Non-Christian Counselor? zModels of Therapy and its Glossary