How To Help Your Child Succeed in School  “Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.”  John Wooden

DEMONSTRATE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE ABOUT SCHOOL  Communicate that education is important.  The better educated one is the more choices they get to make.

SPEND TIME FINDING OUT ABOUT PROGRESS  One night each week visit the portal with your children and find out about their academic progress and grades.  What we give our time to sends the message that it is important.

SET A PRIORITY FOR STUDY  Prioritize study time.  a. Everyone works.  b. TV off/ Phones off/ Time to work  c. Try to do some of your own “homework” paying bills reading, writing, etc.

Teach Your Children that School is Their Job  You work and have a job.  Your children need to know that school is their job.

TEACH RESPONSIBILITY AND WORK ETHIC  We always do our best and take responsibility for our actions.  The one characteristic in all successful people is GRIT…Perseverance.

TEACH ABOUT TIME MANAGEMENT  Teach a daily routine that includes time to eat, sleep, play, work, study, and read…we need balance.  “If you don’t have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over.” John Wooden

COMMUNICATE WITH THE SCHOOL  Find out HOW the teachers will communicate.  Keep your means of communication up to date…  Cell phone number/ / Address

HELP BUILD A LOVE OF READING  Reading is the basis of all learning.

TEACH OUR THREE PILLARS  RESPONSIBLE simply means to do those things which we have been asked to do.  HONORABLE To have the strength of character to do the right thing at all times.  RESPECTFUL –to demonstrate kindness, cooperation, and a courteous regard for the feelings, property and opinions of others.

Building Trust With Your Children  Dependability-does what they say they will do  Responsibility-does what they need to do  Accountability-when the person takes ownership of their actions

SEVEN RULES FOR PARENTS What you do matters You can’t be too loving Stay involved-don’t control Adapt your parenting Set limits Foster independence Explain your decisions-Within reason By Laurence Steinberg Monday, May 10, 2004/Time Magazine

What Makes a Well- Adjusted Child  Their families ate dinner together.  They have responsibilities around the home.  They had no phone, TV or computer in their room.  They did community service as a family

What Our Children Need From US  Time: Just being there, being around, being present-just spending unstructured time with them.  Connecting (Relationship)-Take an active interest in their activities but avoid controlling their activities.  Setting limits-(Discipline) Just say no, hold them accountable, encourage them to work through difficult things.

Principles of Teaching  Example (Follow Me)  Demonstration (Watch how to do it)  Repetition (Learn it well)  Guided Practice ( I do you do.)  Learning from mistakes (Don’t give up)  Encouragement (I Believe in You)  Perseverance/Hard work (Success comes by hard work)

Messages we Send  When we protect our children from consequences of their actions or challenges it sends two damaging messages:  This is not your fault. This sends the message that the child is not responsible for their behavior.  This is too difficult for you. The child is a victim. The message is, “you are not strong enough to handle this.”