 Which movie to go see  Cut off in traffic  Someone spreading rumors  ‘Stay at home mom’ or a career  How late you can stay at a party  Spending money  How and where to spend your time  Parents disagree with clothes/ hairstyle  Can’t go to a school event because it falls on a religious holiday  You were excluded from a group

◦ Conflict: a disagreement between people with opposing view points, ideas, or goals. ◦ Conflicts can be an exchange of words ◦ Group confrontations can be ongoing ◦ Conflicts that involve weapons can be serious Some conflicts are with YOURSELF!

1. Resources: something usable, such as goods, property, money or time.  Examples??? Couples who fight over finances, which restaurant, flu shot dispensed, study or go mall with mom, fighting over the computer… 2. Values: your beliefs, your mission, and ideas you consider important  Examples??? Honesty and other values from 1.1, Browns fan, daily PE class, politics, 3. Emotional Needs: the need to belong and feel respected and worthwhile  examples??? Left out, dis-respected, put down, feel it’s unfair didn't make the science Olympiad, sports team etc…

 Think of a conflict you’ve had recently and briefly describe.  Answer the following questions in your notes.  1.What was it about?  2. What caused it? (Resources, Values, Emotional)  3. Was it resolved? Explain.

If I learn to manage my anger then… If I don’t and conflicts get out of hand then…  Release frustrations of life.  Calls Attention to Problems  Helps us understand self and other’s values  Increases motivation to take action  Brings about change  Healthier relationships  Anger can build and boil over  Can lead to violence  Irrational thinking  Not pleasant to be around  Lead to depression (esp. Males)

Calm. It. Down. Brainstorm Ask Questions; to learn the other person’s point of view Attack the Problem- not the person! Explain how you feel; Let each person tell their side Talk to a trusted adult

 Take a time out to cool down

 Make a list  Find a middle ground  Find a creative solution

 Explain how his or her actions make you feel

“hmmm how would I feel” Ask Questions

 If you cannot resolve the problem yourself.

 State the Situation ◦ (Identify, ask yourself questions, what choices do you need to make and who else if anyone is involved)  List all possible options. ◦ (List everything, ask for suggestions and make sure they are safe.)  Consider the consequences for each option. ◦ Weigh the pros and cons  Consider your personal values ◦ (honesty, respect and trust)  Make a decision and act. Give specifics. ◦ (Ready to take action, choose a course that supports your values, the impact of all choices on self and others and ask a trusted adult if unsure.)  Evaluate the outcome. ◦ (Reach expectations, how did it affect others, how you feel about yourself and what could you do differently)