True Coaching: Effective Communication is the Key! WIAA Coaches School Kentlake HS Tom Doyle

Why are you here today? “Insanity is doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result.” Albert Einstein It is what you learn after you know it all that counts! John Wooden "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them". Einstein

Coach Training Priorities

What is True Colors? True Colors provides a nonjudgmental language base to enable one to communicate more freely and appreciate the uniqueness in everyone.

What can TRUE COLORS do for me? TRUE COLORS provides an opportunity for you to continue the life long learning process and to learn more about yourself, how you go about your education and your leadership role, how you relate with your coaches, athletes, family, peers, and even parents! and how they relate to you.

Why TRUE COLORS? Using the TRUE COLORS is a quicker and easier way to understand people than trying to remember all 16 personality types associated with the Myers-Briggs Personality Test.

Why TRUE COLORS? It can help you to better be able to communicate with others, especially with those who are least like you.

History of TRUE COLORS Hippocrates – 400 BC – four types: sanguine, phlegmatic, choleric, melancholic Carl Jung – 1921 – personality/temperament differences fundamental for understanding human beings (4 types) Myers-Briggs – 1950’s – 16 combinations to signify 4 characteristics of people – (letters) David Keirsey – 1967 – four types- Please Understand Me Don Lowry – 1978 – system/tool to apply “type” information to help real people in real situations

Ever wonder about people?

Ever Wonder about People? …Are always on time or even early, while others have a tough time being on time? …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it, while others are more reserved and think before they speak? …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it, while others support your decisions without question? …Put the system/department above all, while others put people before the system?

Ever Wonder about People? …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout? …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge? …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”? …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?

Research: most serious faults in dealing with others? Failure to see other’s point of view – 68% Failure to show appreciation/give credit – 36% Failure to size up others correctly -- 34% Lack of Leadership -- 24% Lack of frankness/sincerity -- 19%

Perceptions "To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others." Anthony Robbins

Perception Building What are “perceptions”? How do we come to perceive and believe? Are we accurate in our perceptions? First Impressions take about 7-20 seconds to form; require significant emotional event to change.

Count The Number of “F ”s FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE- SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF- IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

Count The Number of “F ”s FINISHED FILES ARE THE RE- SULT OF YEARS OF SCIENTIF- IC STUDY COMBINED WITH THE EXPERIENCE OF MANY YEARS.

Perception Building Why doesn’t everyone see what I see?

Basic Assumptions Everyone is like me! Everyone should behave as I do! Everybody communicates the same – like me! Everyone will respond to a specific situation or stimulus the way I do!

Basic Assumptions Awareness is the first step in Change. Education is the first step in understanding.

CHANGE IS INEVITABLE, GROWTH IS OPTIONAL!

BLUE  Enthusiastic  Sympathetic  Personal  Admires authenticity and honesty. GREEN  Visionary  Non- Conformist  Problem Solver  Considers every detail; knowledge is strength ORANGE  Trouble- shooter  Competitor  Impulsive  Takes pride in skill, being adventurous, and immediate action GOLD  Dutiful and Loyal  Respects Authority  Organized  Responsible

What do the TRUE COLORS look like? Blue Characteristics Gold Characteristics Green Characteristics Orange Characteristics

Peacemaker Caretaker Optimistic Always Has a Kind Word Passionate Cause Oriented True Romantics Need to Feel Special Strong Sense of Spirituality Cooperative Rather than Competitive

Relationship Core Value is

“Be Prepared” Love to Plan Duty, Loyalty, Responsible Punctual, Predictable Strong Belief in Policies, Procedures, Rules Values Family Traditions Thinks before Acting Conservative and Stable “Should” and “Should Not” Most Comfortable with a Structured Environment

Core Value is Responsibility

“Should be Able to” “Why” Intellectual Very Complex Standard Setters Cool, Calm, Collected Work is Play, Play is Work Need for Independence and Private Time Perfectionists Approaches Interpersonal Relationships in a Logical Manner

Core Value is Competency

Energetic Playful, “Just Do It, Master Negotiator Natural Entertainer Pushes Boundaries Thrives on Competition Impulsive and Spontaneous Appreciates Immediate Feedback Most Productive in Non-structured Environments

BLUE  Enthusiastic  Sympathetic  Personal  Admires authenticity and honesty. GREEN  Visionary  Non- Conformist  Problem Solver  Considers every detail; knowledge is strength ORANGE  Trouble- shooter  Competitor  Impulsive  Takes pride in skill, being adventurous, and immediate action GOLD  Dutiful and Loyal  Respects Authority  Organized  Responsible

True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” We all have four colors in our spectrum A primary color dominates our spectrum The “blend” of colors makes us unique Drawing upon all of our colors improves our personal and team relationships by:

True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” Gaining knowledge and skills to access basic core needs of self and others Motivating and empowering self and others to use or unique qualities and strengths Demonstrating and releasing natural talents and abilities Increasing self-esteem, self-worth, and success through positive, productive actions

True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” Brighten Your TRUE COLORS!

Population Distribution General Population Gold35-38% Orange35-38% Green12-15% Blue12-15%

What Color is this Office? Clean desk Mess, but knows where things are Family photos everywhere Motivational, inspirational quotes

Ever Wonder about People? …Are always on time or even early and seem to be always prepared? …Speak their mind even before they know what is on it; think about it later? Operate with a “ready, shoot, aim” philosophy? …Question every decision that you make and always have a “better way” to do it? …Put people before the system and always seem genuinely concerned about others?

Ever Wonder about People? …Swimmer who questions every drill and every workout? …Volleyball setter who says, “You take it!” instead of taking charge? …Basketball player who dogs it at practice, but is a “gamer”? …Hockey player who does everything you teach him, but who has difficulty adjusting to change in a game?

True Colors is: An Explanation – NOT an Excuse!

BLUE  Enthusiastic  Sympathetic  Personal  Admires authenticity and honesty. GREEN  Visionary  Non- Conformist  Problem Solver  Considers every detail; knowledge is strength ORANGE  Trouble- shooter  Competitor  Impulsive  Takes pride in skill, being adventurous, and immediate action GOLD  Dutiful and Loyal  Respects Authority  Organized  Responsible

Using TRUE COLORS!– Applications Color Group – Practice Plan “Least” Color Group – Define “fun” for this Color?

Fun? GOLD  Organizing things  An Audit GREEN  Research, Library  Puzzles BLUE  Group Hug  Singing Kumbaya ORANGE  Danger  Risk

1.Rigid 2.Boring 3.Stubborn 4.Opinionated 5.System Bound 6.Unimaginative 7.Predictable 8.Bossy 9.Judgmental 10.Controlling 1.Firm 2.Conservative 3.Strong Willed 4.Having a View 5.Orderly 6.Realist 7.Stable 8.Directive 9.Moral Standards 10.Assertive How Others May See Golds How Golds See Themselves

1.Arrogant 2.No Mercy 3.Unrealistic 4.Aloof 5.Unemotional 6.Intellectual Snob 7.Devalue Relationships 8.Critical 9.Eccentric 10.Heartless 1.Confident 2.Firm Minded 3.Under Control 4.Visionary 5.Calm 6.Intelligent 7.Independent 8.Perfectionist 9.Creative 10.Determined How Others May See Greens How Greens See Themselves

- 1.Bleeding Heart 2.Naïve 3.Mushy 4.Touchy-feely 5.Smothering 6.Stuck in the Past 7.Push-over 8.Emotional 9.Fawning 10.Always a Cause 1.Compassionate 2.Trusting 3.Romantic 4.Affectionate 5.Caretaker 6.Nostalgic 7.Sympathetic 8.Sensitive 9.Nurturing 10.Passionate How Others May See Blues How Blues See Themselves

1.Flaky 2.Rule Breaker 3.Manipulative 4.Uncontrollable 5.Obnoxious 6.Irresponsible 7.Off Task 8.Resist Closure 9.Indecisive 10.Distracted 1.Carefree 2.Adventurous 3.Charming 4.Energetic 5.Bold 6.Impulsive 7.Flexible 8.Enjoys Process 9.Shares Decision Making 10.Changing How Others May See Oranges How Oranges See Themselves

Kids Quit Because They Aren’t Having FUN! What makes the athletic experience “fun” for each of the Colors?

Their job to meet you in your Color? OR Your job to meet them in their Color?

How Can This Help You? Practice Planning – all Colors? Motivation & Discipline Communication w/ Athletes & Parents – Sales % - your Color

True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” We all have four colors in our spectrum A primary color dominates our spectrum The “blend” of colors makes us unique Drawing upon all of our colors improves our personal and professional relationships by:

True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” Gaining knowledge and skills to access basic core needs of self and others Motivating and empowering self and others to use or unique qualities and strengths Demonstrating and releasing natural talents and abilities Increasing self-esteem, self-worth, and success through positive, productive actions

True Colors Spectrum “Ah-Ha’s” Brighten Your TRUE COLORS!

A small truth to make life 100%

Hard Work H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K = 98% Knowledge K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E = 96%

Love L+O+V+E = 54% Luck L+U+C+K = 47% (why is it that most of us think this is the most important ???)

Then what makes 100%? Is itMoney Is it Money?... NO ! ! ! M+O+N+E+Y = 72% Is it Leadership Is it Leadership?... NO ! ! ! L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P = 89%

Every problem has a solution, but only if we change our attitude. To go to the top and achieve 100% We really need to go further...

ATTITUDE A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E = 100% It is OUR ATTITUDE towards Life and Work that makes OUR Life = 100%

Change Your Attitude … … and You Change Your Life ! ! !

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