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Positive and safe school climate for everyone at all times. Safe Schools Law Positive and safe school climate for everyone at all times.

Stop Light of Safe and Unsafe Language For School

ONLY USE Respectful and Accepted Terminology… …Or it may mean the loss of: -your friends -the respect of others -your career!

1. What is LGBTQ ? Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Questioning

2. Sexual Orientation This is determined by the gender(s) of the people to whom we are attracted romantically and sexually.

3. Lesbian The preferred term for women who are attracted romantically and sexually to some women.

4. Gay The preferred term for men who are attracted romantically and sexually to some men. (sometimes this term also is used to describe a lesbian)

5. Bisexual A person who is attracted romantically and sexually to some men and women.

6. Transgender A person whose inner sense of gender does not match their biological sex. (video explains more…) http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=what+is+transgender&qpvt=what+is+transgender&FORM=VDRE#view=detail&mid=52110595B5BE0CEE638052110595B5BE0CEE6380 Article about Transgender Homecoming Queen, Sept-2013: http://www.addictinginfo.org/2013/09/23/transgender-girl-embraced-as-homecoming-queen-at-california-high-school-video/

7. Questioning Someone who is currently or temporarily unsure of their sexual preference.

8. Heterosexual or “straight” A person who is attracted romantically and sexually to some members of another sex.

9. Gender Role Society’s expectations about our behavior based on our biological sex.

10. Gender Identity A person’s inner sense of self as male, female or somewhere in between.

11. Ally Any non-GLBTQ person who supports and stands up for the rights of GLBTQ people.

12. Homophobia A fear or hatred of homosexuality, especially in others, but also in oneself.

13. Heterosexism The assumption that everyone is heterosexual.

14. Sexual Bullying Any bullying behavior, whether physical or non-physical, that is based on a person’s sexuality or gender. It can be carried out to a person’s face, behind their back or through the use of technology.

Sexual Bullying

Who is hurt by sexual bullying?

Girls who have been sexually harassed are more likely to have: Poor body image, loss of self esteem, anger, isolation, mistrust of the opposite sex, and being uncomfortable when talking about sex.

Males who have been sexually harassed are more likely to have: Difficulties in talking, feeling emotionally hurt, feeling uncomfortable, and experiencing anger and self-hate.

Over one in four teenagers have experienced an unwanted sexual encounter. 15.9% experienced unwanted sex because they were drunk, with higher figures for females (17.6%) than males (13.9%).

Image and Identity

Sexting

Someone taking an indecent image of themselves, and sending it to their friends or boy/girlfriend via a mobile phone or some other form of technology is sometimes referred to as ‘sexting’.

Have you thought… While you might consider ‘sexting’ to be ‘private’, once these images have been taken and sent to others, control is lost of them and they can end up anywhere.  They could be seen by friends, parents and family, a future employer, or even, in some cases, end up in the possession a sexual offender.

Sexting and Snapchat story at Ridgewood Have you thought… Sexting and Snapchat story at Ridgewood

Everyone has the right to feel respected If you consider something to be a ‘joke’, don’t always expect others to follow your view Look for positive traits in others, and keep negative opinions to yourself. Everyone is entitled to their own identity If you have genuine concerns about someone’s welfare or personal activities, it is normally best to talk these concerns over with an adult, and not only your friends. Your friends are a great source of support, but may not always feel comfortable or experienced enough to advise you.

Things to remember; think before you act! Everything you do on a text, the internet, can be traced. What trail is following you? Show empathy – how would you feel if the boot was on the other foot? Your choices impact others, make choices that don’t cause others to feel sad, hurt, or devalued.

WHO can you talk to? If you feel that any of the issues raised from the ‘sexual bullying’ sessions require further discussion, please talk to your form tutor or progress leader. If you would prefer to confide in private about anything that has been discussed, you can email a teacher or staff member anonymously.

Amanda Todd Story http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/11/amanda-todd-suicide-bullying_n_1959909.html#slide=1638500

Create Safe Spaces by Intervening When You Hear Sexual Bullying or Homophobia

Name it: Tell the person why that word/phrase is not allowed. Stop it: Tell the person who used the red light language to not say that word or phrase again. “Don’t say that word again.” Name it: Tell the person why that word/phrase is not allowed. “That was a hurtful thing to say and it is not allowed in my class/school/office.” Claim it: Tell the person why you care. “That word is offensive to me because people I care about are gay.”

ATHLETE ALLY™ was created by Hudson Taylor, a former wrestler and current coach as a resource to encourage athletes, coaches, parents, fans and other members of the sports community to respect all individuals involved in sports, regardless of perceived or actual sexual-orientation or gender identity or expression.

See the model in action Wanda Sykes (It’s not OK to say that’s so gay)

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 1 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 1. You have the right to accurate information about sexuality. Information will be given about all topics in this course so that you are ready to make healthy and informed adult decisions about sexuality.

or Sex Ed vs. Abstinence Only- what are the pros and cons of each? Do you think there are more teen moms in conservative or liberal states? Click here to find out the answer…

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 2 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 2. You have the right to express your sexuality. Sexuality is part of who you are, and you are allowed to express it in any way that does not impede the rights of others. What are some ways people express their sexuality?

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 3 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 3. You have the right to make decisions about your sexuality. You will have to decide who you have a relationship with, how you are treated in that relationship, and to plan for protection from STD’s and unwanted pregnancy if you choose to be sexually active.

Think about it… How do you know you will be treated fairly in a relationship? What would you do if you or someone you knew felt mistreated?

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 4 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 4. You have the right to protect yourself from unwanted pregnancy and STD’s. In this class we will focus on coming up with a plan if you choose to be sexually active, that will help keep you from getting STD’s or getting pregnant until you want to.

Think about it… How many methods of birth control can you think of? Work with a partner to make a short list in the next two minutes. The average # of methods seniors come up with is around 4.

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 5 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 5. You have the right to say NO to unwanted touching of any kind. You have the right to say no to unwanted, and you have the right to tell someone who can help you if someone touches you in an intimate way without your permission.

Think about it… Write about it… Who would you go to if you or a friend wanted to report unwanted touching of any kind?

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 5 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 5. You have the right to say NO to unwanted touching of any kind. You have the right to say no to unwanted touching of any kind, and you have the right to tell someone who can help you.

Think about it… Write about it… Who would you go to if you or a friend wanted to report unwanted touching of any kind?

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 6 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 6. You have the right to NOT be pressured into sexual activity or any sexual contact. Pressure and sex do not go together. EVER.

Think about it… Write about it… How would you handle it if your partner pressured you? Or if you prefer, how would you advise a friend who was given unwanted sexual pressure by a partner?

What are your“Sexual Rights. ” 7 What are your“Sexual Rights?” 7. You have the right to stop being physical or sexual with a partner at any time. It is never too late to say “No” or “Stop”. Your wishes need to be respected. Assertiveness is a big part of you taking control over your own body.

Resources Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network: www.glsen.org •GLAAD: www.glaad.org •SIECUS Sex Ed Library: www.sexedlibrary.org •Welcoming Schools: www.welcomingschools.org Sex Ed. Honestly. At answer.rutgers.edu