Is the of communication Of failed marriages.

In a recent poll of several dozen Law Firms, over are a result of social media (Facebook, Twitter, etc)

Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.”

Ecclesiastes 3:1 For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven

1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love

James 5:16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.

25 What this adds up to, then, is this: no more lies, no more pretense. Tell your neighbor the truth. In Christ's body we're all connected to each other, after all. When you lie to others, you end up lying to yourself Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don't use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don't stay angry.

Don't go to bed angry. Don't give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life. 28 Did you use to make ends meet by stealing? Well, no more! Get an honest job so that you can help others who can't work. 29 Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift. 30 Don't grieve God.

Don't break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don't take such a gift for granted. Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.

Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn't love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.

Don't allow love to turn into lust, setting off a downhill slide into sexual promiscuity, filthy practices, or bullying greed. Though some tongues just love the taste of gossip, those who follow Jesus have better uses for language than that. Don't talk dirty or silly. That kind of talk doesn't fit our style. Thanksgiving is our dialect.

Lying Words Silent Words Corrupt Words Hurtful Words Foolish Words Joking Words

Truthful Words Edifying Words Gracious Words Kind Words Tender Words Forgiving Words Thankful Words

Seek to Understand, not to be understood Proverbs 18:2 A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions.

Seek to Understand, not to be understood Realize that you may not know what you think you know

Seek to Understand, not to be understood Realize that you may not know what you think you know Don’t interrupt Proverbs 18:13 He who answers before listening that is his folly and his shame.

Seek to Understand, not to be understood Realize that you may not know what you think you know. Don’t interrupt Pay attention to non-verbal communication

Disagree without being disagreeable Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

Disagree without being disagreeable Pray for each other and with each other When you’re wrong, admit it. When you’re right, keep quiet Yield your rights Speak the truth in LOVE

Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Proverbs 15:4 The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.

Proverbs 16:24 Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Romans 14:19 Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.

Two Assumption we MUST agree to: The person is more important than the issue. It’s more important to be reconciled than to be right.

It’s ok to ask the question: “How did this conversation start?” or “Why are we talking about this?”

Call for a TIME-OUT “What I’m hearing you say is...”

Who will run to the foot of the Cross first?

No significant, critical, or deep conversation after 10:30PM

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