Friendship, Intimacy, and Singlehood Chapter 9

Chapter Overview Critical Thinking Introductory “Quiz” Thought for the Week YJU What is Love? A Series of Film Clips Depicting “Love” Consider the Following

After reading the chapter, write a question about love. I. Critical Thinking After reading the chapter, write a question about love. (2 pt. possible) Due Next Class Period

II. Introductory “Quiz”

1. The best sign of true love is that the person spends a great deal of time thinking of his or her beloved. False

2. Family and friends can know who is a better match for a person. True

3. Arranged marriages are a good idea. Define “good idea.”

4. Falling in love and staying in love are natural. False

5. When you’re really in love, you’ll know it. False

6. It is easier to fall in love than to stay in love. True

7. Being a loving person is the best way to be loved. True

8. True love means that you have no other interests outside the relationship. False

9. Older people make poor newly-weds because they can’t change. False

10. When people marry, they always get more intimate. False

III. Thought for the Week: True love is not so much a matter of romance as it is a matter of anxious concern for the well-being of one’s companion.

IV. YJU Love is a choice.

V. What is Love? Class Project: Define Love Davis and Todd: The Fabric of Friendship and The Tapestry of Love Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory

Passion Cluster Caring Cluster Fascination Sexual Desire Exclusiveness Champion/Advocate Giving the Utmost Love Friendship Enjoyment Mutual assistance Respect Spontaneity Acceptance Trust Understanding Confiding

V. What is Love? Class Project: Define Love Davis and Todd: The Fabric of Friendship and The Tapestry of Love Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory

A. Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory Diagram What is Commitment? Class Discussion A Quotation

Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory of Love

Commitment: a promise of time and energy Commitment: a promise of time and energy. Commitment in strong families means that the family as a whole is committed to seeing that each member reaches his or her potential. It does not mean that the individuals suffer so that others in the family can grow. G. H. Hinkley, 1984

VI. A Series of Film Clips Depicting “Love” Place graphic of CD here.

VI. Consider the Following: “Here is a secret that should not be kept; love is time.” (Dr. Allen Button) B. In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. Steven R. Covey The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People