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Friendship Relationships Characteristics Interpersonal relationship Mutually productive Mutual positive regard (liking, trust, support, shared interests) Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Friendship Relationships (cont.) Friendship types Reciprocity – equal Receptivity – imbalance between giver and receiver but still satisfactory (student/teacher) Association – transitory (classmates, neighbors) Friendship needs Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Friendship Relationships (cont.) Friendship and communication Relationship theories from Chapter 9 apply Three stages of friendship Contact – hesitant Involvement – dyadic consciousness Close and intimate friendship – exclusive unit; make sacrifices Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Friendship Relationships (cont.) Culture, gender, and technology Culture – collectivist cultures value frienships more than individualist cultures do Gender – women’s friendships are built on disclosure and intimacy; men’s are built on shared activities Technology – network convergence: as friends grow close, their online social networks overlap Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Love Relationships Love is a feeling characterized by closeness, caring, intimacy, passion, and commitment Love is an interpersonal relationship developed, maintained, and sometimes destroyed by communication Communication skills can enhance a love relationship Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Love Relationships (cont.) Six love types Eros – beauty and sexuality Ludus – entertainment and excitement Storge – peaceful and slow Pragma – practical and traditional Mania – elation and depression Agape – compassionate and selfless Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Love Relationships (cont.) Love and communication Personal idioms Increased self-disclosure Love, culture, gender, and technology Culture – individualist cultures value love relationships; collectivist cultures value friendship Gender – men tend to be more romantic and less realistic about love than women are Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships Family includes the children, relatives, and assorted significant others surrounding a primary relationship A primary relationship denotes the two relationship between the two principal parties Communication patterns of nuclear families apply to all forms of families Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Characteristics of families Defined roles Recognition of responsibilities Shared history and future Shared living space Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Couple types Traditional – sacrifice independence for relationship Independent – stress individuality Separate – relationship of convenience, not love Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Family types Conformity orientation – degree to which family members agree on attitudes, values, and beliefs High conformity – harmonious; children agree with parents Low conformity – greater conflict; children permitted to disagree with parents Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Family types (cont.) Conversation orientation – degree to which family members can speak their minds High conversation – discusses issues and opinions Low conversation – little discussion Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Family types (cont.) Four types Consensual – high conversation, high conformity; open communication and disagreement Protective – high conformity, low conversation; stress agreement, avoid conflict Pluralistic – low conformity, high conversation; encourages different attitudes, open communication Laissez-faire – low conformity, low conversation; avoid interaction and confrontation, value privacy Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Family and communication Equality pattern Equal share in communication transaction Equal power Equitable relationship Balanced split pattern Equal relationship but each is dominant in a specific domain Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Family and communication (cont.) Unbalanced split pattern One person is more regularly in control of the relationship More powerful – looks, expertise, money, Monopoly pattern One person is the authority, controls the other Lectures instead of communicates Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Family Relationships (cont.) Family, culture, gender, and technology (cont.) Culture and families – cultural differences influences families and family relationships Gender and families – in some cultures only males can dissolve a marriage Technology and families – in some cases, technology contributes to decreased family communication Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Work Relationships Types of workplace communication Lateral communication – between equals Upward communication – lower to upper levels in the hierarchy Downward communication – higher to lower levels Grapevine messages – don’t follow formal lines; not yet public, more interpersonal messages Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Work Relationships (cont.) Networking relationships Informal – everyday interactions Formal – systematic and strategic Mentoring relationships Crucial for rising in hierarchy and developing skills Can be online Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Work Relationships (cont.) Romantic relationships at work Advantages Easy place to meet romantic partner Can lead to greater work satisfaction Disadvantages Can cause negative gossip Can cause problems for managers Can cause problems for one-sided romances or after a break-up Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

The Dark Side of Interpersonal Relationships Jealousy – a feeling in reaction to a threat to a relationship. Parts of jealousy Cognitive – suspicious thinking and worrying Emotional Behavioral Dealing with jealousy Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Dark Side of Relationships (cont.) Bullying Verbal or physical A pattern Not illegal Cyberbullying Dealing with bullying Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Dark Side of Relationships (cont.) Violence Verbal or emotional Physical Sexual Dealing with violence Copyright © 2013, 2009, 2006 Pearson Education, Inc. All Rights Reserved