Surviving and Thriving in a Competitive World Brig Rashid Qayyum Consultant Psychiatrist HoD Dept of Mental Health CMH Peshawar Mullah naseerud din, stress on joining cadet college, Cultural shock, linguistic barriers, adjustment issues, yahaan pehli raat sub kay sar mein dard hota hay, peer pressures, Boys boys happy news ……left to go home.

Barriers in Success External Barriers Internal Barriers Language & Cultural Barrier Peer Pressures Distractions Expectations of Parent/Teachers Financial Problems Difficulties in educational Learning Load shedding Internal Barriers Home sickness Adjustment Issues Anxiety/Depression Poor Health Lack of confidence Poor study Habits Procrastination/ inability to decide

Set Your Goals What do you want to be? What do you want to do? What do you want to have?

Strengthen your Goals Decide exactly what you want in each area of your life. Write it down, clearly and in detail. Study and review your goals everyday to be sure that they are still your most important goals.

What is Stress? The human reaction to events in our environment. There are two kinds of stress; Eustress; the motivational stress that helps us to study for exams, to prepare for coming challenges. Distress; this is a higher level of stress to which your mind and body starts to respond negatively, like difficult work environment etc.

Identification of Stress Behavioral Symptoms Emotional Symptoms Physical Symptoms

Management of Stress Emotion focused Coping Problem Focused Coping Preventing Unnecessary Stress

Enhance your Reading Skills PQRST Preview Question Read Summarize Test

The Time Management Matrix Urgent Not Urgent Important Projects with Deadlines Reaching Exam Centre Crises intervention Planning & Preparing for the Exams Not Important Attending concerts SMS, Attending to the call of others. Activities such as video games , Voice Chat,

Emotional Intelligence Ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others Emotional Intelligence accounts for more success and Happiness in life than Intellectual Intelligence. Empathy , an essential component of Win Win Situation. Learn to say NO Man is a social animal.

Communication Skills Verbal V/S Non verbal Speaking Listening Writing Reading

Mindfulness A state of active, open attention on the present, observing your thoughts and feelings from a distance, without judging them good or bad. A tool for good physical and Psychological wellbeing

Stress Management cont… Look after your Health Make good friends Develop hobbies Take timeout for YOUR OWN SELF Reflection Follow the Principles of Ethics Strengthening link with Almighty Allah Success is not key to happiness but happiness is key to success.

THE GUEST HOUSE By Jalaal ud Din Rumi

MAY ALLAH GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CAN NOT CHANGE; COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.

Thank you

Aim & Objectives of Life Education (Key to Success) Profession Games and Hobbies Family Person as a whole

The Time Management Matrix

THE GUEST HOUSE This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice. meet them at the door laughing and invite them in. Be grateful for whatever comes. because each has been sent as a guide from beyond. -- Jelaluddin Rumi,     translation by Coleman Barks

Planning n then executing with Perseveration Clarity of goals Planning n then executing with Perseveration Cognitive v/s emotional intelligence Interpersonal relationship, Man is a social animal. Win win skill, (learn empathy) Reflection Mindfulness What sort of person you want to be Peer pressures. Long burmudas. Abba ki nikar pehan ayey ho. Apnay abba ki pehney hay tumharay abba ki to nahin.

Education, key to success Survival Skills Critical Thinking Adaptability skills. Peer pressures, drugs, values, ethics. Communication skills; listening, speaking, writing & reading Self Assessment Optimism

Stress management skills Problem focused v/s emotion focused coping Time management Look after your health, (physical,psychological,social & Spiritual) Ethics, Principles, Norms, responsibilities as parent, teacher, student, human being Faith