Loneliness
Being Lonely Feeling lonely means NOT feeling like you are a part of a group, large or small. Feel overlooked altogether and want to feel included Can get mixed up with rejection- not the same thing!
Feeling alone means: Being alone differs from being lonely because one CHOOSES to be alone. Spending time alone by choice can be relaxing, or a time for reflecting and thinking about attitudes, goals, life, etc. Doesn’t necessarily mean you are being rejected. It’s good to enjoy your own company sometimes!
Rejection is Means that others prefer not to be with you. When you try to join, you are shut out. Some lonely teens never get rejected because they may not even try to join a group. Deep & long-lasting. Suffered by those who are different from the average in their health, intelligence, appearance, or behavior.
Some reasons for rejection are: Physical Handicaps- Why? Super Smart Learning Disabilities Ethnic Origins Religious beliefs Gender Geography (where you live) Family Income Skill Level Inappropriate Behaviors Family Structures
Case Examples
Have you ever been affected by any of these? If so, What? Did you ever reject other because of these? If so, Why?
The Challenges of Loss
Usually the word “death” pops into our head. Although it is the ultimate loss– there are others in our lives that have an impact on us. Some could be: Death, Failure, Moving, Employment, Divorce, Freedom Loss comes to us all
1) Denial 2) Anger 3) Bargaining 4) Depression 5) Acceptance The 5 Stages of Dealing with Loss are:
Think about an injury you had– did you feel it at first? The body allows one to get help! It does the following: Functions as a buffer after unexpected shocking news Allows victim time to collect himself/herself Mobilizes other less radical defenses Serves as a temporary defense and will soon be replaced by partial acceptance Denial
When denial cannot be maintained any longer. Difficult stage because it’s dispersed in all directions– person could be angry at anything and everything! Anger
Usually only a brief period of time. Reaction could include: Striving for an agreement which may postpone the inevitable Making agreements with others and kept a secret Making agreements with someone to change the situtaion Bargaining
Usually due to: Changes or losses experienced Impending loss or confrontation with death Necessary and beneficial because the person needs to be able to accept the situation and live in peace. Depression
Comes when someone has had enough time to work through other stages. Characteristics are: Being devoid of feelings Feeling that the struggle is over Accepting of one’s fate Acceptance
They are HEALTHY & NECESSARY to help with coping after a loss. These 5 stages are known as defense mechanisms.