The mentally healthy self Authenticity/ realness Firm Sense of Identity Deserving of (love and happiness) Satisfaction of basic security and esteem needs Aliveness (feeling life Energy) Lead to feelings of Appropriate to life (effectiveness) Operate from a loving attitude (trust and confidence in others)

Self and types of awareness Sub-conscious Egotism Self-protection (care, maintenance) Basic security and executive control Emotionality (trust, self-deception) Practical Cognitive Spiritual Self and types of awareness

CORE & SATELLITE NEEDS OF THE SELF Basic Security & self esteem: efficacy, competence, control Self-worth, self-respect, valued by others, integrity Love, care, approval, acceptance Aloneness versus togetherness Significance, recognition, being under-stood Solitude & company

Pultchik’s emotion wheel Love Joy Acceptance Optimism Submission Anticipation Fear Aggressiveness Awe Anger Disgust Sadness Surprise Contempt Disappointment Remorse

The Cycle of Depression Triggers Losses: Being rejected or made fun of; Being disliked; Having a chronic illness; Parents’ divorce; Family problems Thoughts Things will never get better. I’m a failure. Nobody likes me. My life is doomed. I’m worthless. Physical Responses Low energy; Crying; Poor appetite; Insomnia; Poor memory; Trouble concentrating; Weight loss/gain Feelings Hopeless: Despair; Gloom; Sad; Lonely; Rejected; Worthless; Upset; Discouraged; Somber; Disheartened Behaviors Being inactive; Skipping school, Moping around; Not talking; Self-harm; Withdrawal; Substance use/abuse

The Cycle of Anger Thoughts Triggers Everyone is out to get me. Leave me alone. Life is unfair. I can't change. I'll hurt you first. I resent that. I don't care. Triggers Being rejected or made fun of; Poverty; Emotional/physical pain; Cents' divorce; Loss; Chronic illness; Family problems Physical Responses Tight muscles; Clenched fists; Rapid heartbeat; Increased blood pressure; Sweating; Shaking; Trouble breathing Feelings Irritable; Aggravated; Hopeless; Rageful; Hurt; Rejected; Hate; Annoyed; Perturbed; Exasperated; Riled up Behaviors Frequent fighting; Substance use/abuse; Self-harm; Arguing; Blaming others; Being defensive; Throwing things

The Cycle of Anxiety Triggers Thoughts This is really scary. Disasters; Life changes (moving, death); Speaking in public; Automobile accident; Chronic illness; Physical/emotional pain Thoughts This is really scary. I can't handle this. Something bad will happen. I'm helpless. People always make fun of me. I'll be too embarrassed. Physical Responses Tight muscles; Rapid heartbeat; Increased blood pressure; Sweating; Flushed cheeks; Shortness of breath Feelings Afraid; Nervous; Irritable; Confused; Panicky; Tense; Apprehensive; Helpless; Embarrassed; Shaky Behaviors Skipping; Avoiding situations; Perfectionism; Substance use/abuse; Becoming dependent on others; Making up excuses

The Cycle of Low Self-Esteem Triggers Being picked on or made fun of; Multiple failures; Frequent, negative feedback; Many losses; Unemployment Thoughts I'm doomed. I don't care. What's the point? I can't do anything right. I'm helpless. I'll fail anyway so I give up. Physical Responses Chronic fatigue; Poor appetite; Headaches; Sleeping too much; Crying; Difficulty concentrating; Poor body posture Feelings Discouraged; Sad; Rejected; Lonely; Unsure; Demoralized; Overwhelmed; Frustrated Behaviors Giving up; Being inactive; Not completing schoolwork; Becoming dependent on others; Substance use/abuse