Dealing with Bullying BCMS

STOP. WALK. TALK. PROGRAM

Bully Prevention: 3 Step Response: Step 1: STOP When students experience a problem behavior or they see another student experiencing a problem behavior, they will put their hand up in a “stop signal” and they will say, “Stop” Examples when to use Stop response: Johnny pokes Sally in the back over and over while in line. Susie teases Sally and calls her a bad name. Joey tackles Sam while playing two-hand touch football. Sam steals the ball away from Fred when they are not playing a game that involves stealing.

Examples when Not to use Stop response: Johnny accidentally breaks the double-dribble rule in basketball. Kelly makes a suggestion for a game that Fred does not like. Sam steals the ball away from Fred when they are playing basketball: a game where stealing is appropriate. Sally continues to poke Susie in line, even after Susie has delivered the stop signal. If students are asked to “Stop” they should: 1.Stop what they are doing. 2.Take a deep breath and count to 3. 3.Go on with your day.

Step 2: WALK AWAY When students have tried “stop” and the problem behavior continues, they will “Walk Away” from the problem behavior. By walking away you remove yourself from the problem behavior. Step 3: TALK Students should “Talk” to an adult when they have tried the “Stop signal” and “Walk Away” but the problem behavior continues. Talking" is when you have tried to solve the problem yourself, and have used the "stop" and "walk" steps first: Did you request "stop"? Did you "walk away"? Tattling is when you do not use the "stop" and "walk away" steps before "talking" to an adult. Tattling is when your goal is to get the other person in trouble. TALKING VS TATTLING

Adults will respond to students like this: 1.Adult will ask what the problem is. 2.Adult will ask the student if they said “stop”. 3.Adults will ask the student if they “walked away” calmly. Role Play using STOP-WALK-TALK: Students can come up with their own situations or teacher can come up with situations.

Reasons The bully is someone others look up to and want to hang out with. They want to “side” with the bully because to do that makes them feel strong.

Reasons They’re entertained by the bullying. They don’t think speaking up will help. They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will turn on them.

Why do those who might be bullied not step in to help others who are bullied? Why do students not talk or tell adults? Why would it be important for others to step in and be the person to say “Stop” on gossip?

Bully Starts the bullying and takes an active partFollower/Henchman Takes an active part, but does not start the bullying Supporter Supports the bullying but does not take an active part Passive Supporter (Possible Bully) Likes the bullying but does not display open support Disengaged Onlooker Possible Defender Dislikes the bullying and thinks he ought to help but doesn’t Defender of the Victim Dislikes the bullying and helps or tries to help the victim

Remember the golden rule: Treat others the way you want to be treated. Stand up for someone when he or she needs it, and when you need it, someone will stand up for you.