AFTERNOON CONSTRUCTED RESPONSE PROMPT: Why do people stay in bullying, sexually-harassing, or abusive relationships? Why don’t they just leave or break up? Express your opinion and use reasons, details, examples, and specifics as evidence.

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6 th Grade: Bystanders Recognize and define the role of a bystander in bullying Understand how a bystander can be a part of the problem or part of the solution Apply empathic concern and perspective taking Identify ways to be part of the solution to bullying

What Would You Want Us To Do? 4W Be there to help you out and help you talk to the bully. 1E Go tell the counselor for me or with me. 2W Stay out of my business?? (Why is this a poor solution?) 3E Tell the bully to stop it and warn that they are going to tell about it. 1W Tell the bully to knock it off, it is hurting our feelings, please stop, etc. 2E Stand with us, not for us. Have our back rather than do it for us. 3W Help me, stop the bully, ask him/her to stop 4E None

7 th Grade: Sexual Harassment Recognize and define sexual harassment Differentiate between flirting or joking and sexual harassment Apply assertiveness skills to refuse sexual harassment Understand their school’s sexual harassment policy and legal implications

Discuss: Expectation of maturity/against the law Review Definition: Sexual harassment is when a student is bothered with words, actions, or pictures of a sexual nature, or about being male or female, so that he or she does not feel safe.

2. Discuss With A Front/Back or Shoulder Partner: What’s the difference between flirting/just playing and sexual harassment?

FlirtingSexual Harassment welcome attentionnot welcome goes both waysone- sided you feel flattered or neutral you feel uncomfortable you feel in controlyou feel powerless legalillegal

Types of Sexual Harassment Words: Written or verbal comments about someone’s body and/or sexual activity Tone of voice Actions: Suggestive or rude sounds or gestures Unwanted physical contact Pictures: Showing photos, drawings, or symbols of sexual nature

3. Now Write On Your Own Paper: What’s the difference between flirting/just playing and sexual harassment (SH)? Is pantsing SH? Is Purple Nerple SH? Is touching someone’s bum SH? Why or why not. Answer completely.

4. Watch video: Middle School ProjectMiddle School Project (10 min.) Respond: How can we minimize sexual harassment in the world around us?

8 th Grade: Bullying in dating Relationships Recognize and identify bullying within dating relationships Understand what they can do about bullying within dating relationships Identify strategies to assess risk and safely avoid bullying in dating relationships

8 th Grade: Bullying in dating Relationships Recognize and identify bullying within dating relationships Understand what they can do about bullying within dating relationships Identify strategies to assess risk and safely avoid bullying in dating relationships

5 Adjectives About the Audio: 1w threatened, ballistic, mad, bad, hurt 1e scary, rude, harsh, mean, aggressive 2w mean, sad, annoyed, irritated, bossy 2e mean, upset, rude, scared, annoyed 3w hurt, MAD, 3e aggressive, mean, bossy, rude, annoying 4w upset, angry, miserable, low-esteemy 4e hurt, mad, furious, frustrated, fed-up

electronic dating violence “emotional or psychological harm in a romantic relationship perpetrated through the use of computers, cell phones, or other electronic devices.”

Dating Bullying We Have Seen in Real Life or On TV/Movies/Videos: We had none to share

2. Second Step Lesson 7 BREAK UP WITH MY PARTNER,

Partner/Table Discussion: Why do people stay in bullying or abusive relationships anyway? Why don’t they just leave or break up?

People stay in abusive/bullying relationships because: 1. the abuser has pushed their self-esteem down so far they don’t believe they deserve better. 2. The bully is threatening to hurt them or loved ones. 3. they have no financial means of support on their own 4. they don’t know they are being bullied/manipulated/controlled/lied to. 5. they love the bully. THIS IS WHY THE VICTIM NEEDS OUR SUPPORT AND MAYBE EVEN A SAFE PLACE TO GO OR HIDE

If there is anything about the relationship that is frightening, find a way to leave the relationship. Remember, it is your right to say “No.” It doesn’t just happen to girls! No one should treat you this way. If you think you are already in an Abusive relationship, get help. Go to the Student Counseling Center for for information about hotlines, adults, groups, etc. that can help.