Sex and Relationships Education Parents/carers workshop Thameside Primary School 4 th June 2013

Starting point: Most parents want the best for their children. Most parents want to protect their children and to keep them safe. Most parents want their children to be healthy and happy. Schools do too………………………SRE is part of this

Innocence

Where did YOU learn about Sex and Relationships? Parents? Friends? School? Magazines? Television? ?????? Was the information accurate? Were there any myths? Did anything you heard frighten you? Did you understand it all?

Where do children now learn about Sex and Relationships? Parents/carers? Friends? School? Lessons/playground? Magazines? Television? INTERNET? MOBILE PHONES? What would be our preferred options?

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What is sex and relationships education? It is lifelong learning about physical, moral and emotional development. It is about the understanding of the importance of marriage for family life, stable and loving relationships, respect, love and care. It is also about the teaching of sex, sexuality, and sexual health. It is not about the promotion of sexual activity – this would be inappropriate teaching. (Department for Children, School and Families)

The main aims for SRE in our local Schools 1.To enable young people to understand and respect their bodies, and be able to cope with the changes puberty brings (without fear)

2.To help young people develop positive and healthy relationships appropriate to their age, development etc (respect for self and others)

3.To support young people to have positive self and body-image, and to understand the influences and pressures around them (to be themselves)

4.To make informed choices when they are considering starting a sexual relationship, so that they keep themselves safe and don’t find themselves with an unplanned pregnancy or sexually transmitted infection

National Curriculum Science Key Stage 1 Pupils should be taught: That animals, including humans, move, feed, grow, use their senses and reproduce (Sc1b) To recognise and compare the main external parts of the bodies of humans (2a) That animals and humans can reproduce offspring and these grow into adults (2f) To recognise similarities and differences between themselves and others and treat others with sensitivity (4a)

National Curriculum Science Pupils should be taught: About main stages of the human life cycle (Sc2, 2f); About human reproduction (Sc2, 2a) Key Stage 2

Parents have the legal right to withdraw their children from the SRE included in the PSHE Education curriculum (as that is non-statutory), But not from the Sex Education included in the National Curriculum Science Orders

Under 18 conceptions Bournemouth Reading The latest quarterly average of 41.7 pregnancies per 1,000 in Reading is the lowest recorded since 1998.

Sexually Transmitted Infections in young people year olds = 12% of population in England 70% of diagnosed STIs are in this age group (Health Protection Agency)

Rates of diagnoses of uncomplicated genital chlamydial infection by sex and age group, GUM clinics, United Kingdom: 1999 – 2008 Routine GUM clinic returns MalesFemales

What is PSHE Education? Personal Social Health Economic Education

“Effective PSHE Education should equip children and young people with the knowledge, understanding, attitudes and practical skills to live healthy, safe, productive and fulfilled lives.” Sir Alasdair Macdonald (Independent Review….PSHEe 2009)

“beyond this … PSHEe is also about developing young people’s sense of identity, their capacity to relate to other people and handle setbacks….it is about developing the personal, social and emotional attitudes that will help them flourish in life and work” Sir Alasdair Macdonald (Independent Review….PSHEe 2009)

PSHE Education in Primary Schools now (KS1 and 2) 1.Self awareness and self-confidence 2.Being safe and Healthy (SRE/Drugs/Alcohol) 3.Becoming an active citizen 4.Respecting self, others and relationships (similarity and difference/anti-bullying) (Non statutory framework 2000)

Key Stages 3 and 4 SRE content… Contraception Sexually Transmitted Infections /HIV Pregnancy Body Image Abortion Influences Emotional Health Sexuality Safer sex Delaying sex Regret Aspiration Relationships Abstinence

Our Primary Curriculum Model

Core Universal Curriculum Provision New Beginnings Getting on and Falling Out Say No to Bullying Going for Goals Good to be Me Relationships Changes

So what do we teach about Sex and Relationships in our Primary Schools through the Rainbow Scheme of Work? All in the context of the whole PSHEE curriculum and underpinned by the value system of the school ie valuing loving, stable relationships, respect for each other etc.

The full Rainbow picture Year 1 Changes: Thinking about changes we have already experienced eg starting school. What can I do now and how do I feel about changes happening? Change is normal. Good to be me: Being safe: personal hygiene, diseases, safe use of medicine.

The full Rainbow picture Year 2 Changes: Changing our behaviour, habits, group problem solving. We have choices about our own behaviour. Respect for others. Good to be me: My special body, naming body parts.

The full Rainbow picture Year 3 Changes: Changes happen to us all. Sometimes these are uncomfortable. I can cope with change and the feelings it brings. Body changes in puberty (DVD Unit 1,Prog 3 Growing Up)

The full Rainbow picture Year 4 Changes: Feelings about change. Understanding difficult changes and how they make me feel and behave. Emotion vocabulary. Link between situation/thoughts/feelings and behaviour. Body changes in puberty (Unit 2,Prog 4)

The full Rainbow picture Year 5 Changes : Responses to change, positive and tricky. Our emotional sore spots. Body changes in boys and girls during puberty (Unit 3, Prog 7 Girl Talk, Prog 8 Boy Talk) Boys and girls all have this lesson. Enhanced Changes: Girls only lesson (possibly with school nurse) Managing Periods Boys only lesson, changes in puberty for boys How babies are made, (Unit 2, Prog 5) (sexual intercourse/ sex is a special form of touching for adults in loving relationships ) Staying safe Stereotyping

The full Rainbow picture Year 6 Changes: Changing schools/changing needs as you get older. Fear of change/feelings/thoughts/behaviour Body and emotional changes during puberty for boys and girls. Enhanced Changes: How babies are born ( Unit2, Prog 6 ) Keeping myself safe

Any questions or concerns?

Living and Growing DVD clips… Year 1: No clips or lessons used Year 2: No clips used. Year 3: Growing Up (changes in puberty) (Unit 1, Prog 3) Year 4: Changes (Unit 2, Prog 4) (clitoris) Year 5: Girl Talk (Puberty ) (Unit 3, Prog 7) Boy Talk (Puberty) (Unit 3, Prog 8) (masturbation, wet dreams, erections) How babies are made (sexual intercourse) (Unit 2, Prog 5) Year 6: How babies are born (footage of live birth) (Unit 2, Prog 6)

Starting point: Most parents want the best for their children. Most parents want to protect their children and to keep them safe. Most parents want their children to be healthy and happy. Schools do too………………………SRE is part of this

Any questions?

A final thought… A People Place If this is not a place where tears are understood, Where do I go to cry? If this is not a place where my spirits can take wing, Where do I go to fly? If this is not a place where my questions can be asked, Where do I go to seek? If this is not a place where my feelings can be heard, Where do I go to speak? If this is not a place where you’ll accept me as I am, Where can I go to be? If this is not a place where I can try to learn and grow, Where can I be just me? William J Crocker