1 Harold Church, Stoughton In the year 1653, when all things sacred throughout the land were being destroyed or being profaned this church was built for the glory of God by Sir Robert Shirley whose singular praise it was to have done the best of things in the worst of times

2 1. Challenges that can come our way ME God TraditionalRadical Human nature ColleaguesAuthority Family

3 We cope - escape God - stop praying Traditional/Radical - fail to love all Colleagues - withdraw Authority - ignore Family - neglect Human nature - ignore needs

4 We give way.... God - fail to link God with reality Traditional/Radical - uncritical identification Colleagues - spend too much time on them Authority - excessive defference Family - into safe warmth Human Nature - allow fantasy world to develop

5 By insulating ourselves Building a tough exterior Adopt worldly methods of leadership Try to control everything

6 Escape Into new work Into fantasy Into ‘burn out’ Into breakdown

7 Acceptance Self knowledge God knowledge

8 Idealisation Deprivation Compensation Competition Idolisation Depression

Hope and disappointment in ministry

10 Proverbs Can lead to oppression and depression In every disappointment there is a vulnerability Hope is to our spiritual well being what the immune system is to our bodies

11 Hope Hope is the joyful anticipation of the goodness of God and any area of our lives that does not joyfully anticipate the goodness of God is under the influence of a lie

12 Luke I have prayed that your faith may not fail

13 What do we do? Look to Jesus - Hebrews 12 - Mark 4.35 Jesus is holding it altogether

14 Attention - listening with respect Incisive questions - removing assumptions that limit ideas Equality - treating each other as thinking peers/giving equal turns and attention Appreciation - practicing 5 to 1 - appreciation to criticism Ease - offering freedom from rush or urgency Encouragement - moving beyond competition Feelings - allowing sufficient emotional release to restore thinking Information - providing full and accurate picture of reality Place - creating a physical environment that says - you matter Diversity - adding quality because of the differences between us

15 Manage your energy - not only your time Organisations are demanding ever higher performance from their work force - people are trying to comply but the usual method of putting in more hours has failed - they’re getting exhausted, disengaged and sick - they are defecting to healthier jobs

16 The idea in practice Enhance your sleep by setting earlier bedtime and reducing alcahol levels Reduce stress by engaging in cardio vascular activity at least three times a week - strength training at least once Eat small meals and light snacks every three hours Learn to notice energy loss Take brief breaks away from you desk every mins Physical energy

17 Defuse negative emotional emotions Fuel positive emotions in yourself and others by expressing regular appreciation Look at upsetting situations through new lenses Emotional energy

18 Reduce interruptions by performing high concentration tasks away from phone and Respond to voice mails and s at designated times of the day Every night identify the most important challenge for the next day and make it your first priority when you arrive at work Mental energy

19 Identify your sweet spot activities - those that give you feelings of effortless absorption and fulfillment Allocate time with the Lord to receive Live your core values Spiritual energy

20 How companies can help Build renewal rooms Subsidize gym membership Encourage managers to gather employees for midday workouts Suggest that people stop checking s during meetings